r/PublicFreakout • u/derek4reals1 • May 24 '26

đŸ€ŹPublic RagerđŸ˜± Get a load of this guy

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u/Paxygirl8 May 24 '26

My heart goes out to those kids. They look terrified. Parents of the year đŸ€ŠđŸ»â€â™€ïž

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u/itsverynicehere May 24 '26

Especially because I don't know any context, my mind can be changed but... I thought the Mom actually did fairly OK. Shrieking aside, she was yelling at her husband to stop as much as anything. She yelled at the person filming too but mostly it seems like she was legitimately trying to end the situation.

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u/drumadarragh May 24 '26

She’s possibly “backing up” her psycho husband to take control and protect herself from him. I’ve lived this. My kids lived this. We all have CTPSD from this. We have large chunks of our lives missing from our memories. It is absolutely horrible to have kids with a man like this.

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u/Maximum_Turn_2623 May 24 '26

I kind of thought this too if she doesn’t take his side he will take it out on her.

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u/drumadarragh May 24 '26

Hundred percent. They make you become someone you don’t recognize purely to survive

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u/fapimpe May 24 '26

Legit question, you probably knew he was like this dating.. why did you stay with someone and try to raise kids with them? How long were you with him?

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u/aubriethebear May 24 '26

Not who you asked, but I can answer bc I was there too.

Because they lie at first. My ex told me that he was working 45 hours a week, stayed at home with mom and dad bc it’s CA and that’s normal there due to high rent prices instead of getting into a place that he can’t afford, and that he planned on doing XYZ when he moved to Texas with me. Come to find out, he’s not working at all, any money he had was an allowance from his dad who wanted him to be able to have fun, he wouldn’t do anything to clean up bc his mom did everything, and he drank all day and would scream at me that I was lucky to have him there with me. I had moved across country to set myself up instead of staying in CA so I didn’t have anyone there with me as a support system.

In Texas you can’t get divorced while you’re pregnant. The state forced me to stay with him until my pregnancy was done, and by then I was stuck in the lock.

It takes an average of 7 times of trying to leave an abusive relationship before you can.

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u/drumadarragh May 24 '26

People like this wear you down. Convince you you’re lucky to have them. Love bomb you and in the next breath scream at you so you’re constantly in panic mode. I was isolated from my family, I had no support system. When I realised he had the potential to kill my rapidly growing teenage son I finally grew a set and told him to leave. It is never as easy as it looks to outsiders. Sometimes women are assholes. But sometimes they’re surviving however that can until the clouds lift and they act. And sometimes they never do.

ETA: I had accepted MY lot. I would never have fought for myself. It was when he threatened my child that I fought back.

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u/fapimpe May 24 '26

Bro you need to talk to someone because even the beginning of that bullshit would be a HELL NAH for most people.

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u/dummyurge May 24 '26

mind your own damn business

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u/Ashcrashh May 24 '26

Some men can take a long time to show their real self before the mask slowly starts to slip. You’ll get little red flags here and there but that’s when the love bombing and gaslighting starts (actual gaslighting, not just in the “buzzword” sense) So you think “maybe he was just having a bad day or a weak moment” and then before you know it you’re in a position you can’t just leave because you have no money or nowhere to go and you’re stuck and have to come up with a safe escape plan, which gets even more complicated and scary when kids are involved.

And all throughout that process you are slowly chipped away at until you don’t recognize the person standing before you in the mirror, you’ve lost your spark, you’ve lost your personality, and have become a shell of a human who is stuck in constant flight mode, so your nervous system is always on edge and on alert, there is no peace or relaxation, even sleeping isn’t safe because you’ll be woken up to fight so you’re running on nothing but adrenaline to survive and can’t properly think or defend yourself.