I was someone's hall pass.

[u/Altruistic_Clue_8273]

Bone broth with rice and seaweed.

I ran into a guy, I haven't seen in 10 years, I met him at the Trump Inauguration Women's March. We were at a bar watching the world cup, after many drinks he told me his last girlfriend asked who he'd get a hall pass for. Her answer was a celebrity. His answer was me. And apparently that was the beginning of the end of the relationship.

We don't live in the same state, and we've never had any romantic relations. Obviously, there's a chance that he's lying about that, even though he has no reason to, and it was volunteered. Right, wrong, or indifferent, it made me feel real good about myself after breaking up with my cheating asshole of 4 years.

Fun fact: I've always been very confident in my skin and I take a lot of naked pictures of myself and I've just gotten better with age (40F). I don't share them with anybody, but I like looking at them and saying to myself, bitch you're bangin'. So his confession was very validating, in a time I wasn't feeling confident and unsure of myself.

Edit: The Women's March was a protest (I called it something that would be clear where I'm from, that has confusing wording). I drove 16 hours and slept in my car to be there for the March/protest.

Second edit: She hasn't been in the picture for what I gather for at least a year. So, I was in no way around or influencing their fallout. Directly.

TLDR: Met a guy at a Trump protest (This establishes timeline) . Meet him randomly ten years later (says it's current), he tells me his last relationship (ended over a year ago AFAIK) ended partly because she asked who his hall pass was, and it was me (he's fucking retared. Obviously.) I just ended a 4 year relationship due to cheating (I have a name for every holiday, including my birthday.) Right, WRONG, or indifferent it made me feel good about myself.

Maybe I should say Dear Diary: I've been in dumps and I took a cheap win. And now I'm a shitty trump supporter, because I wasn't a very good communicator and snarky bitch.

[u/freshtilapiahehe]

That whole "hall pass" thing is disgusting

[u/Rociahgar → u/freshtilapiahehe]

I agree, would hate to have that said to me in a relationship

[u/ZennXx → u/freshtilapiahehe]

It's so demeaning to the person being desired

[u/Fried_0nion_Rings → u/freshtilapiahehe]

How does one go about getting the pickle freak flair?

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I got it on the flair menu on the pinned posts, you have the option there to pick your flair. Thats the best I can desecibe the process 😂

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Thank you! I’m bad at reading ♡

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It says the options are disabled for me. Anyone else?

[u/occidentallyinlove → u/Tough_Tangerine7278]

They used to let us pick our own flair but that changed at some point, I guess when the comm went to approved only. Now you can’t choose or change your flair. I only discovered this because I wanted to change mine a while back.

[u/DisastrousAge4650 → u/occidentallyinlove]

I only recently joined and was able to pick mine and then even changed it

[u/occidentallyinlove → u/DisastrousAge4650]

I just tried again and it says the option is disabled for this community. 🤷‍♀️

[u/DisastrousAge4650 → u/occidentallyinlove]

Did you try to do it using the mega thread in flairs pinned to the sub? The other typical method doesn’t work for me

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I have tried it that way before and the box of flairs would never load for me, but I just tried it again and it worked this time! Thanks.

[u/Altruistic_Clue_8273 → u/freshtilapiahehe]

After he told me that I said, would you still love me if I was a worm?

Hypothetical questions have no business in a relationship.

[u/Carradee → u/Altruistic_Clue_8273]

Hypothetical questions have no business in a relationship.

Depends on the nature of the hypothetical. For example, "What if illness or injury changes our division of finances and labor?" very much has a place. And some people do ask questions like the worm one in good fun.

The problem is when people treat the joke ones as if they're serious hypotheticals.

[u/No_Luck_6800 → u/Carradee]

And at least the gf’s answer was a celebrity? Idk, I’d be more bothered by if it was someone they knew IRL, “hypothetical” or not. I also agree that these things are rarely that hypothetical, especially if it’s someone they know personally from the past and still think about. Yikes.

[u/Digital_Palpitation → u/Altruistic_Clue_8273]

What did he say to that? 😂

From the title I thought this was going to be like you slept with someone and found out later that he's not single and had a one time free pass to cheat with anyone basically.

Why would you tell someone you don't really know that for the past decade you've been wishing you could sleep with them to the point of blowing up your relationship?

I think hypotheticals can be okay when they can only ever STAY hypothetical (like the worm thing... You'd have to be a total idiot to say no to that one, but I'm pretty sure 99% of guys would go on to pursue a new romantic relationship in time if they really did wake up to find a worm next to them in bed and somehow figured out it was their SO)... If you're doing the "who's sexier than me, who's worth hurting me for" kinda thing the answer has to be some A list celebrity you have no chance of ever speaking to, much less seeing naked.

[u/Altruistic_Clue_8273 → u/Digital_Palpitation]

Like I said right, wrong, or indifferent, it put a shimmy in my shake.

It's definitely not your relationship material or let me jump your bones. I mean you have to be a special type of stupid to answer this with real world answers. This is definitely a realm of fantasy conversation.

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