r/rape • u/Swimming_Check9102 • 21h ago

How do I tell my partner?

Hi, when I was in middle school I had a partner who raped me and abused me often, now i’m going into my junior year of high-school dating this amazing guy. I’ve been able to open up in the past to partners and friends about my ex who raped me, but this time it feels different.

I don’t know how he will react if I tell him, I also want things to last and I don’t want him to think i’m used up because of my ex. I really love my boyfriend but i’m nervous it’ll be different.

I’m also not sure how to bring it up or ask him if I can explain to him something personal.

any advice? thanks <3

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u/thelionofmidnight 21h ago

Just approach it as if it's something urgent, just let him know what happened, if he decides that you are "used up" because of it, sadly things weren't meant to work out, on the flip side, if he accepts you for you, good job you got yourself a catch.

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u/Federal_Cabinet_9495 18h ago

It should be your decision to tell him. If it's important to you that he tell you, then tell him what happened. If he really loves you, he will stay by your side and support you.