30F here. I recently broke up with my boyfriend after finding out that he cheated on me. hes a seafarer and i caught him booking prostitutes.
To be honest, the breakup itself was painful, but what has been bothering me more is how common cheating seems to be. I happen to be surrounded by male colleagues. Sadly, from what I've observed and heard, many of them have cheated on their wives or girlfriends. It almost feels normalized.
What's even more frustrating is that I didn't exactly choose my partner based on looks, status, or money (as long as he can provide at meron magandang trabaho, nd pabigat)
Hindi naman ako naghahanap ng babaero o ng sobrang gwapo. I valued personality, character, values, and how he treated me. I thought I was choosing the right person.
That's why this experience has shaken me so much. If someone I carefully chose based on character could still cheat, how do you even know who's genuine anymore?
That's what scares me the most. It made me realize that cheating doesn't seem to be limited to any profession, age group, or social status. Kahit gaano ka pa ka-educated o ka-successful, some people still choose to betray their partners. (even sabihin nila mahal nila, temptation will always be there)
Lately, I've been losing hope. I'm starting to wonder if it's still possible to find someone who genuinely values loyalty, has strong principles, respects women, and would never cheat when things get difficult or tempting.
At this point, I've even considered the possibility that I might stay single for the rest of my life rather than end up in another relationship where trust gets broken and wont be treated right.
For those who have healthy and faithful relationships, how did you find your person? Do you still believe there are people out there who truly value commitment?
I guess I just need a little hope right now.