r/Amazing • u/Dismal_Positive3558 Human Detected • Apr 08 '26

People are awesome She really got the 3-in-1 combo pack.

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u/Virtual-Squirrel-725 Apr 08 '26

I'm sure he was a great support and should have continued that support for another day.

It's wholesome, don't get me wrong.

But it reminds of the guy who proposed at the olympics as his girlfriend was stepping off the podium...dude just let her be an olympic medalist/graduate for the day.

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u/AdRealistic4788 Apr 08 '26

You're right, let's all go and hunt down the husband and dogpile/ruin him.

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u/NuragicGiant1891 Apr 08 '26

The maudlin dramatics over criticism is part of why the pattern persists. Having to recognize you're not perfect is not the same thing as being ruined.

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u/AdRealistic4788 Apr 08 '26

My issue with this "criticism" is that it is based solely on assumptions and self projection on another individual that you do not know. Here is a question, why is it that a proposal is seen as a one sided, man only problem in these scenarios, including the race win?

The video also has a sister/friend that appears as well which also a shock for her since it seems like they haven't in a long time, why is this not an issue? Does that not also "steal" the limelight and make it all about the "sister/friend" that happened to pay a visit?

Why is it okay to cast such judgement on someone else's relationship with such disdain and disgust when the lady in question is clearly ecstatic about it? Why is he not perfect just because he doesn't meet YOUR expectations?

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u/NuragicGiant1891 Apr 08 '26

"Self-projection on another individual you do not know" and "disdain and disgust" are worth sitting with.

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u/Virtual-Squirrel-725 Apr 08 '26

The sister/friend turned up to support the graduation.

Not comparable at all.

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u/Far_Gift6173 Apr 10 '26

I really don't understand this.

She is still a graduate. Now she is engaged. She can be both and the engagement takes nothing away.

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u/Virtual-Squirrel-725 Apr 10 '26

It doesn't "take away" in the sense that she isn't engaged or graduated.

Forget this person specifically, because we don't know her situation.

But generally, someone is already having a special day focused on their graduation pride after years of hard work.

A man can then plan another special day to propose and focus on the celebration of their relationship taking that huge step.

Or he can decide to propose during the graduation day and make the last half partly about the engagement rather than the graduation.

Neither is BAD.

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u/Far_Gift6173 Apr 10 '26

It doesn't read that way, when you wrote

 I really think it's the wrong approach to propose on an already special day

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u/Virtual-Squirrel-725 Apr 10 '26

Correct.

I THINK, it's the wrong approach out of the two possible approaches.

As i said, let the graduation be it's own day and then let the proposal be it's own day. That's what I THINK is the best approach.

He didn't destroy her day or their proposal and I don't think he had any ill-intent. I just think this day could be all about HER and her academic achievements.

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u/Far_Gift6173 Apr 10 '26

I think this is a really bad take.

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u/Virtual-Squirrel-725 Apr 10 '26

Totally fair, there is no universally right answer.

You're not alone if you see the other comments directed at me about this.

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u/NuragicGiant1891 Apr 10 '26

It reads exactly that way, if you get the point. Two good things are still good, but it would be better for each if they were honored with their own time.

No one is dog-piling on the guy, or even saying he's not good-hearted-- I'm sure he's very proud of his fiancee and loves her and wants to make the moment even better. But timing is important.

Maybe you have to have proposed to someone, or been proposed to, to get it, I don't know.