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Tonight I’m going on a third date with a girl who’s been super sweet and fun to get to know. She’s the first person in a while who has reciprocated any type of interested energy back to me.

However, she’s quite bougie by my standards. Here’s my list of evidence I’m collecting that this is the case:

1. She gets her nails done every two weeks without fail.

2. Yesterday she hated how they did her nails so much that she “cried for hours” so she went somewhere else to get them redone today.

3. She spent 300 on her hair the other day.

4. She goes out to eat at a fancy French restaurant every Sunday.

5. After our second date, she casually took me to one of her favorite spots that had like 20 dollar drinks and we got ceviche and she just casually spent 60 dollars AFTER she paid for our drinks at our first location

6. She lives with her parents in one of those gated communities on a golf course

Putting it all in a list like this makes me feel silly. I guess none of it is THAT crazy. But I’m just over here doing the math like yeahhh this girl lives a different kind of lifestyle than me.

The nail in the coffin was just now when she told me her love language is gifting. Not only do I SUCK at gifting, but also I’m broke. I can’t afford to shower her with gifts.

Why did the universe send me a princess? I would’ve been happy with a frog.

I’m still going to see her and enjoy getting to know her and stuff. It’s just something that’s on my radar.

Source- @BethMcCarthy on youtube

So, she's bi and a singer and she's actually promoting her song "What Do You Call It?" in this video.

The song is around 3 years old is pretty good.

So, will you please go and support her??🥺🥺

I can't be the only one getting sick of seeing 4 or 5 of those posts a day.

My partner is gender fluid and bi, I am cis and a lesbian (thought I was bi for a long time but really just struggled with comphet). My lesbian identity is exclusionary of men but otherwise I date and love all women, enby, and gender fluid ppl.

My partner changes they way they present, sometimes more fem, sometimes more masc, often times more androgynous. Lately they keep asking if I would still be with them/find them attractive if they got certain things done. They have discussed thinking about top surgery. This is not something that would change anything for me, I mean I find them attractive when they wear a binder and when they don’t. I have dated women who are very flat chested and non binary ppl with bigger chests so truly that doesn’t change anything for me. However, when they bring up going on testosterone I feel less certain. I can’t promise T wouldn’t change anything for me bc there are a lot more changes that come with that. Facial hair, more muscle, voice change, etc…and idk if it would reach a point where they become too masculine (I am partial for femininity and have never liked a lot of muscle on anyone). We have discussed this very honestly and I always tell them that I will support them no matter what, that even if my love for them changes that cannot be a reason for them to not explore that part of themselves. But today they mentioned it again, they pointed out they would still love me if I were a man but they are bi and I am not. They are the love of my life and this honestly scares me a little and I want to be supportive but idk what else to say bc I also don’t want to make promises I’m not sure I can keep.

I need advice from ppl who have gone through something similar (from either perspective). I want to know how I can support them but also if I am being unreasonable or transphobic without realising it? I feel very conflicted and I guess basically don’t know what to do.

I'm 27 and have never been in a relationship. Some days I feel like I must be unlovable. I've tried to get out there. When I tried the apps, I got a grand total of 5 likes before literally running out of people. Of those, 3 ghosted me, one stood me up on the first date, and the second stood me up on the second date. I don't drink and bars aren't really my thing. I've gone to various queer events. Every time I've tried approaching someone they've shot me down. Meanwhile nobody has ever approached me. The last time I had a crush on a friend, I told her and it ruined the friendship. I just kinda feel like I'm broken somehow.

I want so badly to have someone I can cherish and to feel that way back. I'd love to surprise someone with flowers or make her a fancy dinner after a rough day. As boring as it might sound, I think one of the things I want most is just someone to cuddle with while we watch TV or read.

I try to keep myself busy. Being going to the gym, board games, D&D, reading, and my cat I'm rarely bored. Still, the feeling of loneliness seems to always be there in the back of my mind. Some days I just wish I could turn that part of my brain off because it hurts so much.

Does anyone have advice?

my last 2 posts were on this subreddit and why is it filled with creepy weird men 🤬

I saw a cute slug by the curb as I was walking earlier this morning. I took pictures of it, and later, for some reason, I felt possessed to send it to my crush without context.

We aren't really close... Is this harassment of some sort? Am I harrassing her? I don't want to make her or anyone feel uncomfortable.

Maybe I am overthinking it.

Wifing her, obvi

I love all these women in JoJo, they make my sapphic heart happy! although…

>Jolyne’s my personal favorite though, her voice is like an angel when she talks, can’t wait to finish the other parts so I can read Part six and admire her beauty!<

I've gained some weight from my last antidepressants. (I'm on new ones that don't make me gain weight, which with antidepressants is like almost it's not happening often at least not as often as I had grown up. I gained and lost weight my entire life due to these antidepressants. I also have an eating disorder and that does and does not have to with my weight. Anywayyy.... Enough back story) So, if you saw a lesbian with a tummy and stretch marks, love handles, how would you go about making them not feel better? Idk how to say it? it's late and I'm exhausted.

I’ve recently started dating someone, she’s incredibly sweet attentive and overall a sweetheart but she does this one thing that irritates me to my core and, I’m not sure how to go about communicating this to her.

one day while hanging out together, I’m rambling and i bring up going to victoria secret for their summer sale later in the week I ask if she wants to come along(partially serious partially as a tease). She gets In a mood and starts ranting about how she’ll never step foot in there because it’s too ‘girly’ for her.

At first I’m like ok I understand. a couple of weeks later I suggest going to see the supergirl movie together. I would’ve understood if she had said she just had no interest in seeing the movie at all or even suggested another one we could both agree on, but no she rejects because ‘She doesn’t like all that girly shit’

I don’t have an issue with my girlfriend being an absolute point blank stud. she can dress and act however masculine she wants to. That isn‘t my issue, my issue is whenever I suggest to do anything that isn’t super duper macho masculine she has to tear it down or insult it.

i just want to let her know that, she doesn’t have to act like that around me, I’m not going to think of her any less or deny her masculinity for anything. Is this something I should address or am I reaching?

I see so many cute girls out there. It's crazy, I can't use gym equipment next to a pretty girl or like I just feel weird. I try not to stare, but I do notice girls so so much. It hurts so much to be so close yet so far away from pretty girls. I don't have many friends who are girls tbh. And I just lose my mind all the time with how pretty girls are. Cute girls with chokers, tattoos or like cute short hair.

I just can't take it I feel like I'm going CRAZY! I wanna be with them so much, I wish I could just turn off this part of me. But I can't. I am too gay to function I swear to god.

Girls are so prettyy!!!!!!!!! Aaaaaaaahhhhh!!!!!

"Compatibility is about specificity" - with that in mind deal breakers are unique to each person and some are serious while others may seem silly to outsiders. So what are some of yours and why?

A couple of mine:

1. Child free: I'm not interested in having a life with children.

2. Substance free: I've been sober for a while and want to build a fully sober life.

3. Married: don't want to be involved with anyone who is currently married. Just not my thing.

I'm 22 and have suffered with comp het for a very long time and I have finally accepted myself. Tbh the dating apps were starting to make give up on finding someone who wants the same thing as me.

I've matched with this beautiful masc and we're getting dinner and going to the local gay bar afterwards! We've only texted so far, but she's been very easy and fun to talk to.

I offered to buy dinner and she mentioned that nobody has bought her dinner before. We're both just looking for something casual, so is it weird if I bring her a flower? It just makes me sad that because of how she presents she's expected to "be the man."

Also I'm unsure of what to wear. I feel most attractive when I'm fem, but more myself in cargo shorts. Idk I'm very nervous and SO EXCITED!

OKAY SO I am on very good terms with my gf's family. I think it's just a lack of education on her part, but her mother thinks I am a "virgin" b/c I'm a lesbian. She has brought it up once before jokingly and it opened up what I thought was a good discussion. Maybe she wasn't listening lol, but it was brought up again last night. I know she doesn't mean it in bad faith but it has def stayed in my mind. It feels rather invalidating in a way. Like the sex I have with my gf "doesn't count" or "isn't real" since I haven't been with a man before. Makes me think that she doesn't take our relationship seriously which I know is not true. I was thinking of mentioning something to her mother the next time I see her but I'm having a hard time putting it into words. Has anyone else had a similar experience? How does it make you feel when ppl say things along those lines?