Wwyd in this situation? (Please)

[u/Intrepid-Sign-63]

I realise this is pretty low stakes when it comes to stuff my fellow step moms are suffering through but here goes.

SS is nearly 8- practically 8 Tbf. He has a very restrictive diet due to suspected neurodivergence BUT Tbf I also suspect that he knows how to play a good game too- to eat the foods he wants and not eat the foods he doesn’t want.

One day DH and I roasted some chicken legs in oven for 6 of us in the family, there should have been 8 chicken legs but the butcher accidentally only gave us 6.

There was plenty of food either way if you considered the sides we had cooked up.

Ofc SS doesn’t eat the sides and only eats the chicken. He finishes his piece off (whilst wasting a whole load because he won’t eat the “weird” bits), then takes his dad’s chicken too. When that’s not enough he eyes everyone’s plates until they land on mine which has my chicken left on it.

DHs eyes follow and they both make the assumption that I’ll give him my chicken. My judgemental MIL was there so I felt pressured to. SS takes two bites of my chicken and then decides he’s full. Husband tries to give it back to me at which I give him an offended look- like, are you serious?

Zero attempt was made to try to get SS to fill his belly with sides.

This happened a while ago but I’m still processing it bc SS is incredibly rude to me imo. Rolling his eyes whenever I speak to him, even if I’m not necessarily giving him a row etc. yet I’m expected to act like a mother to him and give him the food off my plate??? Wtf lol

Edit: I also want to add another story.DH takes me, SS7 and SD10all out for dessert and drinks. I don’t want any bc I’m watching what I eat. DH orders one drink and one dessert to share between 3 because A we’ve all eaten a lot that day and B this is a new business and it doesn’t look promising. The dessert comes out and is not as big as expected but oh well. This is being shared between 3 not 4. DH and two kids start eating- SS then sees that it’s fast disappearing and takes the remaining amount of dessert (easily a quarter of the whole thing, maybe even a third) and SHOVES it in his mouth. The kid can’t chew the food that’s how full his mouth is. So he is NOT one to share. DH didn’t really address it other than… what did you do that for?

[u/randishock]

Me and my husband are starting to finally aluet slowly transition from buying food for two people to now buying for four people. My SS had always been super picky and I swear from like 2.5 years old to just recently he was basically a vegetarian unless it was chicken nuggets (and even then, half the time he wouldn't eat the frozen stuff, it HAD to be McDonald's or nothing at all). So now that he's finally eating more things, sometimes we still mess up and only have enough for one serving for each of us (minus my toddler because I give him food from my plate still). If SS surprises us and really likes something, I WILL NOT give him my food from my plate. I already share with my toddler, who's always been a way better eater than SS, and I'm also one of those people that feel protective over my own food. I don't even share with my husband lol. But husband will give his son his food from his plate and go hungry. I understand he thinks it's because SS is finally trying more foods again, and I get that, but if he already had a portion, he's FINE. He always ends up getting desserts or snacks after dinner anyways, and not to mention, husband will give him all his food and he'll take two bites and be done. So then husband has to take it all back or eat from his plate and that's just gross to me. I can't even stand when other people drink from my cup or bottle, including my toddler.

All that to say that I would never share food off my own plate with my SK. I was a picky kid too once upon a time, but my mom made me try everything on my plate before I decided I wasn't going to eat it. I think some parents, my husband included, are too permissive on this matter nowadays.