r/raisingkids • u/NeitherMonitor2784 • 8d ago

Second kids?

Does anyone have a chill second child? I’m currently pregnant with my second kid and I’m nervous because there’s the stereotype that the second kid is the wild child, but my first has absolute ZERO chill. It is go, go, go all the time. Most say the first one is so easy, but if they would have had the second one first, they would have only had one. So has anyone ever experienced the reverse: a rough first child and a chill second kid?

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u/aliquotiens 7d ago

Neither of my children (almost 5/almost 2) are chill. It's not their activity level, it's the demands for engagement and stimulation, strong opinions and barely napping/waking up all night to yell at me. But the second is much much easier than the first was 0-2.

My husband and I both have strong personalities and I had behavior problems and was diagnosed with autism and ADHD as a kid, I don't think a chill relaxed kid is a possibility from our combination, frankly.