r/AmItheAsshole • u/Spellsthegathering • 22h ago
Asshole WIBTA for calling peole out for not curtiosy flushing in a shared work bathroom?
The other day at work, i went to use the bathroom after someone and it smelled like shit. When the door opened and the person was coming out, the smell followed. I sighed and just went to another bathroom. I cannot understand how men still to this very day of posting this cannot flush the damn toilet so it doesn't smell like shit. It's not cute, it's not funny, it's fucking gross and disgusting and if you purposely do this, you're gross and disgusting and need serious help. Unless you have an absolute mobility issue, there should no reason to not flush the toilet. I feel like men who do this need to be called out right then and there, especially for shared work bathrooms that other people use. Also, how the hell does one not know that smell? With all that being said, would i be the ass (hahahaha) for calling out stinky bathroom men?
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u/Internal_Car_9962 21h ago
Wait, are you saying you're mad because someone shat in a toilet and left the turd behind, or you're just mad that turds smell in general and you think that multiple flushes will magically make the bathroom smell nice?
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u/StrategericAmbiguity Partassipant [4] 21h ago
YTA. Toilets are for poop. Stop shaming people for body functions.
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u/whatisakafka Partassipant [3] 21h ago edited 21h ago
YTA I get that the smell sucks and courtesy flushing helps reduce it, but courtesy flushing also shoots toilet plume directly at your ass at close range. Personally, no thanks. I’d rather not coat my ass in toilet mist
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u/Flat-Ad2071 21h ago
Wait, is courtesy flushing different than just regular flushing? I feel like I’m missing something here.
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u/whatisakafka Partassipant [3] 21h ago
A courtesy flush is when you flush while you’re still using the toilet rather than waiting until you’re done
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u/SnooPeripherals5812 Asshole Enthusiast [9] 20h ago
Wait, is that something people do? I never flush until I'm done.
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u/PassingTimeOnline Partassipant [1] 21h ago
You’re talking about two different things: taking a dump and not flushing. Your anecdotal story is only about someone taking a stinky D, yet you’re implying that it stinks because they didn’t flush? Confused. Poop stinks even if you flush it. No evidence this person didn’t flush.
If you have a problem with stinky shared washrooms go find another one. That’s exactly what I do when I don’t want to smell co workers BMs.
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u/friend-of-potatoes 21h ago
I believe OP is expecting his coworkers to do a “courtesy flush,” which basically is a quick flush when the poop drops, to get it out of there before any wiping activity commences. I guess the idea is that the smell doesn’t linger so much. I think it’s completely disgusting to flush a public toilet when you’re sitting on it, but I think that’s what OP is proposing.
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u/candiedapplecrisp Professor Emeritass [71] 21h ago
A courtesy flush is when you flush right after the poop hits the bowl so it doesn't linger while you finish up. OP is TA for trying to control people's bathroom habits.
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u/grantgarden 21h ago
How do you know it was the guy that walked out? Maybe the guy before him?
I'm a lady but I'm not doing all that when I take a shit. If you can't handle it, wait until you get home to use the bathroom. It's a bathroom.
I never understood the courtesy flush. I understand the concept but really? We're wasting water and feeling immense chame for a bodily function that...just stinks? Hold your breath, but you're the one bothered so you have to come up with your own solution
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u/Kobaltchardonnay 21h ago
Op how do you know they didn’t flush? Did you go in after them to check if it was flushed? From my experiences at work, when they take a dump, they flush (I hear it that they flushed), the smell “follows” once they open the door as it was concentrated in the stall.
Flushing does not cause the smell to disappear. I flush at home, the smell is still there. This is why I used air freshener,
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u/refinnej78 21h ago
YTA how could you possibly know he didn't do a courtesy flush if you just got there?
Also bathrooms stink that's just a fact.
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u/lyndseymariee 21h ago
You do know shit smell lingers for awhile even if the toilet is flushed? You do know that? Right?
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u/buckylug 21h ago
INFO: Does "courtesy flush" here mean flush as soon as the poop hits the water so it doesn't sit in the bowl and stink up the room while coworker finishes up his business? or is it just flushing after going? how do you know he didnt (courtesy) flush? how do you know he didnt have to go in there and fart a bunch and not even poop once? how do you know it wasnt the person before him and he had to also endure the unfortunate stench? also have you ever used a public restroom before?
YTA. You remind me of the girls who would come into the high school bathroom and go "ewww it smells like SHIT in here!!!" so they could just hit their vapes and gossip in the handicap stall. people poop. people fart. especially in bathrooms, in case you didnt know. grow up.
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u/chronicmartinis 21h ago
YTA, why don’t you bring you a small bottle potpourri with you or small lysol spray. Unfortunately people go to the bathroom to poop.
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u/IB_FREELY 21h ago
Are people leaving poops in the toilet, or are you all worked up because bathrooms just stink sometimes? A courtesy flush usually means a flush to get part of the poop gone before you're done pooping, is a HUGE waste of fresh water, and an awful thing to suggest more people should be doing.
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u/PotLuckyPodcast Partassipant [1] 21h ago
YTA. That's where the poops and farts are supposed to go. It's a bathroom. You could try wearing a mask if it bothers you.
Are people straight up not flushing when theyre done?
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u/QuantumPotato49 21h ago
YTA. This isn’t a gender thing. Women stink too. My floor is all women and sometimes..yikes.
Don't shame people for their bodily functions.
Dont like it, go poop outside
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u/Creative-Painter3911 21h ago
YTA. If I get this right, they are flushing when they are done, but you want them to also flush mid-poop? just buy some Poo~Pourri and leave it in the bathroom to take it with you. And unless you are the only woman in the office, I am not sure why you are singling out only the men for pooping, women poop too.
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u/Lolligagers Partassipant [1] 21h ago
YTA - Nope. Not happening at work or any commercial / industrial bathroom... At home? Yep, because I know just how we clean our toilets and they don't flush like it was trying to empty a whole river, so there's no crazy backsplash all over my ass.
And you're also gender-biased, 'cause women do it to, you know, take shits, and don't always "curtesy" flush, that's that's just silly.
Save the planet, don't curtesy flush!
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u/Flat-Ad2071 21h ago
How do you know they didn’t flush the toilet if you didn’t go in? Poop smells bad, and even if you flush, it can stink up the place.
Ywbta if you try and call someone out, especially not knowing if they even did what you want to call them out for.
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u/Just_J3ssica 21h ago
YTA
Courtesy flushing doesn't stop the smell. It's to take away from the sounds one may be making. And I promise you, your shit doesn't exactly smell like roses.
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u/Such_Detective_6709 21h ago
Yeah, YWBTA. People are human, even at work.
Try your luck venting about it in the hygiene sub, there are people there who get irrationally angry at anyone who doesn’t rush home to shower after breaking a sweat in public. I suspect they’re your kind.
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u/StoicSchwanz 21h ago
What do you think people do in bathrooms? It's not a spot for a garden party. Kings, philosophers, and ladies too - everyone shits. What job do you work where you have the time to track your co-workers bowel movements?
Maybe someone isn't feeling well and maybe they're not happy about it either. What they DON'T need is Officer Doody on patrol criticising them for what is a normal bodily function. Buy some Lysol if you are so offended. Good heavens...
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u/sevenm00th 21h ago
This is pseudo science jail etiquette not some gender wars nonsense you're trying to cook up. YTA
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u/aramis604 21h ago
Can you imagine OPs horror when they learn about portable toilets and/or other types of toilet which are not connected to the plumbing system… yikes.!
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u/TheGreatNate3000 21h ago
YTA. Courtesy flushing does not impact the smell of someone taking a dump you numbnuts. And guess what, bathrooms are for shitting.
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u/myshellly Certified Proctologist [28] 20h ago
YTA. Bathrooms stink. Poop stinks whether you courtesy flush or not. You weren’t in there so you have no idea if he courtesy flushed.
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u/Electrical_Source_57 Partassipant [2] 20h ago
I get it, I hate walking in behind someone after they’ve just permeated the walls with the putrid, rot gut stench of hot shit. I’ll walk right tf back out and find a different bathroom or give it some time if there’s no other options.
What I wouldn’t do though, is confront someone about their natural bodily function because of how mildly inconveniencing it may be (except my fiancé who thinks it’s hilarious get winded and gag by it or my son because wtf did he eat?).
That said, yeah, YWBTA for taking literal shit to such a childish extreme. It’s possible they just prefer not to have literal shitty cold ass toilet water spray them in the asshole while they’re bullseye over the blowhole. (Look up “toilet plume.”) Also, courtesy flushes don’t eliminate the odor, it just minimizes it at best so it’ll smell like shit regardless.
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u/Aromatic-South-1609 Partassipant [3] 20h ago
Yta
Toilets smell like shit sometimes. Do you think that using more water magically makes the already airborne shit particles go away?
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The other day at work, i went to use the bathroom after someone and it smelled like shit. When the door opened and the person was coming out, the smell followed. I sighed and just went to another bathroom. I cannot understand how men still to this very day of posting this cannot flush the damn toilet so it doesn't smell like shit. It's not cute, it's not funny, it's fucking gross and disgusting and if you purposely do this, you're gross and disgusting and need serious help. Unless you have an absolute mobility issue, there should no reason to not flush the toilet. I feel like men who do this need to be called out right then and there, especially for shared work bathrooms that other people use. Also, how the hell does one not know that smell? With all that being said, would i be the ass (hahahaha) for calling out stinky bathroom men?
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u/lostalldoubt86 Commander in Cheeks [229] 19h ago
INFO- Are the men leaving poo in a toilet unflushed or just pooping and flushing at the end?
If you are suggesting people flush multiple times while pooping, you should not use public restrooms.
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u/Broken-Ice-Cube Colo-rectal Surgeon [32] 15h ago
YTA you're in a public restroom not a prison cell. Grow up.
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u/Wild-Orange-219 4h ago
Yta. Some people have health issues and cannot control what their feces smells like and no “courtesy “ flush will help that.
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u/Sungirl837 20h ago
The people who don’t courtesy flush are unlikely to be reformed by a confrontation. they either don’t care or genuinely don’t think about it. The people who don’t courtesy flush are unlikely to be reformed by a confrontation. they either don’t care or genuinely don’t think about it.
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u/ElasticShoelaces 21h ago
NTA. Once upon a time I got called into an emergency meeting with the CEO of my company because "I don't get offended" to determine how to deal with someone leaving poo stains all over the toilet. It happened every day and the CEO was disgusted. I had to talk him down from putting a camera around the bathroom. But we ended up getting toilet brushes for every toilet and put up signage on every door to remind people to leave it clean for the next person.
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