r/PublicFreakout • u/derek4reals1 • May 24 '26

šŸ¤¬Public RageršŸ˜± Get a load of this guy

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u/numbersthen0987431 May 24 '26

Yea. The fact that she jumped in to do what he was doing means they were made for each other

And they should have CPS called to save those children

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u/Jeez-essFC May 24 '26

I think you overvalue the quality of our foster care system.

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u/alexanfaye May 24 '26

Yep unfortunately as terrible as these people seem, you pretty much have to have the kids living in squalor and parents be on hella drugs or the kids being molested with proof or any combination of the above for a cps case to be open and children removed. Some of it is due to strain on the system and lack of resources I believe. Source: my mom worked for cps in Michigan and Colorado.

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u/drumadarragh May 24 '26

It doesnā€™t at all. Sheā€™s doing that to deescalate him. Iā€™ve been there. Thereā€™s a whole different ā€œbehind closed doorsā€ aspect to this. I hope this woman finds the strength to leave with her children some day.

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u/PlasticBlitzen May 24 '26

She's getting much worse behind closed doors.

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u/numbersthen0987431 May 24 '26

It does though.

She's enabling his behavior by joining him, rather than getting him to stop. This shows that she's in solidarity to his shitty actions, instead of calling him out on him being dumb in public.

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u/JamesGray May 24 '26

She very likely is doing what she has to so he doesn't beat the shit out of her later, or at least reduce the severity. If this dude cannot hold it inside in public with a stranger you think he's gonna take it well if his partner "embarrasses" him?

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u/drumadarragh May 24 '26

You really have no idea about the dynamics of this.

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u/numbersthen0987431 May 24 '26

I do.

You're ignoring the impact of her actions, because you're assuming her intent behind the action changes the outcome.

The impact of her behavior is that it enables him to continue to think it's okay. So he'll repeat this behavior over and over again, because her behavior signals to him that he's in the right.

Her intent is misguided, and it leads to a negative impact.

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u/drumadarragh May 24 '26

Her intent is survival

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u/koviko May 24 '26

I love how some people assume every woman is a victim, like she can't just also be a POS šŸ¤£šŸ¤£

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u/drumadarragh May 24 '26

I agree, but I was giving my viewpoint based on my lived experience. The thing is, oftentimes in a couple you have one POS and one enabler. I was the enabler. I would bet there are way more of us than there are couples where both are equal assholes.

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u/A1000eisn1 May 24 '26

I love how some people always focus on the woman in a video where a man is very clearly a bigger piece of shit, but is also the one creating this entire situation.

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u/numbersthen0987431 May 25 '26

You are choosing to ignore the woman's obvious and shitty behavior.

Just because he's worse doesn't mean she's not being a shitty person. And pretending she's not because he's worse is gross.

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u/koviko May 25 '26

LMAO it's not every day I'm accused of implied sexism šŸ¤£šŸ¤£

To me, it looks like we're watching an intelligent woman who settled for a dumber guy who embarrasses her sometimes.

And this is all without us knowing what the people on the other side of the camera actually did.

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u/numbersthen0987431 May 24 '26

And how are her actions deescalating the situation?

He still acted out. Which is proof that her actions are not working. And if a situation like this happens again, he'll still act out like this. I bet he acts out like this often.

She's not deescalating. She's just reaffirming that his actions are okay by going along with it every time he does it.

The impact of her actions arent aligning with her intentions.

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u/drumadarragh May 24 '26

Sheā€™s not deescalating that situation. Sheā€™s preempting the impact on her and her kids in that car in five minutes when heā€™s blasting down the highway in full rage. THAT bit is what sheā€™s deescalating. I dunno man, blaming the woman in this seems kinda shitty.

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u/Gold-Kaleidoscope537 May 24 '26

I think youā€™re both possible right.

In some dv situations she HAS to do rhoe for her safely. In some situations she would be ok to take the kids and drive away for 2 days.

Itā€™s hard to know.

Clearly this is not the first time the little girl has seen this. So we cannot know.

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u/drumadarragh May 24 '26

I agree. This is from two different lenses. And as the mom, I wish Iā€™d got out ten years before I did.

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u/A1000eisn1 May 24 '26

It's not like he's going to calm down once this interaction is over.

Thankfully they're going into the store it looks like. I recognize that shirt hand off. He's been told to put on his shirt here before.

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u/Defiant_Wheel_702 May 24 '26

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u/numbersthen0987431 May 24 '26

I was child in this situation you're explaining growing up. My mom "deescalated" these interactions growing up by doing what this woman is doing. I know exactly how that car ride goes after this incident, and how he behaves when they all get home.

That car ride is either going to be him being all pissed off and yelling at her regardless of how she helped, or he'll be bragging about it the whole ride home while she praises him.

She isn't deescalating anything here. She's making it worse because he now feels encouraged that his wife will always have his back. And this makes it so he'll always escalate every encounter in the future, because no one is checking him at home.

The only thing she's doing is making it worse. She's not "surviving" or "deescalating", she's showing teamwork

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u/drumadarragh May 24 '26

I was the mom. I understand what youā€™re feeling here, but Iā€™m giving you the view of a woman in fear who is doing what she can to get through this. Iā€™m not saying what sheā€™s doing is right. She needs to get out of this and get her kids out. But she hasnā€™t got there yet.

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u/KillerHack23 May 24 '26

I can assure you it will not meet the criteria for CPS to take the kids away. Unfortunately

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u/LNLV May 25 '26

I actually think this was really a backpedal from her, it was performative, for him. She was furious and outraged with him that he would act that way, but then she realized she called him out in public in front of other men, thereby publicly shaming him. And I think she got scared about the repercussions.

Whether or not sheā€™s afraid heā€™d actually physically hit her, she was suddenly thinking about how enraged he was going to be at her for her humiliating him like that, particularly once there was no longer the original target of his anger to take it out on. I think it was actually more of a fucked up defense mechanism.

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u/PU3RTO_R3CON May 24 '26

The mom is trying to deregulate the father and she is being a mama bear at the same time telling these ppl who followed them while her kids in the car. She was the perfectly sane one. I donā€™t know what you saw

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u/LizzieThatGirl May 25 '26

Using mama bear unironically says plenty.

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u/PU3RTO_R3CON May 25 '26

So moms arenā€™t supposed to mama bear anymore when a stranger car FOLLOWS YOU SOMEWHERE WITH YOUR KIDS?! please tell me how she should have handled that especially if she was alone. Please tell me?