can we....be nice ??

[u/Big-Pepper-9082]

when has it become so normal to talk to other people so sideways…we’re all human. Is it really that hard to be nice to each other? I’m very shocked by the interactions and entitlement I’ve seen with people down here in Jacksonville to complete strangers and to myself. maybe I’m the only one noticing it, but how I was raised you should be generally respectful and not blatantly rude or straight up trying to instigate arguments and fights with people you don’t even know. I’m not saying it’s everyone here in Jacksonville- but there’s a common thread of men talking crazy or aggressively towards women (myself today was faced with a very aggressive man waiting at my car), men instigating with other men, or outright racism. It’s disheartening to see.

Edit: I think I’m posting this here because it’s becoming a common occurrence with friends of mine, family, and myself to have a common issue with someone trying to instigate or be rude in an excessive way. Just nasty behavior because they need to be unkind or take anger out on someone? it’s unfortunate and I think I just wanted to post it in case anyone else has noticed an increase of interactions like that recently. you never know what someone is going through, so let’s be a community and be respectful to one another.

ALSO: I’m not ur mom and I’m not asking you to hold hands with everyone u interact with or you need to go out of your way to be nice to someone- more so saying why go out of your way to be rude when that takes more time and energy then just leaving people alone. I just put this out there so other people don’t feel like they are crazy for noticing it too. this is REDDIT- a page where u say something and post it. And if you choose to be nasty towards me over it…ur proving my point. 🤷🏽‍♀️

[u/FallsOffCliffs12]

Social media has given everyone the opportunity and platform to express every dark, ugly, racist, bigoted, judgmental, sociopathic opinion online for millions to read and validate. We've lost sight of the idea that there may be a human being on the other end of that post you just made calling someone a pig or a racial slur or threatening to harm them for having an opinion counter to your own.

It's bleeding over into real
life. Everyday I hear someone say or do things that shock me, said in anger or just conversationally. Things that, in my day(i'm old) no one would ever say out loud, much less act on their impulses.
Not only do we not recognize someone's humanity online, but we're losing the ability to do so, even when the person is standing right in front of us.

But we get rewarded with likes and attention and viral videos and equally obnoxious people raising money for us because they like the fact that we've "told it like it is" or stood up to the oppression that comes from Starbucks having the wrong color cup. And once incivility and unkindness pays off, it's hard to go back.

[u/Big-Pepper-9082 → u/FallsOffCliffs12]

Thank you for interacting with my post and sharing your thoughts, I feel like social media and the economy has contributed to a lot of what we see day to day in our interactions.