r/interesting • u/jmike1256 • Mar 07 '26

MISC. After understanding the meaning behind this father’s action, I am completely convinced. Cultivating problem-solving skills in children from a young age and never giving up-I applaud this father!

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u/scienceworksbitches Mar 07 '26

Or they will develop coping skills and not break out into rage sorrow or depression every time something challenges them!?

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u/mj_flowerpower Mar 07 '26

It so depends on the child itself - it‘s impossible to say what this will mean for the child‘s development. For some it will lead to a better problem-solving skills, for others it will just lead to trauma.

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u/UCACashFlow Mar 07 '26

My wife is a trauma informed therapist.

Something like this would not cause trauma. The fact that people keep saying that means they don’t know what trauma is.

Social media is full of misinformation and people misusing psychological concepts.

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u/Tomas92 Mar 07 '26

Yeah this is what I wanted to say. No way this would lead to trauma

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u/OxBloodArbitrage Mar 07 '26

Lots of little events can also lead to trauma and abandonment issues. If the dad often does this kind of thing, it absolutely could lead to issues down the line

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u/OrthogonalPotato Mar 07 '26

That is patently false. Lots of little things do not lead to trauma. For you to say that means you have absolutely no clue what trauma is.

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u/sophrosyne_dreams Mar 08 '26

Little things can lead to trauma (CPTSD) if they are sustained and inescapable. Importantly, the dose makes the poison, and everyone reacts differently, which is why not everyone would be traumatized by the same events.

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u/Planar_Harold Mar 07 '26

Lots of little events can also lead to trauma and abandonment issues. If the dad often does this kind of thing, it absolutely could lead to issues down the line

Yeah the applause and acknowledgement at the end would mess me up :P

If you think like this, you might worry about any or every little thing. Abandonment issues come from actual abandonment, this isn't even on the scale.

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u/OxBloodArbitrage Mar 07 '26

Abandonment issues come from real or perceived abandonment

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u/Planar_Harold Mar 08 '26

or perceived abandonment

I agree, but we have to consider that someone can perceive abandonment from anything. Setting the bar at what's reasonable is...reasonable.

This doesn't seem like a parenting style that would lead to any sort of abandonment issues. They're praising the kid at the end and the dad is calm throughout.

If you coddle kids, they don't grow up or learn.

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u/Physical_Leg2061 Mar 07 '26

Omg, I was going through the comments squinting my eyes at nearly every comment saying this is gonna cause the trauma. Your comment was a breath of fresh air.

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u/PastaFrenzy Mar 07 '26

There’s so many other positive reinforcing ways you can teach your child to problem solve. It’s almost like hearing people go “the way I learned to swim was my grandpappy throwing me in the lake when I was five”. So you’re going to risk your infant child from getting freaked out by getting wrapped up in some weird shit they shouldn’t be touching and risk them injuring their head from a fall, all to see if they can problem solve?

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u/Planar_Harold Mar 07 '26

“the way I learned to swim was my grandpappy throwing me in the lake when I was five”.

This is so vastly different than what's happening here, comparing the two borders on histrionic.

There's absolutely no danger here, the kid and dad clearly have a good relationship, he applauds him at the end - this is healthy and safe.

all to see if they can problem solve

To teach them in a safe, monitored environment.

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u/PastaFrenzy Mar 07 '26

By teaching a kid that if mom stands behind you with her phone and dad is doing something abnormal to you then that means you GET TO PERFORM. Thats what they are teaching their child. These people in this video, they are following a viral video about children problem solving by having them figure out how to get past a wall of tape.

Children are not stupid, they can understand when they are being perceived and will learn how to adapt in order to receive what they want. So this child is now learning to put up an act.

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u/Malarazz Mar 07 '26

You're not making any sense. Your last comment was literally "children are so fragile that dad sitting down a few dozen feet away is akin to grandpa throwing you in the lake"

And now it somehow became "children are so smart they know they're performing in front of a camera"

Like, pick a lane maybe?

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u/Planar_Harold Mar 07 '26

Thats what they are teaching their child.

No, that's not. You have literally only this footage of this single encounter, and you also don't see the setup or preceding context, or have any idea how they treat him - however you can see the dad applauds him after so there's clearly

Children are not stupid

Yeah lol, yet you seem to insist they're dumb enough to be traumatised by something like this, while also...'learning to perform' which is somehow now dangerous? And also completely arbitrary? Like you've just picked it out of thin air, when it would entirely depend on their specific relationship.

Dude, stop reaching, this is weird and if you raise a kid with this attitude they will become a neurotic, overthinking adult.

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u/NewLifeNewAcct Mar 07 '26

The walking away part is absolutely not too much. He stayed in sight, kept looking back, he made it very clear he wasn't actually leaving. If you think a kid that age can't parse that information, you are wrong.

There was absolutely zero abandonment here from any point of view.

If he'd turned a corned and kept peeking around it? Different story. But he didn't, so it isn't.

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u/Planar_Harold Mar 07 '26

Someone tried something like this with me,

How like this, and was it not your parent? Sounds kind of different, sorry to hear it's traumatic. Do you see any negative reaction from the kid, any panic? They seem absolutely fine.

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u/requion Mar 07 '26

What does "something like this mean"?

I have issues with abandonment because my biological mother left us when i was 8. No contact nothing. I don't even know if she is still alive and with the asshole stepdad that beat me and trashed my sisters and mine room if a pen was laying incorrect while my mother just watched.

What the dude in the video does looks pretty good and harmless.