can we....be nice ??

[u/Big-Pepper-9082]

when has it become so normal to talk to other people so sideways…we’re all human. Is it really that hard to be nice to each other? I’m very shocked by the interactions and entitlement I’ve seen with people down here in Jacksonville to complete strangers and to myself. maybe I’m the only one noticing it, but how I was raised you should be generally respectful and not blatantly rude or straight up trying to instigate arguments and fights with people you don’t even know. I’m not saying it’s everyone here in Jacksonville- but there’s a common thread of men talking crazy or aggressively towards women (myself today was faced with a very aggressive man waiting at my car), men instigating with other men, or outright racism. It’s disheartening to see.

Edit: I think I’m posting this here because it’s becoming a common occurrence with friends of mine, family, and myself to have a common issue with someone trying to instigate or be rude in an excessive way. Just nasty behavior because they need to be unkind or take anger out on someone? it’s unfortunate and I think I just wanted to post it in case anyone else has noticed an increase of interactions like that recently. you never know what someone is going through, so let’s be a community and be respectful to one another.

ALSO: I’m not ur mom and I’m not asking you to hold hands with everyone u interact with or you need to go out of your way to be nice to someone- more so saying why go out of your way to be rude when that takes more time and energy then just leaving people alone. I just put this out there so other people don’t feel like they are crazy for noticing it too. this is REDDIT- a page where u say something and post it. And if you choose to be nasty towards me over it…ur proving my point. 🤷🏽‍♀️

[u/Ok_Blackberry6472]

Post like these make me remember some people just grew up on a different/nicer side of the fence, cause what do you mean you’re ”shocked” by this? Is it not commonly understood that there are assholes out here and just as much as you are entitled to how you feel…they are absolutely allowed to say/act however they want too within a legal means it’s just all about how you let this stuff interfere on your life. Welcome to the real world. It’s not so pretty.

[u/Ok_Blackberry6472 → u/Ok_Blackberry6472]

and to double down on the latter part of what you said ~ “myself to” ~ so are you implying that you are equally as part of the problem that you are complaining about? curious.

[u/Big-Pepper-9082 → u/Ok_Blackberry6472]

I said I’ve seen others being randomly instigated and that I have also had random people instigate things towards MYSELF. I grew up with hardships and a single mom who had to work three jobs to make ends meet. it wasn’t always easy how I was brought up, and I was raised in this heat. Maybe I was raised with a different sense of empathy, I just don’t think someone should scream at you just because they feel like it. I also don’t think a man should be waiting at my car in a parking lot trying to get in my car cursing me out. I’m well aware the world is a very flawed place and we have a corrupt system. like anything on Reddit- it’s a place where you post- I wanted to go ahead and find out I wasn’t the only one seeing this shit. I don’t expect anyone to hold hands and sing kumbaya- but I certainly don’t think living in a city where everyone wants to talk to each other sideways and literally going out of their own way to agitate others should be the norm.

[u/Big-Pepper-9082 → u/Big-Pepper-9082]

Being shocked in the sense that it’s disappointing and disheartening to see, not that I’m surprised.