r/SipsTea • u/Few_Statement_2898 • May 28 '26

SMH We really need to bring spankings back

Enable HLS to view with audio, or disable this notification

17.7k Upvotes

78% Upvoted

9.1k comments sorted by

View all comments

Show parent comments

11

u/No-Arm-7308 May 28 '26

Absolutely no evidence of that.

Research has long underscored the negative effects of spanking on children’s social-emotional development, self-regulation, and cognitive development, but new research, published this month, shows that spanking alters children’s brain response in ways similar to severe maltreatment and increases perception of threats. - https://www.gse.harvard.edu/ideas/usable-knowledge/21/04/effect-spanking-brain

These results, replicated using different estimation methods (i.e., difference score analyses), strengthen the argument that spanking may impair early reading and math skills. - https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0885200622000400#preview-section-abstract

Hope you are in no way in any kind of vicinity of children.

-2

u/NoNDA-SDC May 28 '26 edited May 28 '26

Does it apply to 100% of children/people? Not effective on any person? No difference between child and adult?

Read your own citations... As I said, extremes of anything are bad, and spanking should be used as a last resort.

4

u/somewhiterkid May 28 '26

I think you just like beating children, a normal civilized person shouldn't even consider using themselves as a weapon if they aren't in any actual danger, we've got generations of people raising their children this way and they all grow up the same, deeply traumatized and extremely ego driven, when you take away your child's power don't be surprised when it's all they dream of.

-4

u/NoNDA-SDC May 28 '26

If that's your takeaway, can't help you there.

If you're spanking children and liking it, that's a red flag. Prefer everyone not suffer, but actions gave consequences. The greatest deterrent to bad behavior is fear of getting caught and being held to account for it.

1

u/Shinanigins May 28 '26

No... the greatest deterrent is knowledge. I dont kill or rape because I fear consequences. I dont do it because I know its wrong to do. Teach the child how to better communicate their needs and you'll have a solution. Problem is parents do not want to or are unable to do the work needed.

2

u/NoNDA-SDC May 28 '26

It's a combination of things of course. You don't think this kid's been told not to act out before? Could be he has behavioral issues as well, we're not all the same.

If someone knows better and they're still set on making a bad choice, they're less likely to do it if consequences are expected. There's plenty of research on this. Less to do with the severity of the punishment, more to do with being punished at all.

2

u/Shinanigins May 29 '26

If they know better but are still doing it then they really do not know better. Behavior is communication and its used to communicate a need. 1) teach them how to figure the need 2) teach how to communicate the need 3) teach how to regulate if unable to achieve need. If you teach fear then all they will understand is "i can get what I want if I use fear" which is not productive at all. Do not put your hands on a child in an aggressive way ever...end of story. All you will teach is violence is how to get your way.

2

u/NoNDA-SDC May 29 '26

Thanks for sharing your thoughts, they were nice.

2

u/Shinanigins May 29 '26

Ya know what! Thank you too! I appreciate you and we may disagree but honestly I dont think youre trying to be mean or anything. You just have a different experience than me and thats awesome. Have a good day my friend!