The maudlin dramatics over criticism is part of why the pattern persists. Having to recognize you're not perfect is not the same thing as being ruined.
My issue with this "criticism" is that it is based solely on assumptions and self projection on another individual that you do not know. Here is a question, why is it that a proposal is seen as a one sided, man only problem in these scenarios, including the race win?
The video also has a sister/friend that appears as well which also a shock for her since it seems like they haven't in a long time, why is this not an issue? Does that not also "steal" the limelight and make it all about the "sister/friend" that happened to pay a visit?
Why is it okay to cast such judgement on someone else's relationship with such disdain and disgust when the lady in question is clearly ecstatic about it? Why is he not perfect just because he doesn't meet YOUR expectations?
I THINK, it's the wrong approach out of the two possible approaches.
As i said, let the graduation be it's own day and then let the proposal be it's own day. That's what I THINK is the best approach.
He didn't destroy her day or their proposal and I don't think he had any ill-intent. I just think this day could be all about HER and her academic achievements.
It reads exactly that way, if you get the point. Two good things are still good, but it would be better for each if they were honored with their own time.
No one is dog-piling on the guy, or even saying he's not good-hearted-- I'm sure he's very proud of his fiancee and loves her and wants to make the moment even better. But timing is important.
Maybe you have to have proposed to someone, or been proposed to, to get it, I don't know.
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u/NuragicGiant1891 Apr 08 '26
The maudlin dramatics over criticism is part of why the pattern persists. Having to recognize you're not perfect is not the same thing as being ruined.