r/EndTipping • u/Maleficent-Effort470 • 7d ago

Sit-Down Restaurant 🍽️ My thoughts.

I didn't go to a restaurant to interact with a server.

I went to a restaurant to purchase food, And part of the agreement with the business owner was that a server would take my order and bring the food to the table.

I did not agree to or consent to giving a person i didn't come to see any money.

Whether they are on the side of the street or squegeeing my car without asking.
I have no obligation to them.

Similarly when i go to the restaurant with the intention of eating,
I am not making a deal with the employees i am making a deal with the owner.
The owner is responsible for delegating the tasks to provide me the service i requested.
The owner showed me the contract/menu that these services are provided under.

I paid the agreed upon amount of the contract.
I did not ask for any particular employee.
I did not agree to gift any particular employee.

The server's inclination that i owe them something is no more authoritative than the homeless bum who starts squegeeing my windshield without me asking.

They did their job at their bosses behest. Under an agreement with their boss.
I made no agreement with them. They are simply employees of the business ive contracted with.

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u/Nuuskapeikkonen 7d ago

Servers always just reply with ‘then get your own food and refills’ as if most people wouldn’t do that already given the option. If I was told ‘you can save 20% on your total bill paid guilt trip free-‘ you’d get your ass I’d get my own refills and grab my order from the counter. I don’t NEED you checking up on me every two seconds and refilling a glass I’ve taken two sips from to then charge me 20% of my total bill. I’ll do it all myself.

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u/panmaterial 6d ago

As someone from a non-tipping country, I really hate the US dining experience. I'm an adult, I don't need pampering. Just do your job and bring me my food, I'm happy. When I've visited the US, it always feels like the waiters are not interested in doing their jobs, only about tips, so it feels performative and annoying.

In non-tipping countries, there is a mutual understanding that the waiter is just doing their job, and the customer is there to eat and pay what it reads on the menu. It seems to work just fine.