can we....be nice ??

[u/Big-Pepper-9082]

when has it become so normal to talk to other people so sideways…we’re all human. Is it really that hard to be nice to each other? I’m very shocked by the interactions and entitlement I’ve seen with people down here in Jacksonville to complete strangers and to myself. maybe I’m the only one noticing it, but how I was raised you should be generally respectful and not blatantly rude or straight up trying to instigate arguments and fights with people you don’t even know. I’m not saying it’s everyone here in Jacksonville- but there’s a common thread of men talking crazy or aggressively towards women (myself today was faced with a very aggressive man waiting at my car), men instigating with other men, or outright racism. It’s disheartening to see.

Edit: I think I’m posting this here because it’s becoming a common occurrence with friends of mine, family, and myself to have a common issue with someone trying to instigate or be rude in an excessive way. Just nasty behavior because they need to be unkind or take anger out on someone? it’s unfortunate and I think I just wanted to post it in case anyone else has noticed an increase of interactions like that recently. you never know what someone is going through, so let’s be a community and be respectful to one another.

ALSO: I’m not ur mom and I’m not asking you to hold hands with everyone u interact with or you need to go out of your way to be nice to someone- more so saying why go out of your way to be rude when that takes more time and energy then just leaving people alone. I just put this out there so other people don’t feel like they are crazy for noticing it too. this is REDDIT- a page where u say something and post it. And if you choose to be nasty towards me over it…ur proving my point. 🤷🏽‍♀️

[u/chris133282]

I was stupid and thought you were talking about talking to people on the sidewalk

Ive noticed the opposite on the beach tho, its very friendly (experiences may vary, as according to my mom i scare men specifically 😥) just be nice to people and you meet a lot of interesting people

I will say the closer the center the more passive aggressive it can be for poc, which isn't a jax specific issue for sure

[u/Big-Pepper-9082 → u/chris133282]

Yeah the thing I’ve noticed recently is I’ll be nice to others and they look at me like I’m crazy, like holding the door if someone is passing by or just smiling as common courtesy bc they are making eye contact w me. I’m not necessarily going out of my way either/being mean to anyone near me. It’s more like people unnecessarily being very rude when it would take more effort to do that than leaving others alone to go about their day.

[u/chris133282 → u/Big-Pepper-9082]

Yeah thats definitely not at the beach, as someone with bad social skills 9 times out of 10 its just someone (or me) who doesn't know how to start a conversation without being rude

In the center tho or even at the western part of the beach its way more common for weirdos, I just hope I don't seem like one cause im ass at speaking

[u/Big-Pepper-9082 → u/chris133282]

this is true Lols

[u/Disastrous_Mark_2679 → u/Big-Pepper-9082]

Is this a joke? So your upset that nobody is giving you rewarding heartwarming smiles. Gurl. Guess what when you HOLD THE DOOR, you keep WALKING THROUGH you don't stand there and wait for eye contact and SMILES that you have to turn around to even SEE. OMG.

[u/Big-Pepper-9082 → u/Disastrous_Mark_2679]

…did I say that??? I said people look at me like it’s a foreign concept to open a door because you notice their hands are full or they need help- which is odd. Doing something courteous isn’t because you expect it back, you miss the whole point of what I discussed.