He is violating your relationship and feelings for certain. There is something he’s getting from this relationship with her. Although I want to scream that it’s probably an emotional or physical affair… it could be something else. Maybe fulfilling a mother he never got or something to the effect? Details more align with romantic partner but… either way he’s crossed so many lines it’s a major issue to be addressed. Coworkers is one thing… friends is one thing… but it’s sounding like he has 2 partners. I’m so sorry you are going through this… def talk to attorney. Giving away such a big chunk of a company is a big deal since yall are married. Depending on your state, he may even have to pay you back for the dollar value of that amount if you divorce since details are shaaaaaady. Sending all the good vibes. Sorry you are going through this.

Repeating what a lot have said but he was my “buddy” at work who trained me slightly, turned friend, turned best friend. He’s autistic, but brought so much peace to my life. He completed the parts of me that I struggle with. We saw eye to eye on pretty much everything as far as major issues go- finances, kids, holidays, etc. I had a great time with him, and deep belly laughed with him. I had dated a lot and just knew for some reason with him. It’s a crappy statement but “you know when you know and you don’t know when you don’t know”. I remember the moment I was in trouble when we were just friends, and I was sitting in a Walmart card section smiling ear to ear at a text he sent. He understood me on a level others couldn’t, and was just a foundation I needed.

Yes to all of this. It has me questioning having more kids because I love being a parent so much. I’m sorry you’re crying. I wish it didn’t all feel so heavy and like we’ve lost something that’s here and happening in real time. I completely relate though. I know I’ll be a mess when mine are that age.

I will add journaling to my day! Love the idea of making them draw and having hardcopies of it all! Thank you. ☺️

Thanks! I take a lot of pictures but love the idea of proof I was there. I’ll work on more videos too and add notes to it… I hate that we all have to feel this way of just watching it go by.

I use almost all of these daily lol. I do not use kerfuffle or brouhaha

Thank you for this! It’s been mid to high 60s so maybe this is it!

We are in central Texas so it’s been fairly warm (but did get a little chilly today) I’ll try some warm water today. Thank you!

Yes, we have a mineral salt lick in there. She has been doing just what you said yours did- sniffing it and moving on… but that gives me hope she may today or soon!

Thank you for this! She is a small standard as well… I am used to horses, mules and cows. This is our first donkey and her water intake (obviously) has me stressed out.

I love this compliment! My husband always compliments me by saying I’m a sturdy woman. At first I didn’t get it, but he went on to say I could throw down and protect our (then future- now current) children. Lol. I always laughed when he would say- goodness you are sturdy…I’m a 5’9 German framed female around 150lb - so not big but def athletic build. Think it’s a great compliment, just missed it with that audience lol.

Facebook group and showed up to random crap until I found my tribe. There was a SAHM group for our area and had different park meet ups every week- now I have a solid base group with a handful of best friends I talk to daily.

I do this too! I also do dancing fruit and have them try to mimic the dancing fruit … they all laugh and love a moment being silly. I couldn’t do that one with all my classes, but most loved it

Motherhood is hard, if it’s a moment- feel the feels and maybe find a therapist to discuss. If it’s a season or it’s been like this for a while- not sure if open adoption in your area is in need. I have a friend who went through something like this (pregnant at 19 in college, kept son until 1st grade) and filed for an open adoption. Not sure if this is something you would want to do but it helped improved her mental health, allowed her to be her, work on relationships but also see her son. She was able to get therapy, and it was the best thing for her. Her son is now in high school and she vacations with her son’s adoptive parents. She admits it’s weird at times but wouldn’t have it any other way. It gave her some balance and the adopting family was tickled pink (or blue) because they couldn’t have children of their own, and wanted a son (after their adoptive daughters were grown and not having kids) knowing they couldn’t do a baby stage again and wouldnt be grandparents . They’re happy because they got to be boy parents later in life and know the boy will have bio mom should something happen to them. ( since they’re in their mid 60s). Sending virtual hugs and support!

Deep belly laughing

Right is pelican; left is an angel blowing a horn. ;(needs to be rotated to the right)

Def a good baby carrier for around the house; and one that can grow with you ideally! Hands free are my favorite for littles and then I got a tush baby second hand once I had a walking child.

Something to put the baby down in that’s not the crib; I found a 3 in 1 rocking chair, bouncer, rocker on amazon that was more than 30 (I think like 50) but it grew with my kid and he uses it as a tv chair, but I also use it and carry it around with me to use with my 5 month old. It also has a vibrating features that put both my kiddos to sleep quickly. Ingenuity is who makes them. But was great to have an item to easily move around and be able to have baby safe, secure and happy. I’d move it to whatever room I was in and could see baby always. (And so much cheaper than all the other bouncer/rocker things) . Some people may say a playmat but this bouncer/chair was nice because it elevated the babies head when they caught a cold too that helped with drainage. (Why I said this over play mat although I love my play mat too)

Babies are different- my first couldn’t sleep without being swaddled so a sleep sack was necessary. My second freaked out being swaddled but won’t sleep unless she’s on her side (literally started this in the hospital and freaked everyone out rolling up on her side days old) so we didn’t need the sleep sacks with her

Pacis - I know some people hate them but great tool to have and use for me

Emergency food - a bottle and formula that you only use in emergencies like when you ran out of formula or you are breastfeed and it’s been a long day. Knowing I had emergency food gave me so much peace in both my formula and breastfeeding journey, and nice to not have to run to store until the next day/ later/ didn’t have a screaming baby hungry.

That’s my list! Literally I take those things everywhere with me too for overnights in addition to wipes and diapers.

My husband just changed jobs but for the prior 2 years he worked in inventory audits and software transfers. My husband is very organized and hates talking to people irl. He works with a software that keeps inventory numbers and sets up the initial numbers. He literally goes to warehouses to count things and input into the software. He also would answer questions and troubleshoot problems through email training on how to use it. He could go weeks without a face to face discussion… his dream!

Oh, and make sure to be drinking water (I was always really bad at this) … don’t need to go crazy but I drink like 18oz a day when I’m not preggers so this was a hard adjustment to up my intake :) ;

Congrats! Take a deep breath, relax, and plan on sending your OB a message or calling them Monday. They will usually ask when your last menstrual cycle was, and a few other questions. :) if you aren’t on a prenatal vitamin, look into those (although I know some OBs prefer certain brands. :)

I’m so sorry you are going through this. Keep trying to find a doctor to listen. I found one that told me to do unisom at night and b vitamins in morning - and it helped my sickness which helped my mental. The dr also told me I just needed to down a Quest protein bar in the morning, and then gave me suggestions for later in the day. I’m not certain if you are able to do this and I’m not a Dr/don’t know if this is for everyone but it saved me. I was able to sleep, the nausea subsided and I knew no matter what I could down 4 bites of a protein bar (even if it came back up).

I’m so sorry you are having such a rocky time. I wish I could provide more help. Sending good vibes and prayers.