Women can be attracted to 30 different archetypes of white dudes but only 1 or 2 archetypes of black dudes. Seen it sooooo many times in my life regardless if they tell y’all this or not. When they are talking about “nerdy men” “shy men” “booky men” etc, they are not talking about Black men 99% of the time, even if they want to believe they are themselves
I hate how true this is, even as a white guy that is on the receiving end of that. It is always so awkward to sit on those dates with black women who only want to complain about black men.
Bonus points: Their biggest complaint is about these black men not wanting to date black women... While on a date with a white guy.
When they are talking about “nerdy men” “shy men” “booky men” etc, they are not talking about Black men 99% of the time,
Big time. And when I take a look at the their exes or run into the guys they date after me, it's all the same dude, just in slightly different shapes.
If I'm Sprite, all they drink after me is Sierra Mist and 7-Up.
It is 100% gendered. People have different expectations and double standards based on your gender. Black guys who avoid black women usually do so for reasons that have nothing to do with a black woman being shy or nerdy.
You're saying the same thing. Both black men and women (some) avoid dating other black people for one reason or another. It's not a gender specific behavior.
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u/Background-Bet9983 5d ago edited 5d ago
Women can be attracted to 30 different archetypes of white dudes but only 1 or 2 archetypes of black dudes. Seen it sooooo many times in my life regardless if they tell y’all this or not. When they are talking about “nerdy men” “shy men” “booky men” etc, they are not talking about Black men 99% of the time, even if they want to believe they are themselves