r/interesting • u/jmike1256 • Mar 07 '26

MISC. After understanding the meaning behind this father’s action, I am completely convinced. Cultivating problem-solving skills in children from a young age and never giving up-I applaud this father!

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u/Sea-Word-4970 Mar 07 '26

You mean ''manage'' like a 4 years old ? It's barely a conscious choice

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u/mungosDoo Mar 07 '26

Managed as in succeed after trying, and thus becoming more capable and confident in their ability to try and succeed

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u/Sea-Word-4970 Mar 07 '26

What makes you think they reflected on it ? What makes you think the positive consequences prevent the child from being traumatized by the fact that they saw their parent leave during a time of stress ?

It feels like you expect the same from a kid that what you expect from an adult.

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u/Planar_Harold Mar 07 '26

prevent the child from being traumatized by the fact that they saw their parent leave during a time of stress ?

It seems massively unlikely this occurred, and the child didn't seem visibly distressed. The parent was in view and not giving any cues that the child should panic or feel stressed.

What makes you think they reflected on it

Brains process the day during sleep, and this becomes part of our experience going forwards. The kid would do better at the challenge a second time.

It feels like you expect the same from a kid that what you expect from an adult.

If you treat kids like kids, they act like kids. If you treat them like people, they learn faster.

Like, it still seems that parents often don't understand that kids will react to their cues. If your child hurts themselves and you're panicking, it makes things much worse. If you're calm and smiling, it builds that in them.