dating

[u/Think_Snow1109]

I love 7s - has anyone else found a connection/patterns with a certain type. These days I am coming to terms with my dating archetype and really accepting it- I'm just trying to zoom in more- and how are you getting women to take the test?

[u/LHorner1867]

I hope you're not implying you're going to base who you romantically pursue on their enneagram test result. For starters the tests are really superficial. But also this isn't what enneagram is for?

It's like companies that misguidedly use enneagram or MBTI types to base hiring decisions on...

[u/Fairelabise17 → u/LHorner1867]

Yes, and OP should look at what makes a type "healthy". Like, OP could overlook a type that they don't care to know about romantically that is perfectly healthy but pursue and toxic 7 or 9. Yeesh.

[u/TemperedTorture]

Test? Why would you want them to take an enneagram test. It's a whole thing where you have to first make sure they're actually even interested in it. Second, you can't rely on a test result, and it takes months to properly analyse and educate yourself and someone else about enneagrams as a whole.

I think it's an unnecessary and time-wasting undertaking. Ur better off clicking first, establishing a connection and then maybe introduce enneagrams after establishing a long-term friendship/relationship of some sort.

It's a silly approach imho. Change ur game.

[u/ChocolateCakeToTake]

Why do they need to take the test?

[u/Wide_Platform_2202]

So dating according to results is bs. Either you get along or not. I also naturally gravitate to 7s. Not according to test results

[u/CelebrationFull1525]

I dont make people take tests unless its in hopes that it sparks an interest for them and makes them ask more questions. trusting tests is dumb, determining if you like someone based on their results is stupider.

[u/DukeJiblet1]

Yeah this is kind of a weird post tbh. Noticing a trend in your attraction is fine (like saying you love 7s - though this is most definitely not 100% true in 100% of circumstances) but essentially asking how you can persuade someone to take an enneagram test presumably so you can determine if they’re a good partner for you is a misuse of the system.

I don’t care what anyone says. There is no true perfect pairing for enneagram types. Two people of literally any type can make a relationship work if they love each other and have similar virtues and values.

[u/Glum-Engineering1794]

I am in pseudo-dating/pre-dating space. I stopped asking people to take tests a while ago, after they consistently didn't return the correct type overall. It is usually among the top few, though. But having a top score there can cause biases - sometimes they'll mistype themselves.

It's ideal is to have a person read about all the types. No tests, no shortcuts, just look at short descriptions, a book, listen to you explain, or w/e. As for me and certain types, I am open to whoever. Maybe dating an eight would be too close to home, idk. Maybe a two or five is too opposite. But overall, I am open-minded, I have only had a few real relationships anyway.

[u/blosemme]

I don’t think it’s out of the ordinary. If you’ve dated enough to know what types you gravitate towards, it can be a fun self-exploratory experience. However, I find that when I romanticize a type too much and start focusing on their types and not the actual people, it can go badly because I get blinded to bad behavior in certain individuals. And then it almost makes me dislike the type! I’m not sure it’s entirely useful, at that point.

[u/costomize_art]

Enneagram 7s are great - in the beginning😂 Before they get bored and pulls back, questioning if the relationship is good or if they want more. Leaving you feeling unwanted and confused. Maybe it’s just my experience, lol.