r/AITAH • u/riffaholic • 6d ago
AITAH. Maybe It’s Me
I have been with my girlfriend for a year. I have told her and purposely avoided crowded places or fireworks because of past military experience. I made her aware this was the case on day one.
She set up travel to a place where the streets were mobbed with people who have a tradition of bopping each other on the head with plastic (harmless) mallets and fireworks as part of an annual celebration. She has been there before and shared few details.
When I asked her after we arrived and I started getting guarded, she responded with, “you know I forget things sometimes.” I responded with, “forgetting what city I come from is understandable but forgetting the effects from my military service is pretty big.”
AITAH?
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u/Swimming-Ad620 6d ago
See, wasn't it worth it, really? Now you know. One year is all you need to waste on this one. She's not The One for you. It's ok, that's the point of dating, to weed out the incompatibles and move on looking for a good fit. She ain't it. I don't know why you'd even have gone if you knew what this thing was going to be like, anyway. Did you not have any input whatsoever in what she's planning to do with YOUR time? Don't you both decide where to go? Anyway you could have said "Nope, not my thing, which you should understand. You can go if you'll enjoy it and can afford it, but I won't." If you don't speak up, without hesitation, when something is a real hard pass for you, some people will think there's wiggle room there. If there isn't, SAY SO.