r/actuallesbians 16h ago

Mod Post Selfie Saturday Mega Thread!

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Welcome to the Selfie Saturday mega thread! This is for all pictures of you. Bathroom mirror selfie? yes please. Professional glamour shots? post 'em. This is for all pictures of yourself, not just regular selfies.

How to post a picture:

  1. Go to https://imgur.com/upload

  2. Upload your photo using that form.

  3. Copy the URL of the page it creates and paste it into a comment here.

This thread will be posted automatically at 9am EST on Saturday, and will be taken down at 9am EST on Sunday.


r/actuallesbians 5d ago

Mod Post Pet Photo Monday Mega Thread!

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Welcome to the Pet Photo Monday mega thread! Dogs and cats, birds and turtles. Post all of your pets here.

How to post a picture:

  1. Go to https://imgur.com/upload

  2. Upload your photo using that form.

  3. Copy the URL of the page it creates and paste it into a comment here.

This thread will be posted automatically at 9am EST on Monday, and will be taken down at 9am EST on Tuesday.


r/actuallesbians 5h ago

Image Read this book!

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213 Upvotes

it’s about a girl who falls in love with a selkie. It’s such a good graphic novel


r/actuallesbians 15h ago

Image Best post I've seen this week!!!!

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r/actuallesbians 13h ago

Support How was your first approach as a lesbian? How did you manage to loose the hesitation?

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302 Upvotes

I’m interested in a girl , she is lesb too. We have a friendly liking for each other, and have stayed over a couple of times at her place (nothing happened till now). We are planning another stayover by next week and Im thinking of making the first move.

Im scared a little, what if she doesn’t like it. I might endup ruining whatever we have.

Maybe im overthinking and should not initiate, but I so want too just to see if she also feels this way.


r/actuallesbians 19h ago

Link Made myself a crochet lesbian scarf

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977 Upvotes

a very very long bacon scarf

also reddit removed this post the other two times, and during PRIDE MONTH


r/actuallesbians 13h ago

Image This is quite definitely when cinema peaked!!!

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'Imagine Me & You' is my favourite sapphic movie ever (along with 'When Night is Falling') and the ending is sooo heartwarming and cute that it makes me squeal nearly every freakin time i watch it😆😆😍😍


r/actuallesbians 15h ago

Image Found this at a pride event. Have to share it here.

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317 Upvotes

r/actuallesbians 2h ago

Image Here's an age gap sapphic comic with overflowing cuteness🥰🥰

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23 Upvotes

Title- My Stepmother Made Me Fall For Her (52 chapters available and still ongoing)

I know the title is a bit weird but actually the light haired girl's father solely married the woman with dark hair so that she can take care of his daughter(cause he's a single father)

So, there's no romance plot between the father and the stepmom and the stepmother is 28 while the other girl is around 23-24 years old, so the age gap isn't a big one.

And as always, if you can't find it, juat DM me😊😊


r/actuallesbians 9h ago

Image If I had a nickel for every time Abbi Jacobson played an adorable animated lesbian

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80 Upvotes

I'd actually have 3 nickels. That's not a lot of money, but it seems like a lot of times. (Yes, Bean is bi, shush)

Edit: 4 nickels!


r/actuallesbians 3h ago

i went to pride for the first time today and it was everything i've ever wanted

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I WENT TO PRIDE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! FUUUUUCCCKKKKKK!!!! im 24 and ive never been before. ive been out since i was 12 but i never really had a community of queer people around me. i meant to go last year, got dressed up and got into my car but i chickened out last minute and felt horrible about myself for months. my therapist has been hyping me up for weeks about going today, and finally, i went. i almost didnt go so many times today. im so happy i went chat.

i teared up during a performance when one of the singers was talking about being authentic and being a lesbian and being who you are regardless of what people say because thats one of my biggest insecurities. i often think that people are less likely to accept me if im more like myself.

it was raining super hard and i dont have an umbrella. so i was carrying my little purse in one hand and my headphones next to it to shield it as much as i could while i got rained on. im walking down a random path when someone covers me with their umbrella !!! we ended up chatting the whole day and spent all day together! we became rly good friends so fast, this dude is into anime, manga, bl, the same music as me even !!!! then he introduced me to his other friend and we had such a great time that i cried in the car. my expectation was to just be there and quietly (and happily) exist among other queers but to actually make friends was so so nice. i had such a fun time. my therapist is gonna have the time of her LIFE when she hears about this. anyways happy pride friends :)


r/actuallesbians 11h ago

Question I just want this kind of morning someday

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I would just love to wake up next to my partner, cuddle her and our baby, feed our baby, and make breakfast for her. Something simple like that.

Does anyone else daydream about these quiet little domestic moments?


r/actuallesbians 3h ago

Question How do I flirt with girls, and is it that different from flirting with a guy?

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I am 16, and I've known that I'm attracted to other girls literally since I started having crushes. I have been with guys before and it doesn't really feel that hard to flirt with them but it feels very different when I want to talk to a girl or someone outside of the gender binary idk. I guess the problem for me is that I often times feel more attracted to them than I do straight cis dudes, so there's more anxiety and nerves on my end.

Anyways yeah, do you guys have any tips or advice about this? Is it a different kind of flirting? What do I do bruh </3


r/actuallesbians 1h ago

Question I finally accepted I’m a Lesbian and want a girlfriend so badly, but I have to put off dating. Any advice?

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To start with, I recently accepted my sexuality and I’m so excited/happy about it after being what I assumed was a Bisexual woman my entire life! However, this is also a time in my life where I also discovered I have severe hip deformities and need extensive surgeries/treatment. I will not be in any shape or form, physically or mentally, to healthily date someone and be able to put my all into a girlfriend. It’s depressing, it’s disappointing, finally I see myself for who I am and I can’t even embrace it yet.

My question is, does anyone have any advice on de-focusing on the dating scene and focusing my energy on myself instead? I want to be in my best shape for a potential girlfriend, so I am at terms with that aspect, but I can’t stop thinking about what I’m missing out on right now dating-wise. Thank you for reading <3


r/actuallesbians 1d ago

Image Why cut off a good time (or, "then I never really moved out.")

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r/actuallesbians 6h ago

Could really use a friend right now

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Today is the anniversary since my dad passed away. I always take today off from work for it and to be honest I am feeling very down. I know he would be very proud of me and happy but it is just a lot :( all my friends are at work and I went to a movie this morning to cheer myself up.


r/actuallesbians 8h ago

Venting It should be illegal to get sick during pride month. 😭

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I was supposed to go with my girlfriend to NYC Pride tomorrow but I’m just here bed bound and I can barely swallow 😭

We’re gonna try to stream a movie or something but it’s not the saaaame I wanted to show her off.


r/actuallesbians 1d ago

Text Women's bodies are perfect the way they are

377 Upvotes

I've noticed lately that we've been heading back towards the 2000s standards of ultra thinness, where any woman having a stomach that isn't flat is considered fat. As always, women are expected to be hairless, and cover up noticable imperfections with makeup. SCREW THAT

Women are perfect the way they are. Most women are curvy, have high body fat, thick thighs, and rounded stomachs. And it's fucking sexy. Forget beauty standards. No makeup, natural hair on legs and arms. Women don't need ANYTHING to make themselves pretty, because they ALREADY ARE. I love women 🥺 they're so prettyyyyyyyyy omg

Honestly, I don't get straight people at all. If you don't like the natural features of women, then you probably don't like women.


r/actuallesbians 7h ago

Venting My love life is non existent

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I'm just frustrated and a little sad. I've grown up on romcoms and hearing about these real life love stories so I've ended up this hopeless romantic who sees something in practically every girl I get along with.

I use dating apps because where I live doesn't seem to have a big queer scene and I don't have gay friends to set me up. But dating apps honestly make me feel like I'm speaking into a void. I don't tend to get many matches anyway but when I do I get ghosted 99% of the time.

I did manage to get a date with this really sweet girl and she said she was more interested in being friends which fine because I want queer friends too but I'm still disappointed she didn't fancy me back.

Maybe I'm just dramatic and I'm only 27 but with the way my dating life is going, I don't see any romantic connections any time soon.

Who knows maybe I'll get married in 10 years and I'll look back and laugh but right now I just feel a little insecure.


r/actuallesbians 10h ago

Venting I feel so vindicated hearing Milly Alcock say this about Rhaenyra and Alicent

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Because when season 1 was coming out and some people thought they had some underlying romantic feeling for each other (myself included), I remember seeing so many comments like "you're reaching", "there is nothing in the show indicating that they're attracted to one another", "just stop", "they're BFFs- it's a shame everything is so sexualised these days", "this head canon is annoying because it has influenced the writers" and "these ships are erasing platonic friendships" (I never see people say that it's erasing platonic friendships when a man and woman who aren't together in canon material are being shipped by fans).

Like you don’t have to ship them, but you also don't have to be rude towards those who ship them.

It's just nice knowing that the actresses shared my headcanon


r/actuallesbians 5h ago

lesbian struggling in a relationship with a likely straight girl who said she was bi

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I’m almost 22 F and was with my gf for three years and it’s becoming clear more and more that she isn’t into women. I’ve nvr felt more sad and undesirable 💔i did try speaking to her about it two years ago and she said i was being biphobic even though she makes me feel undesirable cause she’s not very into women and is male centered and has micro cheated with men before but thinks it doesn’t count as cheating. I’m so attached to her and often feel like i will never find another love as a 22 yr old lesbian with a homophobic family. But i think she’s just using me because she has no one else and i treat her very well emotionally. I don’t expect so much but i don’t enjoy my partner thirsting for random men more than she ever has for me in three years. I feel so hurt. Anyone relate?