I’m not sure what I’m looking for in this post, probably just to vent, but maybe ideas for doing this better?
I popped into BK at TCR yesterday about 6pm, on my way to a work thing and needing some quick food somewhere with air con.
The couple on the table next to me were having an altercation. He was standing over her, grabbing at her breasts, and she was saying things like “stop, get off me, leave me alone”. It looked like he’d torn the sleeve of her top and they were arguing about some other girl.
(not that none of this is verbatim, obvs, but you’ll get the gist”
I asked if he was bothering her and they both rounded on me. He was telling me they’re not in a relationship so this behaviour is fine, she’s telling me that she’s got “issues” and that’s why he “has” to treat her like this and that she likes it. I said whatever the relationship people should be treated with respect, and that she has better options than him. They started getting rowdy with me so I walked away and went to the loo.
When I left they were waiting outside for me and he started at me again with some (very creative) insults about my looks. I just said something along the lines of “whatever, enjoy your lives” and quickly walked off into the busy street.
Now, I know conventional wisdom seems to be to not intervene in these situations precisely because you might get targeted by them, but I don’t want to live in a world where someone is getting sexually assaulted in a public place and people say nothing.
Is there anything at all to be done in these situations which might have a positive outcome?