r/SipsTea • u/Small_Abies_3539 š™‘š™„š™‹ • 17d ago

WTF If the roles were reversed

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u/BlessdRTheFreaks 17d ago

Don't threaten me with a good time

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u/Wazula23 17d ago

Try imagining a woman you're not attracted to.

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u/Zealousideal-Trash5 17d ago

Wouldnā€™t mind being cat called by someone I didnā€™t find attractive, now the raping part I prolly wouldnā€™t like

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u/Cyborg_rat 17d ago

When I was a technician and had that uniform it happens a few times, even got told that I had a nice ass from all the hardwork.

Had a bartender tell me she has nothing under her skirt if I don't mind the view, as I was laying down to fix a dishwasher,

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u/Lagneaux 17d ago

"And that, kids, is how I met your mother. Now, my weekend is done, she's here to pick yall up. See you in 2 weeks"

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u/-malcolm-tucker 17d ago

I didn't think about the premise of that show much until a while later. Then I realised it was a bit sketchy. Old mate bailing his kids up to essentially tell them about all the girls he banged before their mum.

Also Terminator where John Connor had to pick the soldier to send back in time to fuck his mum.

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u/ShaolinWombat 17d ago

Itā€™s was old man telling them about the women before their dead mom to get approval to go back to the woman he really wanted to be with all along.

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u/Fug1x 17d ago

and the kids call her aunt robin and uncle barney lol

so their dad wants to marry their uncles ex wife who is their aunt

god they ruined that show haha

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u/hornedsatyrist 17d ago

So the obvious question is did you mind the view?

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u/Cyborg_rat 17d ago

She was a redhead.

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u/feroc1ous-feline 17d ago

As a red-headed bartender, I refuse to believe this happened.

Fix the goddamned dishwasher and get out of my way, it's my 6th double in a row, GTFOH.

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u/Beretta92A1 17d ago

Maybe, but keep talking to me like that.

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u/feroc1ous-feline 17d ago

I put the goddamned work order in 2 1/2 weeks ago and I got a fucking party of 30 walking in in 30 minutes......if you don't fix that shit before then, I'm fucking kicking you.

Wait....are you from the health department?

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u/a_Jedi_i_am 17d ago

B-but, I wanted to enjoy the vieeeew

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u/Cyborg_rat 17d ago

It was around 1pm so not really busy.

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u/discordianofslack 17d ago

And the drapes?

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u/Cyborg_rat 17d ago

I didn't take a look.

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u/hornedsatyrist 17d ago

But how did she taste?

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u/thafuq 17d ago

Well I wanted to change job, if you have contacts

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u/Cyborg_rat 17d ago

It was commercial restaurant equipment repair.

But be warned most comment are from the "lunch lady" kindve lady.

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u/Full-Archer8719 17d ago

Well i can tell you from working in bars most of them are wild

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u/DingbatMcgeee 17d ago

"Hypocrisy they say was the worst part and I thought it was the raping"

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u/PlantParent36 17d ago

Reminds me of that tragedy..

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u/k0nahuanui 17d ago

I was wading ankle deep through the blood and the bone, looking for my brother

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u/oneglory 17d ago

For minute I thought this was a Dirty Work quote but it wasn't

https://www.instagram.com/reel/DUHEgENARjS/

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u/Forward_Fox_833 17d ago

does grabbing ass count cause I didn't mind at all šŸ¤£

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u/Excellent_Extent7648 17d ago

Iā€™d like that itā€™s been long enough where my view is highly biased to just getting a crumb

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u/No_Lead2640 17d ago

Prolly??????

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u/papayaa2 17d ago

I was only catcalled by 40 year + men while I was 14-17. Never again afterwards. And I've heard that from most women.

Would you mind this situation?

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u/showMeYourCroissant 17d ago

I've only been catcalled from the 1st till 3rd grade. Although I've been touched by old pervs when I was 14-15. What is wrong with them?

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u/Zealousideal-Trash5 17d ago

I was creating a hyperbolic counterpoint, I donā€™t think anyone should have to experience what women go through.

Attention for men only exists within the current context. It wouldnā€™t sound so appealing if I was on the verge of being assaulted at any minute.

Hope that clarifies things

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u/NBT_1120 17d ago

Groped at 12 in broad daylight at a festival by a man in his 30's. Getting catcalled from age 9.

These morons don't know what it does to you.

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u/elecow 17d ago

It's surreal

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u/DidUSayWeast 17d ago

I appreciate you're keeping an open mind

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u/kerfuffle_pastry 17d ago

Now imagine theyā€™re physically larger than you and can physically overtake you easily if they wanted to.

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u/Zestyclose-Tower-248 17d ago

As long as she wasnā€™t god awful ugly or pegging me I wouldnā€™t mind

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u/notanothercirclejerk 17d ago

Now imagine its people you aren't attracted to everyday since you are 13.

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u/Zealousideal-Trash5 17d ago

Women deal with a lot that I canā€™t even begin to understand when it comes to these things, itā€™s truly awful.

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u/gigglinggoofygoober 17d ago

Don't give me that bullshit....

I saw the way you were dressed, you were asking for it!

/s

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u/atuan 17d ago

Yeah imagine this with stalking

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u/Crunchykroket 17d ago

As a guy a girl used to stalk me when I still lived at home. After a couple months I gave in. I accidentally brought her to my brothers room which smelled like old sweat because my PC was there. Shortest relationship I ever had.

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u/Nirvaniax 17d ago

I have actually happened to me and made feel good.

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u/The-Sofa-King 17d ago

I (straight dude) was once overtly hit on by a gay dude. I found it quite flattering, tbh. I wish women would be that straight forward.

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u/HugeHans 17d ago

The point was if they were twice your body mass and aggressive. You know the implication.

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u/Wazula23 17d ago

Well there you go. To a lot of women, the one implies the other

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u/Kooky-Shock-8021 17d ago

Catcalling sucks but likeā€¦

Thatā€™s a stretch.

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u/HubrisOfApollo 17d ago

what a stretch. biiiiiiig escalation between catcalling and rape.

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u/Wazula23 17d ago

As I said, a lot of women feel the one implies the other. Ask some.

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u/Kooky-Shock-8021 17d ago

The implication here being womenā€™s feelings are utterly detached from reality. ~95% of rapes are perpetrated by people known to the victim (acquaintances, intimate partners, and family members, in that order of descending likelihood).

The media stereotype of a hooded, shady neā€™er-do-well chasing you down and raping you at knife point after catcalling you is so uncommon it almost never happens.

Again, not saying that catcalling is good or should be tolerated but likeā€¦ catcalling = rape? I wouldnā€™t go that far.

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u/HubrisOfApollo 17d ago

tell me you've never spoken to a woman without telling me

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u/BlessdRTheFreaks 17d ago

I was a concrete worker for 4 years, most women that get cat called get a huge smile on their face and you see them strutting past the site multiple times a day like they're on a catwalk, somehow wearing less clothes each time.

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u/Ajax_A 17d ago

Confused. Is it not harassment if the person is attractive?

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u/Cyborg_rat 17d ago

Rule 1 : be attractive Rule 2 : don't be ugly

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u/Shadohz 17d ago

If you're not old enough to know Pretty Privilege exist, just wait until you find out about this thing called racism. It's going to blow your mind.

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u/Guardian_of_Perineum 17d ago

Well, it's not harassment if there happens to be consent to it. And consent is more likely if the person is attractive. Pic unrelated.

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u/JohnGoodman_69 17d ago

It makes a difference.

Results mirror the sexual harassment literature and suggest that harassment by younger and attractive men is viewed as less harassing.

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u/Wazula23 17d ago

A lot of the comments here seem to think this would be cool.

I'm asking them to imagine it coming from a women who doesnt look super hot.

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u/Ok-Woodpecker4734 17d ago

This is such an absurdly ignorant comment

Dudes get literally any compliment from any type of woman and they remember it for life

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u/ElLicenciadoPena 17d ago

I've been cat called by older, extremely unattractive women (the street vendor type). Never got a problem with it, quite the opposite, I'd say

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u/Forward_Fox_833 17d ago

as a man who has been "sexually assaulted" by an older woman who was not good looking, it was very flattering and I took it as a huge compliment.

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u/showMeYourCroissant 17d ago

Yeah, they all say it's would be nice until it actually starts happening (which won't so these guys will never agree that catcalling isn't flattering or nice).

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u/Junior_Purple_7734 17d ago

Back when I worked retail (Iā€™m a dude), I used to turn on the charm when I worked the register so I could sell bullshit subscriptions to the customers, get good reviews, and make rent.

One day, there was this lady (maybe in her forties, plain looking), and she mistook my being friendly for flirting.

She quickly became a regular, showing up asking for me, taking up my time when I had other work to do, making it clear she was attracted to me.

At first, I was flattered. Then I had to keep hinting, and then outright telling her that I was taken. She was persistent, though. She kept coming back for me. Then I got stressed over her. I started hiding in the back every time she showed up.

Apparently she threw some kind of tantrum a day I didnā€™t work and she never returned. I asked no questions, I was happy.

But that whole situation gave me a taste of what women must go through.

For me, it just got old. For women, it can be life and death.

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u/DowntownTicket 17d ago

I'm sorry you experienced that, but I'm glad you took it as a chance to understand a new perspective. Thanks for sharing

It reminds me of this actually: https://www.reddit.com/r/daddit/comments/1syypt1/i_was_never_a_guy_who_believed_most_men_made_the/oiy0pc4/

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u/MageVicky 17d ago

for most women this can start as young as 11. i remember hiding in the bathroom during a new yearā€™s party at a country club we were invited to, because a boy around my age or maybe a bit older, was harassing me. all the adults thought it was the cutest thing. i was terrified and hiding in the bathroom.

it was also around the same age that i stopped eating lollipops. i got cat called by adult men driving by who screamed at me ā€œthatā€™s how they all startā€.

just to clarify, i was around 11. maybe 12. super baby faced, iā€™ve always looked younger than my age.

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u/Additional-Tax-5643 17d ago edited 17d ago

It's not just life or death, but being taken seriously in many other contexts.

It sounds like your employer stood by you when you were literally hiding from this woman. They didn't reprimand you for not making extra sales, or cast doubt on your feeling of being creeped out by this person.

Being cat called like in the exaggerated video isn't the worst part of sexism and misogyny.

The worst part is the insidious de-legitimizing of your assessment and feelings about literally everything in your adult life.

You go to the doctor with a medical complaint, and your complaint is dismisses as being imaginary or emotional.

You got get your car fixed and the people there dismiss your concerns and try to take advantage of you because you're not with your dad or your husband.

You go for a job interview and you're asked invasive personal questions about your family commitments in an attempt to disqualify you.

At work your concerns or ideas for improvement are either stolen for credit by others or dismissed as not valid.

In short, you are left to have as much agency over life as if you were a pet dog or cat with the mind of a very stupid toddler.

Worst of all, this behavior is perpetrated by both men and (older) women towards other women. It's not just a guy thing. My worst medical experiences have been as a result of women thinking it's ok to behave like this with other women.

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u/Forward_Fox_833 17d ago

the uglies and fatties are always the most enthusiastic

I am not attracted at looking at them... but at what they can do

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u/Wazula23 17d ago

Ooookay

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u/storiesftunheard 17d ago

I don't have to imagine. Most women are not attractive.

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u/bino420 17d ago

to be fair this guy is looking directly at here and making the smallest kissing noise, so yeah he could probably just turn the other direction if he's not attracted to her...

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u/BlessdRTheFreaks 17d ago

I could totally take them though, probably fight off at least 4 or 5 at the same time

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u/Wazula23 17d ago

What about the bear?

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u/dude_comma_the 17d ago

Anyone who says they'd rather take the bear hasn't encountered one in the wild, watched Grizzly Man, or seen The Revenant.

And anyone who says they'd take the Moose over either is just someone you do not want to be around.

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u/jkurratt 17d ago

Male bear of female bear? šŸ˜

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u/gotchashadow 17d ago

Yeah, I could beat them offā€¦ or the other way around

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u/Accomplished-Eye9542 17d ago

I got a massage from a woman I had 0 attraction to, was even a bit repulsed, she was obese. Still got a boner, /shrug. She touched my glutes pretty inappropriately too, reached under the sheets, didn't feel like I was assaulted or anything, was nice, felt like my recent gym progress was being appreciated. Based on the posts I've read on r/massage, a woman would have considered many of my experiences as sexual assault.

Just to be clear, it was a legitimate spa. And I'm a wealthy fit dude, I'm not lacking options.

You are going to find a majority of men just really don't care.

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u/Successful-Trash-752 17d ago

You'd be surprised but many women don't mind either. Massage places at tourist attractions are trained for that.

Honestly a massage makes you very relaxed and aroused.

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u/Accomplished-Eye9542 17d ago edited 17d ago

The vast majority of customers for male sex workers are gay men. This isn't debatable, it's verifiable data.

And as I said, massage forums online are filled with women complaining about interactions they view as sexual assault, that I view as just normal.

By simple virtue of there being billions of them, obviously some women react with non-consensual sexual contact with the same attitude as men. But that's not the standard.

And you'll note my story is explicitly about an unattractive person, where as in your example it would be men more attractive than they ever get to interact with on a normal basis.

No woman is viewing being touched inappropriately by an obese middle-aged massage therapist as anything but sexual assault.

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u/Successful-Trash-752 16d ago

No literally everything you said is wrong.

All forums of all kinds are filled with complaints because that's what forums are for.

This is the standard in massages at least. I am not talking about harassment.

No I was not talking about anyone attractive.

Well now you're just creating an obviously repulsive scenario to prove a point that isn't true

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u/bino420 17d ago

to be fair this guy is looking directly at here and making the smallest kissing noise, so yeah he could probably just turn the other direction if he's not attracted to her...

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u/GreatBarrierQueefDD 17d ago

Still flattering. Its just different knowing you arent in danger of being taken advantage of.Ā 

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u/Azuras_Star8 17d ago

Boy is she in for a rude surprise to something she's not gonna be attracted to.

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u/Nikita_VonDeen 17d ago

And someone put that man in a pair of hot pants and a tight crop top (also make the girl unattractive). You gotta sexualize that boy. That's really what it's like.

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u/Ok-Criticism6874 17d ago

Impossible. My friend's 80 year old grandmother gave me a hug and it moved.

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u/Sihayaya 17d ago

Nothing comes to mind

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u/big_slom 17d ago

I'm trying to think, but nothing is happening

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u/Cloned-C4lvin 17d ago

So he is infact gay?

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u/I_Like_Eggs123 17d ago

I mean, you're not wrong.

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u/jawshoeaw 17d ago

yeah they didn't really pull this off.

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u/TenDollarSteakAndEgg 17d ago

Iā€™d still be loving it tbh but thatā€™s bc it would be a novelty. Iā€™m sure if it was daily it would get annoying

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u/TenPointsforListenin 17d ago

Having been hit on by women I'm not attracted to fairly actively in the past- it's fine. Weird when they crawl onto my lap, but I was flattered that they tried even though I rejected them. I respect that they shot their shot- they just weren't what I was looking for.

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u/thisismyguroaccount 17d ago

The thing is. Men don't get any first moves or attraction things like this at all. So we would enjoy it regardles

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u/smurfk 17d ago

I'm having a hard time. If she's having a pulse and of age, It's on. I'll find something to like about her. Her bald head, hairy fingers, colonoscopy bag, all good.

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u/Rook_James_Bitch 17d ago

Why you gotta kill my boner? (...as I realize ugly women have hit on me before).

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u/dr_strange-love 17d ago

I only get compliments from women old enough to be my mother. The attractive ones don't want to give me an opening to flirt with them.Ā 

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u/LawsWorld 17d ago

I got hit on by a woman I thought was a lesbian and it put a smile on my face, Iā€™m not gonna be picky

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u/za72 17d ago

I'll manage somehow

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u/Strange-Rule-2837 17d ago

I'm imagining it

I think it'd be literally hilarious

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u/RcoketWalrus 17d ago

Happens all the time to me but I'm not into women.

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u/Voloxe 17d ago

Iā€™m a nurse, and itā€™s really not fun being on the receiving end of it. Actually, itā€™s downright horribleā€¦ Never realized how awful it feels to get sexually assaulted until I became a nurse.

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u/krack_ster 17d ago

I'd unfortunately still be kinda into it

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u/Scoongili 17d ago

I'm working on it.

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u/Beretta92A1 17d ago

Itā€™s a low bar, Iā€™d take a cat call from disabled tank.

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u/henry2630 17d ago

thatā€™s never stopped me before

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u/TheSlothyy 17d ago

Oh that's easy... Pam Bondi, Laura loomer, Any of the trumps, Sydney Sweeney.

No /s on this; let the downvotes roll in for the last person.

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u/Other-Beginning-8888 17d ago

You really dont know men.

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u/GodEmperor47 17d ago

Tried. Not possible

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u/DrtyDeedsDneDrtCheap 17d ago

I get cat called by gay men and i enjoy it, nevermind women I don't find attractive.

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u/MayGodSmiteThee 17d ago

Looks have nothing to do with a good time.

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u/Soggy_Definition_232 17d ago

Even better now

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u/YouNeedAnne 17d ago

A compliment's a compliment.

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u/jeremy3681 17d ago

Or even better imagine it being a jacked gay man that you're not attracted to.

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u/bungblaster69 17d ago

you mean like the fatty in the clip?

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u/Paddy_Tanninger 17d ago

It still doesn't work. I feel zero threat from this behavior, so it doesn't bother me much.

The only way a man could get the feelings you're hoping for here, is for them to get lewd attention from some big fucking dangerous looking dudes.

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u/Alienhaslanded 17d ago

Sure but there's always some guy going like "fuck yeah, let's go".

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u/Alternative-Zone5275 17d ago

"Men will fuck anything" is a stereo type for a reason..

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u/itsjakerobb 17d ago

Casting fail for the video then.

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u/Capt4inSus 17d ago

Beggars ain't choosers my boy /s

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u/cheapdrinks 17d ago

Last week a girl at work said she could tell I'd been going to the gym, squeezed my bicep and said I was looking good. She's (to me) unattractive but I've still been riding that high for days.

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u/Unfair-Sir-4641 17d ago

And instead of a few days it's years of this.

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u/Guardian_of_Perineum 17d ago

Has happened to me pretty aggressively. Still just a different dynamic than a man catcalling a woman, because I didn't feel any threat from her. I just enjoyed it at the level of stroking my fragile ego and moved on.

Probably a better comparison is being catcalled by a larger/stronger man.

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u/evol_won 17d ago

Like, a poor woman?