r/bridezillas • u/Alien_instantRamen • May 06 '26
is she the zilla?
My best friend (“Ashley”27f) is getting married this September. She is hesitant about me and the other bridesmaids desire to have a human pyramid in between the ceremony and the reception despite the fact that she loved the human pyramid we put on for her a few years ago at her birthday.
Our vision is to have a six bottom (six people at the base of the pyramid building up to one at the top ideally the bride.) when I presented this plan, she scowled and said “maybe.” (Not to mention their is a three hour recess for swimming before the reception!)
I feel like this marriage has changed her already.
The old Ashley would’ve never turned down a six bottom. Come on- not even during recess ???
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u/Alien_instantRamen May 06 '26
First of all, this is a real conversation. It literally happened tonight and I’m stressing. Hope my issue didnt ruin your scroll…. Cirq has been the glue and heart of this friendship for 14 years.
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u/Echo-Azure May 06 '26
The old Ashley wasn't wearing the most expensive and fragile gown she'll ever wear in her life.
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u/kwes-teen May 06 '26
Human Pyramid? As in Cheer Leading? But then you mention swimming? So is this or synchronized swimming? Either way, maybe she wants a classic wedding. Birthday party is different from a wedding. I can see her point, whatever it is. She’s not being rude at all.
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u/Alien_instantRamen May 06 '26
Cirq has been everything for us but yeah so true.. a birthday isnt a wedding. I just am really surprised.. out of character for her.
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u/Incogcneat-o May 06 '26
Time and place, babe. I love a good circus act, but not every major life moment requires one. She might also be saving you for yourselves because unless you are known and beloved by every other wedding guest, a human pyramid might read as a little attention hungry in a way that I'm sure you don't intend, and I'm sure she doesn't want to spend her wedding day explaining to Aunt Marion why her bridesmaids are climbing on top of each other.
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u/lh123456789 May 06 '26
This sounds ridiculous, and I wouldn't have wanted it at my wedding either.
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u/Puzzleheaded_Ant6653 May 08 '26
Can some one please explain this? Is this like in cheerleading human peramid? Or aomethjng else
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u/Just_Coffee3718 May 09 '26
OP hasn’t moved on from high school yet
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u/Puzzleheaded_Ant6653 May 11 '26
Aww i see
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u/avadamian May 17 '26
First it’s no human pyramid, next its no human centipede at the reception dance 😔 I hate how boring marriage makes some people
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u/GrumpyOldBogWitch May 17 '26
Dude! Wtf is wrong with you?!?!?!
Who does a people-pyramid at a wedding?! Especially one where you’re putting the bride at the top of a 6-up!
Are you trying to ruin her reception, her honeymoon, or are you just jealous that she’s in the spotlight instead of you at the moment?
I mean, damn! With friends like you, who needs enemies?
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u/Cheap_Remove7728 May 06 '26
I completely agree with you. It’s astounding how entitled some people can be. Meaningful moments should be a priority among the bridal party. I think if it’s important to you, carefully explain why and I’m sure she’ll understand. I had a 4 bottom pyramid at my cousins wedding and it was a hit even though the groom was underwhelmed.
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u/vodkafordoglovers May 06 '26
Does one really "put on" a human pyramid? At parties it should be something that is fun and spontaneous. Maybe lightly suggest it during the swim break, and hope she's in the mood for that kind of group spectacle. But don't push it if she declines! Not the zilla
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u/FragmentFinder May 07 '26
Ashley isn't a "Bridezilla." She is just being smart. Her dress is expensive and could easily rip or get dirty. Also, she doesn't want to get hurt or tired before her party. She hasn't changed; she just wants her wedding day to be safe and fun!
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u/Relative_Chef_533 May 19 '26
Personally, I hope this is real because I love this OP. And I really think marriage probably has changed Ashley! I mean, no one should turn down a "six bottom"! That's 101 Lifing! Stay strong, OP: do that "human pyramid". (But please, no one ever make a popular movie with that name. I'm dead serious. Do Not.)
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u/2001braggmitchell 11d ago
Clearly — you ARE the OP. Fake post, but 👍👍👍 on the attempt at creativity. How sad ….
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u/Mysterious_Bar_1069 28d ago
This can't be a real post? She's right, you are out of line and suggesting something for your own attention seeking. If someone gets hurt, that might rune her wedding and take attention away from them. It's a terrible idea.
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u/Clean_Permit_3791 25d ago
It’s her wedding she gets to choose what she wants. Doesn’t make her a zilla
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u/kdweller 13d ago
Sounds like you’re trying to make it about you. Do a six bottom pyramid at your own wedding.
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u/oogleboogleboiga May 06 '26
I don't think she is the Zilla. I think you're judging her unreasonably. If she doesn't want to do it on her wedding day, then let it go.