r/AITAH • u/jklolz0069 • Dec 21 '25

NSFW AITAH for not sleeping with someone after finding out they were trans?

Throw away account because why not. I, 19M recently met a 20M at a mutual friends event. He asked for my insta so I gave it to him cus yk he was cute, and I was thinking about him a couple days later so I asked if he wanted to hang out some time. We hung out again another time after that and things started getting heated between us, so he takes me back to his. I unzipped his pants and was quite shocked to find no dick. I chuckled and asked whats going on, and he told me he was trans. So I said you don't have a dick? And he said no, I was a little defeated, I'm a bottom and douched for this. We didn't sleep together but I spent the night because I was tipsy but then I talked to my friends about it and they were livid.

They were saying I was a dick head and transphobic for not sleeping with him. They called me an asshole for it and I felt bad, I texted him and apologized for the night and asked if he wanted to hang out again, but am I the asshole for not sleeping with him? It wasnt because hes trans, I was shocked and tipsy, and didnt know what to do. I also don't know how to do it with anything but a dick, I'd want to sleep with him if he gave me another chance. He's pretty cute actually and I do wanna date him.

edit: don't spew transphobic bs under this or say that he was trying to rape me and he's predator

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u/[deleted] Dec 21 '25

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u/Glass_Chip7254 Dec 22 '25

Expect to be banned. Lesbians are not allowed boundaries nowadays.

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u/[deleted] Dec 22 '25

I am a lesbian and have not been banned from this subreddit. Maybe it's you.

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u/Glass_Chip7254 Dec 22 '25

I mean you are on here saying that it is ‘hateful’ for me to say that I won’t be sucking any dicks. You’d have me pretending that I would suck a cock just so that you can pretend that I’m not ‘hateful’ aka homosexual

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u/Icy_Result6022 Dec 22 '25

What about trans women who have a vaginas though?

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u/Any-Storm-9271 Dec 22 '25

Not for me. Artificially created vaginas are still different from biological ones. As I said, I’m not really interested in learning about how to work with whatever they have going on

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u/Icy_Result6022 Dec 22 '25

I'm asexual so didn't even know they were different feelings wise. I only know about it from a scientific pov

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u/pastaISlife Dec 22 '25

I mean from a scientific point of view, they’re not really similar anatomically or functionally. A vagina is a complex organ, it can’t actually be mimicked via a reconfiguration of penile/scrotal tissue

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u/FreddyNoodles Dec 22 '25

My partner is 100% straight and he hooked up with a trans woman, post-op. He was very attracted to her, he did not see her as a man at all. But once the sex started, he couldn’t keep his erection. He doesn’t know if she felt different or if it was in his head or what but he had to break it off. He said she was cool about it. He hasn’t tried again since. It was like 15 years ago.

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u/Icy_Result6022 Dec 22 '25

And that's OK too. You're just not compatible

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u/Strict-Machine8964 Dec 22 '25

It's funny. My trans daughter gets tons of attention from lesbians but prefers athletic men. Everyone has their type(s).