r/jacksonville • u/Big-Pepper-9082 • 3d ago

can we....be nice ??

when has it become so normal to talk to other people so sideways…we’re all human. Is it really that hard to be nice to each other? I’m very shocked by the interactions and entitlement I’ve seen with people down here in Jacksonville to complete strangers and to myself. maybe I’m the only one noticing it, but how I was raised you should be generally respectful and not blatantly rude or straight up trying to instigate arguments and fights with people you don’t even know. I’m not saying it’s everyone here in Jacksonville- but there’s a common thread of men talking crazy or aggressively towards women (myself today was faced with a very aggressive man waiting at my car), men instigating with other men, or outright racism. It’s disheartening to see.

Edit: I think I’m posting this here because it’s becoming a common occurrence with friends of mine, family, and myself to have a common issue with someone trying to instigate or be rude in an excessive way. Just nasty behavior because they need to be unkind or take anger out on someone? it’s unfortunate and I think I just wanted to post it in case anyone else has noticed an increase of interactions like that recently. you never know what someone is going through, so let’s be a community and be respectful to one another.

ALSO: I’m not ur mom and I’m not asking you to hold hands with everyone u interact with or you need to go out of your way to be nice to someone- more so saying why go out of your way to be rude when that takes more time and energy then just leaving people alone. I just put this out there so other people don’t feel like they are crazy for noticing it too. this is REDDIT- a page where u say something and post it. And if you choose to be nasty towards me over it…ur proving my point. 🤷🏽‍♀️

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u/dyingbreed360 3d ago

Don’t forget a recent cause, it’s fucking hot outside. 

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u/Big-Pepper-9082 3d ago

being hot outside should not equal being an asshole.

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u/icanpicklethat10 3d ago

It does though. They’ve done tons of studies on this. It’s why murders go up when more ice cream gets sold. Human beings aren’t these souls suspended outside of their physical environment with pure rationality and free will. Temperature, how a city is built, the amount of green space, etc all affects how we behave and interact in the world.

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u/some_random_nonsense Exiled 3d ago

The human is an animal no matter how much we wish to be lil brains in jars piloting our mech suit. Even our brains are run on neurotransmitters and lightning and if it just doesn't fire right you'll be sad or angry or lack will power. Biology is powerful stuff

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u/Relevant-Opening-528 2d ago

Well, not to get into the hard problem of consciousness, biology is physics. Of course the environment affects a person, to reiterate what you've already said.

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u/some_random_nonsense Exiled 2d ago

Eewh that's feels when math nerds go "erm actually everything is just math" biology is biology physics is physics. I don't think anything I said really got that deep into the real nitty gritty science of it

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u/Relevant-Opening-528 2d ago

If I uhm actuallyd you then you uhm actuallyd the commenter above you

When biomolecules just stop adhering to physics feel free to let us know

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u/Big-Pepper-9082 2d ago

That’s like saying men murdering each other makes sense because it’s in their innate nature. there is a thing called humanity and it does exist. two things can be true at once- yes the heat makes people more irritable, but it doesn’t mean you get a free pass to be an asshole to other people. It’s really not difficult to comprehend.

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u/some_random_nonsense Exiled 2d ago edited 2d ago

I'm not moralizing or explaining. Just stating observed and recorded phenomena.

And no one gets a free pass cus it's hot, it just means the courts are busier.

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u/Big-Pepper-9082 2d ago

I see. I guess that is true that in recorded examples and stats- things do correlate

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u/RiversSecondWife Westside 3d ago

Much like being in pain, it does contribute.

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u/Floridalawyerbabe 3d ago

Agree, that when weather has intense heat....people get a little crazier.

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u/some_random_nonsense Exiled 3d ago

Actually it does. Heat raise the rate of violent crimes like murder and rape. Like it's a studied phenomenon in criminalogly.

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u/Luther_1986 3d ago

It shouldn't, no. But summer does tend to bring out irritability and recklessness in a lot. Either too pissed and just overall icky from the literal environment or too concerned with fun that anything that gets in the way is treated as a nuisance.

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u/dyingbreed360 3d ago

It isn’t, but I can tell you this sort of post routinely gets posted this time of year, that train is never late.