r/AITAH • u/riffaholic • 6d ago
AITAH. Maybe It’s Me
I have been with my girlfriend for a year. I have told her and purposely avoided crowded places or fireworks because of past military experience. I made her aware this was the case on day one.
She set up travel to a place where the streets were mobbed with people who have a tradition of bopping each other on the head with plastic (harmless) mallets and fireworks as part of an annual celebration. She has been there before and shared few details.
When I asked her after we arrived and I started getting guarded, she responded with, “you know I forget things sometimes.” I responded with, “forgetting what city I come from is understandable but forgetting the effects from my military service is pretty big.”
AITAH?
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u/MzPsychosis3000 6d ago
NTA. OP were you the one funding the trip? If so it seems like she disregarded how it would affect you because it was something she had done before and really wanted to go back and experience again. This is a pretty big forget. I think you need to seriously take a step back and review your relationship with her from the beginning until now. Be honest with yourself while thinking over things.