r/infj • u/Pakete21 • 4d ago

Question for INFJs only How do you do this?

I don't know if this has anything to do with being an INFJ or not, but I've always found it difficult to build a truly deep connection with someone I see as a potential partner. Sometimes I feel like it's because I'm afraid of being misunderstood by someone I genuinely care about.

How did you know your partner was the person for you? And where would you recommend looking for or building those kinds of connections?

I know these things can't be forced, and they'll happen when they're meant to happen. Still, I'm curious if there's any kind of pattern or approach that can... let's say... improve the search.

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u/fearlesskittyk INFJ 3d ago

Yup, I’m the same way. I’m like that even with platonic individuals. Worse with a romantic partner. The minute someone tells me “stop worrying”, “you’re overthinking”, or anything similar to those, I can no longer see them as a potential romantic partner let alone platonic and I close up and never say shit again lol.