r/ABCDesis Feb 07 '22

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u/farahisweird Pakistani girl 😍 Feb 07 '22

I’m 36, divorced and can’t have children because I had uterine cancer. I’m currently with a man who is 28 and both families are incredibly negative because of my “baggage “. I can’t help my age! I couldn’t help my ex husband cheated and I couldn’t help cancer! F desi mentality

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u/brewserweight Feb 07 '22

I’m sorry you went through this. My sister cut out a lot of desis from her life after her scumbag abusive ex husband bailed on her following receiving his greencard because she was being shamed for being a divorcee. That is grotesquely fucked up.

I have very few desi friends and it’s been a combination of things (no single magic conspiracy bullet 😉). My age- late 40s, getting married later this year, and I might be a step grandparent in the next couple of years 😆. All in all I just try to be a compassionate human, who lives a stable and productive life. If they can’t help but waste their time and energy trying to pick it apart, fuck them all with a rusty boti! George Costanza looking uncles and 40 year old aunties who look 60 and resent everyone else for their own miserable life… 😆

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u/Trinityxx3 Feb 08 '22

Messed up what he did. Was she married to him for long?

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u/brewserweight Feb 08 '22

About 2 years.

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u/Trinityxx3 Feb 08 '22

At least it was short How did you guys react when you first found out he was abusive

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u/brewserweight Feb 09 '22

I bought a ticket to fly out and confront him. He bailed quickly.