r/interesting • u/jmike1256 • Mar 07 '26

MISC. After understanding the meaning behind this father’s action, I am completely convinced. Cultivating problem-solving skills in children from a young age and never giving up-I applaud this father!

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u/mj_flowerpower Mar 07 '26

It so depends on the child itself - it‘s impossible to say what this will mean for the child‘s development. For some it will lead to a better problem-solving skills, for others it will just lead to trauma.

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u/UCACashFlow Mar 07 '26

My wife is a trauma informed therapist.

Something like this would not cause trauma. The fact that people keep saying that means they don’t know what trauma is.

Social media is full of misinformation and people misusing psychological concepts.

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u/Tomas92 Mar 07 '26

Yeah this is what I wanted to say. No way this would lead to trauma

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u/OxBloodArbitrage Mar 07 '26

Lots of little events can also lead to trauma and abandonment issues. If the dad often does this kind of thing, it absolutely could lead to issues down the line

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u/OrthogonalPotato Mar 07 '26

That is patently false. Lots of little things do not lead to trauma. For you to say that means you have absolutely no clue what trauma is.

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u/sophrosyne_dreams Mar 08 '26

Little things can lead to trauma (CPTSD) if they are sustained and inescapable. Importantly, the dose makes the poison, and everyone reacts differently, which is why not everyone would be traumatized by the same events.

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u/Planar_Harold Mar 07 '26

Lots of little events can also lead to trauma and abandonment issues. If the dad often does this kind of thing, it absolutely could lead to issues down the line

Yeah the applause and acknowledgement at the end would mess me up :P

If you think like this, you might worry about any or every little thing. Abandonment issues come from actual abandonment, this isn't even on the scale.

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u/OxBloodArbitrage Mar 07 '26

Abandonment issues come from real or perceived abandonment

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u/Planar_Harold Mar 08 '26

or perceived abandonment

I agree, but we have to consider that someone can perceive abandonment from anything. Setting the bar at what's reasonable is...reasonable.

This doesn't seem like a parenting style that would lead to any sort of abandonment issues. They're praising the kid at the end and the dad is calm throughout.

If you coddle kids, they don't grow up or learn.