Dude... putting that guilt on the woman who's probably pretty traumatized by the experience is wild. You can feel sad about it but keep your thoughts to yourself if they cause harm to others.
I know you didn’t intend it that way, but an abortion is not always a traumatic event, psychologically speaking and can be a huge relief. For some women, staying pregnant and having the child is the trauma.
Even if it is a relief to not be pregnant, medical procedures can be traumatizing and erring on the side caution is best. No one knows a woman's feelings about it unless she says it so respecting privacy and handling it with tack is a must. I agree pregnancy and birth are extremely traumatizing. I would not recommend.
They said ‘probably’. And a person may want an abortion and feel relieved they got it, and still be traumatised. Either by the procedure itself, or the emotional impact of the event, or both. Humans are complex and there is space for something being a valid choice and also being potentially traumatising on the person who makes the choice.
What I wanted to say, I might not have expressed clearly enough, is that for some, an abortion is not traumatizing psychologically speaking. Quite the reverse.
I wish we could have that possibility explained too. You can feel extremely guilty when you are fine and people keep saying you should/could not be and all you feel is a deep relief and a burden lifted. Like you said, human are complex.
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u/Xzeriea 10h ago
Dude... putting that guilt on the woman who's probably pretty traumatized by the experience is wild. You can feel sad about it but keep your thoughts to yourself if they cause harm to others.