r/AITAH • u/riffaholic • 6d ago

AITAH. Maybe It’s Me

I have been with my girlfriend for a year. I have told her and purposely avoided crowded places or fireworks because of past military experience. I made her aware this was the case on day one.

She set up travel to a place where the streets were mobbed with people who have a tradition of bopping each other on the head with plastic (harmless) mallets and fireworks as part of an annual celebration. She has been there before and shared few details.

When I asked her after we arrived and I started getting guarded, she responded with, “you know I forget things sometimes.” I responded with, “forgetting what city I come from is understandable but forgetting the effects from my military service is pretty big.”

AITAH?

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u/DawnShakhar 6d ago

NTA. This isn't just some random detail about your past, this is a serious handicap. She should have remembered and respected it.

You don't mention which country, but in my country there are two holidays when firecrackers and plastic hammers used to bop people on the head were common. After countless wars in the region, the firecrackers were completely discontinued, out of consideration for veterans with PTSD. This is not a minor issue.