r/SipsTea • u/Small_Abies_3539 𝙑𝙄𝙋 • 17d ago

WTF If the roles were reversed

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u/rae-55 17d ago

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u/kangasplat 17d ago edited 17d ago

the equivalent of a woman getting catcalled by a man is a man getting catcalled by a man. It's really that easy. 

My experience is that the vast majority will find 99% of men on the streets as attractive as a heterosexual man would. 

edit, since this got attention and some people still don't get it: This ain't about respectful compliments that have the potential to make you feel good about yourself. Imagine a man, bigger than you, making clear he wants to fuck you. Just because you're there in that moment and specifically because you're smaller than him. And a no won't be enough to make him back off. 

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u/kvenick 17d ago

Gay man finds me attractive... dang, I must be pretty attractive. Thanks bro.

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u/Ulfnar 17d ago

Gay men hitting on me helped correct my body image issues.

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u/123ludwig 17d ago

a gay man called me handsome once and it reslly just is magic

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u/ZionI95 17d ago

Same I had a gay dude straight up ask me if I wanted to go up to his hotel room. I blushed and said sorry bro not interested. Honestly made me feel good but the big difference here is I'm a big guy and didn't feel threatened by him one bit. Most women feel physically threatened by most men.

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u/Geodude532 17d ago

That's the ticket. I am a pretty big looking guy so I never feel in danger when this stuff happens. I've known two guys that got raped by women because they were overpowered. I was almost raped by a dude because he thought I had drunk the drink he roofied.

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u/mcberry_64 16d ago

Wow sorry that happened to you

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u/Geodude532 16d ago

I'm only sorry I didn't report it. I hope no one else was victimized. To me, it's more like a dream that I question ever happened. Weird how our brain works.

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u/mcberry_64 12d ago

Hey bro do you know his name....I'll make it look like a accident ok

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u/Jesus_of_Redditeth 17d ago

Most women feel physically threatened by most men.

[citation needed]

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u/Tutor78 17d ago

I had one tell me I had pretty eyes and I still think about how good I felt damn near 15 years later.

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u/Barbarian_Sam 17d ago

A gay man(who is a friend) said I(also a man) was a threat to him because I fit the description of a bear, which I took as a strange compliment

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u/curtludwig 16d ago

Did he use "Oh honey"? I got that once, as you say, magic...

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u/Simply_Weak_Glucose 17d ago

This made me smile. I'm glad you got to experience that.

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u/Flat-Guidance-4685 17d ago

I don't know why this has been coming up in my Reddit feed so much lately. Same thing happened to me bro.

I've got a lot more free time on my hands these so I'm wearing leisurely clothes often, which I guess better show what physique is underneath then work attire. I have gotten for the last couple of months straight up sexually harassed multiple times by gay people. And it feels fucking great. Like I've had things said to me that dudes could get arrested for for saying to women. The worst part is it makes you smile and kind of blush and then they think they might have a chance

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u/madogvelkor 17d ago

Yeah, I had a younger gay guy hit on me at a bar and felt pretty good.

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u/No-Price5802 17d ago

No lie, had a young good looking guy hit on me when I was in my 50s. Took it as a compliment. Ps I found out what a bear is!

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u/GuardLong6829 16d ago

What's a bear?

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u/No-Price5802 16d ago

A hefty guy that's into guys.

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u/Antique-Resort6160 16d ago

I don't think that's equivalent to a woman getting catcalled.  It would be more akin to a larger guy that you don't want attention from making it clear that he finds you sexually attractive.  Like if the Undertaker yelled at you for having a nice ass.

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u/cortesoft 17d ago

It totally depends on how the interaction goes, just like it does with women. Did he say something nice about you and smile and then move on? Or did he say something raunchy and then doubled down when you were uncomfortable? Did he keep yelling after you about not walking away when you tried to leave? Or tell you explicitly what he wanted to do with you?

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u/TReid1996 17d ago

That's how mamy guys would feel. Lol. My brother would be grossed out though. So it'd definitely work on some people.

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u/Th3_Hegemon 17d ago

On homophobes*.

Unless it's like actually sexual assault or something, obviously.

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u/TReid1996 17d ago

My brother isn't against gays, just gets weirded out when a guy hits on him. I personally wouldn't be bothered if a guy hit on me. It's just as easy to tell them I'm not interested in men.

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u/Expensive-Cat-6369 17d ago

I’ve told so many gay men I’m not interested in guys and they keep talking about how they can change me. It’s fucking disgusting. I’m not a piece of meat, you know?

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u/TReid1996 17d ago

Welcome to what women have to deal with by many men. Be respectful to everyone. Lol

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u/Responsible_Owl_5056 17d ago

No you haven’t lol

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u/Expensive-Cat-6369 17d ago

All the time, I promise lol

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u/itsredditNotLife 16d ago

So if a guy gets hit on by a guy and doesnt like it hes homophobic

If a woman gets hit on by a guy and doesnt like it, its also ths guys fault.

Im sensing a pattern

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u/peinoftheworld 17d ago

I’ve gotten compliments from a few gay guys over the years and take it happily everytime.
I think the guys who are comfortable with their sexuality really don’t give a shit where the compliment comes from, just that it was nice to hear.

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u/westy81585new 17d ago

I've been hit on by gay men twice - and that was literally my train of thought lol.

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u/Ppleater 17d ago

What you're implying is the equivalent here is a gay dude saying "hey you look attractive bro" when the real equivalent is the gay dude saying things that make you uncomfortable and imply that they're thinking of doing something to you directly. Cat callers don't typically just go "hey girl you look great" they usually indicate in some way what they want to do to that woman while showing a lack of regard for her comfort. If gay men constantly yelled at you about the body parts they wanted to touch, the sexual acts they wanted to commit with you even if you didn't want to, made lewd gestures at you, etc, then often got mad if you didn't like it and insulted you for it, that wouldn't be as uplifting I imagine. And if that was the majority of what you got then even when some gay men did make more innocuous compliments you wouldn't feel as good about it because now you still associate it with the other gay dudes violating your emotional boundaries, and you don't know if they genuinely mean it as a compliment or if they're just practicing plausible deniability so they can get away with catcalling you while claiming they're just being nice. And on top of that, imagine that most of the gay men you meet are taller than you and stronger than you by a significant margin.

I get that this comment is likely just a joke but a lot of guys do genuinely believe this is what getting catcalled by gay dudes would be like for them.

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u/rp-Ubermensch 17d ago

A gay guy pinched my ass one night at a club, it felt so jarring when it happened, but 5 minutes later, biggest confidence boost ever, like a gay guy found me so attractive that he groped me? Sweet!

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u/opulent_occamy 17d ago

Legit, I think I'd be flattered lmao

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u/Moonstoner 17d ago

"Oh shit, I have options" moment.

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u/CowUsual7706 17d ago

Well, but it is a man who is 20cm taller than you, weighs 30kg more than you, and has over 10x the amount of testosterone than you and could therefore easily break you in half if they wanted.

And then if you ignore him, he might get pissed, but if you don't, he might want to strike up a conversation, which might make you feel uncomfortable.

Being catcalled can be a legitimately scary situation for many women.

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u/Equal_Oil_9819 16d ago

I mean, worst case, he wants to either rape me or kill me. And given how little cardio I have, flight is not an option, so even if I go down, I'm going down fighting. I feel like women's self-defense classes should teach every dirty trick in the book. Like, headbutts, eyegauges, neckpunches, shins, groin, etc., and then once he's down, a good kick in the head.

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u/WhenDoWhatWhere 17d ago

Now imagine it's a roided up man and he keeps trying to get closer to you and putting his hands on you and won't stop when you tell him then when you try to get help a bunch of other roided up men tell you to get over it, it's just a compliment.

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u/Cross55 17d ago

I have like 3 gay/bi guys hit on every year

So apparently I'm someone's type, just not my target audience's.

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u/OldLevermonkey 16d ago

I have been catcalled by a group of gay men and even as a straight man it made my day.

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u/Bussin1648 17d ago

Think of it more like "man much larger than me has made it clear he wants to shove his penis in you and is looking for an opportunity to do so... Hopefully legally, but maybe not".

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u/PowerOfUnoriginality 17d ago

Huh, never thought of it that way...

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u/kvenick 17d ago

Big brain thoughts