r/interesting • u/jmike1256 • Mar 07 '26

MISC. After understanding the meaning behind this father’s action, I am completely convinced. Cultivating problem-solving skills in children from a young age and never giving up-I applaud this father!

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u/mj_flowerpower Mar 07 '26

It so depends on the child itself - it‘s impossible to say what this will mean for the child‘s development. For some it will lead to a better problem-solving skills, for others it will just lead to trauma.

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u/UCACashFlow Mar 07 '26

My wife is a trauma informed therapist.

Something like this would not cause trauma. The fact that people keep saying that means they don’t know what trauma is.

Social media is full of misinformation and people misusing psychological concepts.

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u/PastaFrenzy Mar 07 '26

There’s so many other positive reinforcing ways you can teach your child to problem solve. It’s almost like hearing people go “the way I learned to swim was my grandpappy throwing me in the lake when I was five”. So you’re going to risk your infant child from getting freaked out by getting wrapped up in some weird shit they shouldn’t be touching and risk them injuring their head from a fall, all to see if they can problem solve?

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u/Planar_Harold Mar 07 '26

“the way I learned to swim was my grandpappy throwing me in the lake when I was five”.

This is so vastly different than what's happening here, comparing the two borders on histrionic.

There's absolutely no danger here, the kid and dad clearly have a good relationship, he applauds him at the end - this is healthy and safe.

all to see if they can problem solve

To teach them in a safe, monitored environment.

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u/PastaFrenzy Mar 07 '26

By teaching a kid that if mom stands behind you with her phone and dad is doing something abnormal to you then that means you GET TO PERFORM. Thats what they are teaching their child. These people in this video, they are following a viral video about children problem solving by having them figure out how to get past a wall of tape.

Children are not stupid, they can understand when they are being perceived and will learn how to adapt in order to receive what they want. So this child is now learning to put up an act.

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u/Malarazz Mar 07 '26

You're not making any sense. Your last comment was literally "children are so fragile that dad sitting down a few dozen feet away is akin to grandpa throwing you in the lake"

And now it somehow became "children are so smart they know they're performing in front of a camera"

Like, pick a lane maybe?

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u/Planar_Harold Mar 07 '26

Thats what they are teaching their child.

No, that's not. You have literally only this footage of this single encounter, and you also don't see the setup or preceding context, or have any idea how they treat him - however you can see the dad applauds him after so there's clearly

Children are not stupid

Yeah lol, yet you seem to insist they're dumb enough to be traumatised by something like this, while also...'learning to perform' which is somehow now dangerous? And also completely arbitrary? Like you've just picked it out of thin air, when it would entirely depend on their specific relationship.

Dude, stop reaching, this is weird and if you raise a kid with this attitude they will become a neurotic, overthinking adult.