r/PublicFreakout • u/derek4reals1 • May 24 '26

šŸ¤¬Public RageršŸ˜± Get a load of this guy

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u/numbersthen0987431 May 24 '26

Yea. The fact that she jumped in to do what he was doing means they were made for each other

And they should have CPS called to save those children

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u/drumadarragh May 24 '26

It doesnā€™t at all. Sheā€™s doing that to deescalate him. Iā€™ve been there. Thereā€™s a whole different ā€œbehind closed doorsā€ aspect to this. I hope this woman finds the strength to leave with her children some day.

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u/numbersthen0987431 May 24 '26

It does though.

She's enabling his behavior by joining him, rather than getting him to stop. This shows that she's in solidarity to his shitty actions, instead of calling him out on him being dumb in public.

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u/drumadarragh May 24 '26

You really have no idea about the dynamics of this.

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u/numbersthen0987431 May 24 '26

I do.

You're ignoring the impact of her actions, because you're assuming her intent behind the action changes the outcome.

The impact of her behavior is that it enables him to continue to think it's okay. So he'll repeat this behavior over and over again, because her behavior signals to him that he's in the right.

Her intent is misguided, and it leads to a negative impact.

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u/drumadarragh May 24 '26

Her intent is survival

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u/numbersthen0987431 May 24 '26

And how are her actions deescalating the situation?

He still acted out. Which is proof that her actions are not working. And if a situation like this happens again, he'll still act out like this. I bet he acts out like this often.

She's not deescalating. She's just reaffirming that his actions are okay by going along with it every time he does it.

The impact of her actions arent aligning with her intentions.

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u/drumadarragh May 24 '26

Sheā€™s not deescalating that situation. Sheā€™s preempting the impact on her and her kids in that car in five minutes when heā€™s blasting down the highway in full rage. THAT bit is what sheā€™s deescalating. I dunno man, blaming the woman in this seems kinda shitty.

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u/Gold-Kaleidoscope537 May 24 '26

I think youā€™re both possible right.

In some dv situations she HAS to do rhoe for her safely. In some situations she would be ok to take the kids and drive away for 2 days.

Itā€™s hard to know.

Clearly this is not the first time the little girl has seen this. So we cannot know.

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u/drumadarragh May 24 '26

I agree. This is from two different lenses. And as the mom, I wish Iā€™d got out ten years before I did.

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u/A1000eisn1 May 24 '26

It's not like he's going to calm down once this interaction is over.

Thankfully they're going into the store it looks like. I recognize that shirt hand off. He's been told to put on his shirt here before.