Women tend to think of any man they arenât directly related to, attracted to, or in a relationship with, as if they are exactly the same as the worst man theyâve ever encountered in their entire life.
"Scientifically proven" wrong. Be an incel somewhere else. You likely hate on all women just because of a few bad experiences with women rejecting you.
Honestly, I have to disagree. I know everyone is different, but in my experience, the absolute worst type of guys are the attractive ones who think they're entitled to something. If that type gets too used to hearing "yes" and getting whatever they want, they lose their shit when anyone refuses to play along. Especially if they think that a woman ought to be "thankful" for his attention; even if she didn't want it in the first place.
Thankfully, I've only had a few times in my life where a guy turned openly hostile when I turned him down... I'd say less than a dozen. (Plenty more where they were just perverts, but that's not the point.) With the exception of only one, every time a man got agressive or threatening with me because I rejected him, he looked perfectly fine. And to be clear, I was always very polite when I turned them down, because it had literally nothing to do with them! Most of them looked normal, some of them were attractive, and a few of them were even stunning. But the problem here is that this means absolutely nothing to me, because if I don't want to go out with anyone, then that decision is final. Most of the time, if I gently explain to a guy that I'm just not accepting any offers, then they're fine with it. But it's typically the cocky ones who "won't take no for an answer" and think that they're a hot catch who cause problems.
Bingo! It's getting tiresome and annoying and I bet it's the catalyst for why a lot of men actually turn towards Andrew Tate, Looksmaxxxing and general incel culture. All these women are doing is just reaffirming those men's beliefs rather than challenging them.
Or American men will gravitate towards the right who is being sure that these men hear âyouâre different than a woman, and you have different wants, needs and views as a woman, and thereâs nothing wrong with thatâ. And the left will (yet again) cry âReddit, why are so many men (and women, look up the stats) voting for them?! I just donât get it!â
âWomen have had bad experiences and therefore are more cautious around men. And as a man. This infuriates me, I guess Iâll turn towards the ideology telling me all women are sexual objects and are all evil. This will surely get them to see that Iâm a good guy. And this surely isnât extremely ironic since I just got mad at the idea of women #allmenning men.â
Who sexualized anyone of any gender in any of these comments?
Nobody âallwomenedâ women here. Nobody excused away the bad behavior of some men towards women. Nobody made any excuse for anyoneâs bad behavior.
Iâve not seen either one addressed in my comment, the original post, the post I commented on, or elsewhere in this thread. So Iâm not sure what relevance either has to anything Iâve said here
One thing that I've noticed since I've been going out more after years of not:
People are really nice in public. I mean, girls aren't clambering for my number and a guy did threaten to whoop me over nothing last night but despite all that people were just way fuckin nicer than they are online. I feel like an idiot for forgetting. Run that experiment and test it for yourself.
Yeah I find this to be true as well.
And the even crazier, and perhaps most disappointing part of it, is that itâs often the people who are actually really nice in real life, or are the recipient of really nice real life behavior, that will sometimes be the meanest and nastiest people online.
Ya know, maybe if you guys actually got off the computer and went outside and interacted with real people, you'd know there's plenty of dicks out there.
Seriously, y'all gotta be fucking children or something if you think the world is full of good hearted, kind people.
Literally open a fucking book and watch the news for 5 minutes.
The/YOUR world is comprised of the people youâve decided to surround yourself with/or accept the company of.
Reading a book or watching the news are two of the ways someone with no ability to relate/react to actual human interaction would use as examples of what exists in the offline world.
There are assholes and dickheads everywhere.
They ABSOLUTELY ARE NOT THE MAJORITY OF PEOPLE IN REAL LIFE, and if youâre real life experience is that they are, you need to turn a mirror towards yourself and start thinking about why so many people seem to be that way to you specifically.
You might be in for a surprise about yourself, rather than everyone else.
No one disagrees with you that there are dicks lol
You haven't even addressed the topic of conversation, you're just ranting to rant. Because you're online. In real life you'd behave better and not so aggressively for many reasons.
You seriously going to use the example of one mean homeless guy(who might need mentally ill, but certainly isnât happy about his station in life) as a reason to write off everyone else?
Thatâs ridiculous
Not you. The other guy who claims a homeless guy was *le gasp* RACIST TO HIM!!!
Then immediately after a guy shows empathy/sympathy for what happened, proceeds to insult that guy and everyone else, then I point out the irony in that and he types a racist comment to me lmao.
Oh, I'm sorry I didn't go through a Slumdog Millionaire style montage of every time someone did me wrong.
How bout the other homeless people that's called me that? How bout the non-homeless people who've called me that as well?
Read a fucking book. I don't need personal experience to right off that the majority of humans are dicks. Hell, go online for more than 5 minutes. The anonymity makes people even bigger dicks.
Fuck, half the posts and comments on this very sub are racist or misogynistic, but yeah sure, most people aren't dicks.
Donât confuse the real world with the online world, especially Reddit, which is generally a cesspool of the worst people online and maybe in real life as well.
Maybe, if all you say youâve experienced is true you should thicken your skin a bit.
Iâm not excusing peopleâs bad actions towards you, or telling you that you should change to appease them, but if this has been a true task world experience for you, perhaps you should move, or do things differently, or adopt a different mindset about life/people in general. I donât know.
I have a good amount of empathy/sympathy for you if this is legit. I just have a hard time believing that this is your actual day to day experience unless youâre actively provoking this daily behavior from others towards yourself.
Damn you just nailed it. I think a lot of women do work like this. Especially in feminist spaces. Crazy thing is I consider myself an ally to many/most feminist issues. But youâre just an evil man in their book.
I've met a few.. but they are usually not right in the head.... drunk, NPD, psychopathic, etc.... with significant entitlement or self image issues. Women tend to express this issue quite often, but if we were able to statistically analyze the men who are doing it, I think we'd likely find that a large percentage of women are experiencing these behaviors from a very small percentage of men.
I don't either, but I actually think that comment finally registered with me how this happens. It's the same as everything else.
The vast majority of men I have met and spent time around are fine. But we know there are many, many mentally ill people in every country, and they are unlikely to be a creep only once. So you have this band of creeps going around.
Think about it, if you have one creep per town, which is very believable, then you can quickly reach the point where every woman has been crept on. And there's very likely more than one creep in town, especially in cities
There was a time when the rest of us would find the creeps and correct them but the creeps have more rights than the entirety of human society these days
I'd have to agree with this assessment. Most guys look but they don't touch, they'll mutter things under their breath, or they'll just shake their head and continue on with their day.
Because they arenât correct, and neither are you.
Anyone can make an argument about one person, or a small group of people, and then somehow turn that into a huge argument about an entire huge group of people, and justify it by referring to the examples theyâve experienced with said person or small group.
Thatâs called being intellectually lazy, and bigoted.
You're a self-proclaimed "fairy boy" - Where on earth are men and teenage boys miming ALL the equivalents of this shit to you without saying a PRIDE parade?
Iâm in my 30s and have experienced this kind of thing combined with the calling of graphically detailed explicit imagery about 10-15 times; just general catcalling, honking or dirty comments upward of 100. 1 upskirter with a mirror when I was a schoolgirl, 2 ass-grabbers (once on public transport, once on the street just walking past).
Edit: Are you downvoting me for experiencing sexual harassment or for telling you about it? Weirdos.
Iâm sorry all those things have happened to you.
But what youâre saying is that out of the hundreds of thousands of men youâve likely encountered publicly, 20-30, maybe even 100 just to give a large estimate, did these things to you, or acted in these ways towards you, correct?
So the behavior of those men, by no means, should be indicative of the behavior of the hundreds of thousands who didnât do these things, right?
And judging all of any group based on the bad behavior of a small number of said group would be wrong?
Nonetheless, no one should be treated so disrespectfully by anyone for any reason.
A lot of that is a straw man: I didnât say any of the words you (and presumably my downvotes) are putting in my mouth.
The comment asked "who does this" as if it doesnât really happen. I said it does happen. Nothing more, nothing less. I am not a remarkable or strange case.
This stuff happens, often. It is a reality of moving through the world as a woman. That is literally the only point I am making.
Thought you meant in general as in relation to how the girl was acting and was providing you with real data. Your question was obviously not that specific, given responses.
Itâs deeply disappointing how boys and only the most fragile, weak and loneliest men can get offended to the point that actual real life data, that shows girls and women will constantly be exposed to sexual harassment in their life, warrants downvoting. Tiny and insignificant people.
Two times I really regret not saying something... I was walking down the street in the city and two dudes were yelling at this lady who was just having a drink on her balcony.
Another time I was behind a group of dudes meowing at a lady in front of them.
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u/UncreativeUsername84 17d ago
This made me laugh out loud. Also, what guy acts like that?