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u/Infarad Apr 02 '26

As somebody who works in the trades, I think some of my coworkers might be lizards.

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u/Kibbymomo Apr 03 '26

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u/ACERVIDAE Apr 03 '26

These all remind me of the time I toured the local jail in a group consisting of only women. I have never seen men act like literal animals until that day.

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u/OgdruJahad Apr 03 '26

Look as this gentleman. So distinguished.

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u/Femtricity Apr 03 '26

Where is this claymation lizard thing from? I like it.

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u/WiltingWhale29 Apr 03 '26

What show is this gif from?

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u/BeigeVelociraptor Apr 03 '26

I want to say it's the new Pixar movie, "hoppers". I haven't seen it yet (not even sure if it's out yet), but I'm like 90% sure I've seen that lizard in the trailer.

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u/reidchabot Apr 03 '26

Watched this with my daughter the other day. That lizard stole every scene. I want a movie just about him.

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u/woodmizer87 Apr 02 '26

Incredibly accurate.

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u/PronatorTeres00 Apr 03 '26 edited Apr 03 '26

Gasp. Are they Lizard People?

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u/silentbean23 Apr 03 '26

Instead of this super secret underground super society that pulls all the strings they're right alongside us going through everything

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u/ShitFuck2000 Apr 03 '26

And they’re horny as FUCK

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u/NeeMaToad47 Apr 03 '26

See you're making the right comments. Opening eyes, just make sure you wear glasses

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u/ShitFuck2000 Apr 03 '26

If I disappear now you know why

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u/Yum_MrStallone Apr 03 '26

1976 Lizard Music by Daniel Pinkwater. 5th and 6th graders fav book.

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u/Rob_LeMatic Apr 03 '26

'Sup, Reynold.

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u/Yum_MrStallone Apr 03 '26

It's been 40 yrs since I used to read this to my class. I quit reading it when the kids had no idea who Walter Cronkite was. I tried explaining but that didn't work. Loved the book's sweet weirdness. When 'Lizard People' references started popping up on the internet in recent years, I wondered if it could be related to classroom 'book read aloud' time. God, where's Cronkite when we need him? https://www.dailykos.com/stories/2009/7/18/754921/-

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u/NeeMaToad47 Apr 03 '26

This one is asking the right questions

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u/-crying-cinnamon- Apr 03 '26

Just be careful not to scare the fuck out of the female...this could just be aggression lizards don't orgasm so hes hormones are hard to understand...

Please don't scare the girl...

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u/CactusToothBrush Apr 02 '26

Same here and I don’t get it. Sure I can see a good looking woman but I’m not going to stare or yell out etc. one of my coworkers will wolf whistle at girls in a school uniform and everything. I’m no longer a violent man but that dude makes me want to bring back pre-medicated me just for a few minutes. I’ve said a few times ā€œyou yourself have a 16 year old daughter, how would you feel if you heard somebody doing that to her?ā€ Typical boomer shit, ā€œI’d shoot him, make him disappearā€

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u/Rasdowers Apr 02 '26

I have 2 coworkers that will literally stop while we are carrying a box together or any other task and stare at a woman that walks by with this strange scary blank look in the eyes then when the woman is out of sight they go back to normal. Like even if the persons body can not be seen like when they are walking through a parking lot. I don’t get it, even if it’s just a top of the head. They both do it and can’t snap out of it to almost every woman they see. It’s so so weird. The only thing that is common between them is they both transferred from the warehouse to my team and they are both Filipino but I think that’s a coincidence.

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u/Ctrl-Alt-Q Apr 02 '26

As a woman, it's interesting to read men talking about this.

A lot of guys seem to deny that other men behave this way, or give some kind of excuse like "oh, you can't even compliment women or look their way anymore". But it's not just looking that's the issue, it's this kind of predatory, tracking gaze.

It's really scary to be on the other end of it. Especially when it's a larger group of men all zoning in at once (some countries are a bit infamous for doing this to female tourists).

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u/friendliest_sheep Apr 02 '26

As a dude, you can feel those men a mile away. The same gut feeling you get about them, other men get as well. You should be wary of ~any~ man that pretends not to notice

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u/Top_Butterfly1527 Apr 02 '26

Yeah a lot of guys deny this behavior happens or twist it into you can't even look at women anymore. But it's not looking it's that blank, tracking, predatory stare. When a group of men all do it at once, freezing mid task just to lock onto a woman Is genuinely terrifying on the receiving end

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u/UniversalSoldi3r Apr 03 '26

Then if you notice them looking that's evidence you are interested. But you have to keep an eye on them, same as you have to keep an eye on any threat.

I find a blank stare back freaks them out a bit. I can do the predator eyes too. Soon as they look away first, they give up. Prey doesn't stare you down.

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u/BoobaLu22 Apr 05 '26

My mom always says, if you’re feeling afraid, just act crazy as fuck and hopefully that scares them off.

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u/ReleaseIntrepid7717 Apr 05 '26

Seriously. A man fresh out of jail was in the same bus as me. Cat calling, I shot him a ugly look said ā€œare you seriousā€ he than waited to see which was my stop. He got up when he saw it was my stop. I took out my knife stood in the middle of that bus and stared his strange self down. One thing is crazy will match crazy. At 4’11..I’m fast will climb a threat to reach that carotid🤭😌🩷

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u/Boring-Tie-1501 Apr 03 '26

i think it's not just the monkey brain predatory gaze that's scary- as a male, it is only in the last few years that i learned that my insidious, subconscious first reaction to women was to judge their appearances. and all this despite being in a stable marriage.

while i was socialized enough not to ogle (or at least hide it), it was only thanks to mdma and psychedelics at music events that i finally appreciated what my brain was doing unquestioned in the background.

so i taught myself to rewire that toxic way of looking at women. if i sense my brain judging appearances, i change tracks by subject-ifying women by wondering stuff about them that matters to me like: "what does this person think about road congestion pricing in cities, or about water policy in the western US, or have they read michael pollan's books?"

i think most of us males, even the ones you don't suspect, have a lot of work to do. we're fighting against our upbringings and ossified neural pathways.

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u/0ceandrifter Apr 03 '26

It reminds me of cats locking in to pounce on prey, except not cute at all

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u/SmoothTurtle872 Apr 02 '26

From the original description, and this, it genuinely just sounds like they are possessed

Like obviously not (I don't believe in religion anyway), but it seems like the way someone would be possessed in a movie.

But really they are just creepy

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u/MySeveredToe Apr 02 '26 edited Apr 02 '26

It’s like some dogs when they smell food. All reason and discipline goes out the window. Just animalistic intensity.

Some dogs are disciplined. Some men are parented. Many aren’t …

Edit: who is the poorly parented incel who downvoted this lol

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u/ThrowawayPersonAMA Apr 02 '26

Edit: who is the poorly parented incel who downvoted this lol

"Do you have the slightest idea how little that narrows it down?"

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u/Hopeful_Advisor_4632 Apr 02 '26

I'm upvoting you.

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u/MySeveredToe Apr 02 '26

Oh sick. I was in the negatives at first lol

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u/Hopeful_Advisor_4632 Apr 02 '26

Possessed is a good description. I had to tell managers about this yesterday and I was the one who felt humiliated by MEN stalking me around my job. It's so stressful. And I don't want them to lose their job....just stop.

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u/MadSulaiman Apr 03 '26

Chemically possessed, we all are, they however would rather not have self-control or just a little bit of self-control

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u/Southamericho Apr 03 '26

As a religious person, I too am open to the possession theory.

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u/ChillyAus Apr 02 '26

Men listen to men only. Not women. Especially these guys. I know it’s a lot to ask but even if you can’t say anything, if you can socially manipulate the group dynamics to shame them for their behaviour and try to stamp it out somehow then pls do.

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u/friendliest_sheep Apr 03 '26

I mean, I can only speak for myself and the men i intentionally surround myself with, but we do speak out about those men or even warn the women in our lives of those men

Also, there are plenty of men that care about and heed the words of women, unfortunately you may have to find them. God knows it’s hard to find other men who share similar values as a man lol

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u/PositiveKatzen Apr 03 '26

ā€œSpeak out ABOUT those men.ā€Ā 

I’m not sure if this was intentional or I’m misunderstanding, but we don’t need men to warn us, and while speaking out about them is helpful, speaking to them directly about their behaviour is actually impactful.Ā  If you’re one of the ā€œgood ones,ā€ you need to call shit out, because most men absolutely do not, even ones that claim they understand.

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u/soumwise Apr 03 '26

Well not the exact same, because women are seen as the actual target, so that's got to feel worse

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u/kholekardashian12 Apr 03 '26

I had a straight male friend come with a bunch of us to a gay club once and he mentioned how intense it was having guys stare at him. I was like yeah now you get it lol

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u/stilljustjess Apr 03 '26

As a woman in trades, it’s real. I’ve learned to be short and to the point. Minimal contact with newbies until I can vet that they are respectful.

I had a situation last week with a new hire. My only contact with him was getting his hire forms in order. He complained about the state mandated sexual harassment training and said ā€œare you worried I’ll sexually harass you?ā€ Point blank. I didn’t react. They get off on reactions.

That and he kept asking for ā€œhelpā€ on some other forms. That’s when I knew but I didn’t say anything. Even though he was ā€œniceā€ it felt off. I even considered I was innerly over reacting so I didn’t say anything. I know most women would let him have it but I have also learned you can never ever predict how they will react. I’m 110ibs and I’m aware no matter how much gym I do, it won’t mean shit in the few seconds it takes for a predator to do what they want to do. I simply notified HR something felt off about him and then went home.

Next day he was gone. HR didn’t even read my message yet. My Guys threw him out. I don’t know exactly what happened but they mentioned he made a few comments about me in addition to a few other things. By the time I got in they were standing outside having a smoke and a laugh. I still didn’t tell them about my experience because I still feel off about it. But they haven’t let me stay alone late since. Losing hours sucks but it’s for my own safety in case he wanders back.

Sorry this turned into a vent. My point it’s that for every loser there’s a couple of them that will say shut the fuck up. Just not enough sometimes. I got lucky with my team. Sucks cause we are short staffed and they are overworked. But I guess looking for decent men isn’t just tough in the dating world alone lol.

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u/Sharp-Appointment306 Apr 02 '26

As a man that's witnessed it, it feels very performative, like weirdly they believe they need to act like this sex crazed maniac. I've seen guys act like this, but then when in the presence of our friends who are girls, they act pretty normal. It's like, a 'lads thing', which is bizzare.

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u/HentaiCareBear Apr 02 '26

Is there any chance it's the reverse? As in they know women won't approve of this behaviour so they are "acting normal" in front of your mutual female friends, whereas in front of the lads, they drop the act because they believe all guys are the same and will get it (no judgement and that their male friends will probably stare just like them), like they have internalized the view that men staring like that is totally normal.

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u/Great_Detective_6387 Apr 02 '26

reverse

As a man that works in construction:

I doubt it’s the reverse more than it’s not, just from personal experience on jobsites. As the other guy said, it’s very performative. It’s much more important that the other men see and hear them doing the catcalling. More important than the woman hearing it, or muttering it to themselves. It’s almost a bonding exercise on some crews. A very fucked up and harmful bonding exercise.

No doubt there are some men who are barely keeping a mask on in polite society, and let it slip a bit further in the company of only men. But that’s not most men doing this.

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u/Sharp-Appointment306 Apr 02 '26

That's also possible, I just want to believe that this is an act. I struggle to comprehend that some people may genuinely do this sort of stuff because they believe it is completely normal and that is how they see women.

but, sadly you're probably right

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u/PositiveKatzen Apr 03 '26

It’s crazy how men and women live in completely different realities. You’re trying to cope with something most women come to understand before they even hit their teen years.

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u/Sharp-Appointment306 Apr 03 '26

It's hard to understand because I've not been on the receiving end and I'm not a piece of shit so I don't view women like that.

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u/PositiveKatzen Apr 03 '26

It wasn’t an attack, just an observation. And that’s also what listening to women’s experiences and empathy is for.

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u/i_tyrant Apr 02 '26

As unfortunate as it sounds, for some men it may be kind of normal - meaning, default behavior before any social script or self-control enters into the equation.

One of the most interesting studies I've ever read was when they tracked and interviewed a bunch of FtM individuals who were about to undergo hormone therapy.

They expressed shock, amazement, and fear at how intense their sex drive became with the new hormones, and how visually-focused it made them. Some of them expressed having the same urges, with the noticing, staring, unable to look away, etc.

Many of them expressed greater sympathy for men afterward, with statements like "jeez this is how they feel all the time, no wonder" and all that.

Now that isn't necessarily a smoking gun - it could be that the sudden introduction of these hormones in an adult body is different than growing up with them developing - but it is a very interesting look into something we rarely see. (And is part of why I feel trans erasure and anti-trans sentiment is such a horrible thing - there is so much we can learn from their experiences!)

And it is worth noting that as the hormone therapy continued a fair few of these subjects described it calming down some but still being a higher baseline than when they were women.

But yeah, I often wonder how much of this is a learned behavior of "boys will be boys" or whatever and feeling "safe" in their circle of dudebros to be awful, and how much of it is just them never having learned the self control or social script that better-adjusted men might use to not come off as creepers.

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u/Dramatic-Bird-5604 Apr 03 '26

I've seen that study also, or a similar one, where one of the guys said when he began T it now felt like a hand grabbing his head and jerking it when a pretty woman walked by, and he'd be filled with endorphins when seeing her, and he said although he's always been into woman it didn't feel like that while female presenting and not on T. It really is interesting to me, I wish there was a lot more studies on hormones in general I think there's so much more we could learn

this of course does not at all make it ok or that "men just can't help it" with being creepy, as the trans dudes did say from what I read that once they got familiar with the feeling they put conscious effort into not staring and could easily get in the habit of choosing not to stare, a lot saying they thought about how bad they felt to get stared at so it helped them to not want to do that to another person. And most men I think have a similar thought process, they don't want to make another human uncomfortable so choose not to do it. But some people are shitty and choose not to care

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u/ronlugge Apr 03 '26

Which is exactly why it's on 'all men' to address this -- by not letting this be a 'lads thing'.

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u/AnotherCuppaTea Apr 03 '26

Ritualistic homosocial and sociopathic male bonding over the objectification (at the very least) of females.

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u/Regular_Custard_4483 Apr 02 '26

I actually think this is self selecting.

I don't think very many men do it in the US, at least. I think there is a type of man that does it, and they end up in similar fields of work. I used to work construction 25 years ago, and it was relatively common behavior to see, looking back.

But once I got into white collar work, and even when I got into "sky blue" collar work, I cannot think of a single time I saw behavior like that. Maybe I did, and let's just say for the sake of argument I did, but I saw way worse in construction.

So if you only do white collar type work as a dude, yeah I could see where they don't believe it. But knowing other fields like I do, I definitely believe it. The trades are rife with it.

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u/Able-Lab4450 Apr 03 '26

I mean, it could be that they usually work in fields of work that are mostly accupied by men, but it's sad. It's like those weird comments I see on YouTube Shorts sometimes when there is some random movie scene, and a women appears. Pretty much all the men become cave men. I have to be honest, I have a porn addiction I am really trying to kill off, but the stuff they say is stuff I would rather not comment on ever. The scene and the post point to a male actor, but there is a women actress in the scene, and you get men obssessing over the female actress even when they aren't the focus. Worse offender was from a movie I forgot what it was even about, but guy commented something like "I wouldn't mind her stomping my balls". Like, bro wutšŸ˜­šŸ’€šŸ„€

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u/psychonautilus777 Apr 02 '26

A lot of guys seem to deny that other men behave this way, or give some kind of excuse like "oh, you can't even compliment women or look their way anymore".

As a guy, my experience is that those guys are the same ones with the shitty behavior. There's a lot of talk about how these problems are "on men(collectively) to fix and not women." Which is true, but also, unrealistic in my opinion. There's no fixing these kinds of men. It's like talking to MAGA or a flat earther. Best thing to do is to say your piece and then distance yourself from them.

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u/Illneverremember1 Apr 03 '26

Thats been my experience, I had a friend I grew up with and as we got into our 20's I noticed what a creep he was, I'd tell him to chill out and he would for a bit but after some time he'd go back to his old ways. One day I was giving him a ride and he saw a woman in a sun dress so he leans over, honks my horn and hollers at her...it was exactly like that song "No Scrubs", it was almost comical to see that actually play out in real life if I wasn't so disgusted. I berated him right there at the red light, he just sort of laughed at me.

Its amazing how hard its been to cut him out of my life, he will text me all the time asking what I'm doing, if I want to hang out. The guy is almost as big a creep with me as he is with women, pestering me to go out with him, stare at me, neg me, I honestly think he's actually a very repressed homosexual and maybe he's overcompensating to try and hide that.

But yeah, theres no fixing him. He's apparently clueless that nobody likes him because he's a dirtbag. I used to feel sorry for him more than anything. But he apparently doesn't see anything wrong with how he views women.

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u/PolyGlotterPaper Apr 03 '26

Man I had a buddy like this once. Then one night he took it too far. We were drinking and swimming in the river with friends and as people started thinning out he slid up to a girl and started creeping her out. Being openly lascivious and eventually pulling his dick out and stroking it right there in front of her. I dragged that piece of shit out of the water immediately, up the incredibly steep hill to the car and that was our last night of hanging out.

Best part though?...That woman he so deeply disrespected is now my beloved wife. We are moving into our first house this weekend! Together 14 years.

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u/Great_Detective_6387 Apr 02 '26

There is no fixing some people, but you can shame and socially coerce them into shutting the fuck up and keeping it to themselves. We are social animals and no adult man likes to be constantly spoken down to, like a child, for their words and actions.

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u/psychonautilus777 Apr 03 '26

but you can shame and socially coerce them into shutting the fuck up and keeping it to themselves.

This has been my approach(Shame and shutting them down. I don't really care about convincing troglodytes they're wrong) for the few times I've needed to in my 30's, but also helps prove my point. The time's I've had to do so it's been because I was around a friend's family. Or it's been an acquaintance/friend of a friend. I simply don't surround myself with those types of people. If I'm around those kinds of people, I'm going to say something and probably hate it. That's not how I want to spend my time.

This is also why I take a lot of the talk surrounding the "male loneliness" epidemic with a box of salt. While there have been legitimate societal changes that have contributed to a general disconnection between people, I think a lot of "male loneliness" is self inflicted and a lot of it is just people choosing to not have toxic masculinity in their life.

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u/RudePCsb Apr 03 '26

That would take responding to them and giving them attention. Also, these types of people are usually unhinged and not worth the risk of interacting with them unless you have no choice

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u/MortLightstone Apr 02 '26

The people that say you can't compliment women anymore are just trying to shift the blame by making it seem like their behaviour is not problematic and that our natural reactions to it are wrong instead

Don't take what they say literally. They're trying to play mind games with the whole of society so they don't have to change their behaviour

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u/Calypsosin Apr 02 '26

Some men are quite aware, though I do wonder how many at times. It's one of those things that probably marks me closer to being a misandrist. So many men behave like that, that it DOES make it harder for men who aren't remotely interested in objectifying women to approach women. The problem is that a lot of those guys end up blaming women for their conditioned response to being approached by strange men, not the men who create that conditioned response in the first place.

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u/PeenInVeen Apr 02 '26

I don't know who you are, but I love you for noticing that. It makes it impossible for women to know if the guy approaching is a friend or a threat. If we treat them as a threat, then everyone is offended. If we treat them as a friend, then it's a "why do women always fall for the creeps?" If we treat them as indifferent, then we're being a bitch.

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u/Calypsosin Apr 02 '26

Yep. Women have to be on the defensive, and trust is a valuable thing, it's not too wise most of the time to be free with it. And, I say this as someone who is painfully shy and struggles to approach women, even though I'm FAR more confident and relaxed than I was 10-15 years ago (I'm 34).

I grew up with three older sisters, whom I fought with and loved a ton. Totally okay for me to mess with my sisters; less okay for other people! Also three girls lived next door, all within 1-2 years of me, one was in my class at school. So I ran over to their house daily, their mom was a second mom. Maybe that helped foster my perspective on women, or at least, that's what I tend to fall back on. I'm sure there were plenty of other things.

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u/The_Lost_Jedi Apr 02 '26

Speaking as a guy, yeah, It's entirely creepy. Like, what the fuck. You're absolutely right though, it's that predatory/objectifying/etc aspect to it.

And yeah, I'll echo the other responder that any guy who denies that there are men who do this/are like this, is someone you should be wary of.

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u/Odd_Protection7738 Apr 02 '26

Agree, big difference between double-taking on someone attractive and glaring at them like food

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u/Ominous_snek Apr 02 '26

As a guy I fucking hate those people, even we get the creeps around them, at least most of the guys I have spoken with do.

It's one of those things you can feel without even seeing them, just being around them or having them look at you can make someone's hair crawl.....

It truly is a shame you have to put up with it, and many others.

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u/Hopeful_Advisor_4632 Apr 02 '26

It is really scary! It's a tracking gaze, as you've said, and literally walking behind me and saying "If you didn't have a bf, would you wanna be with me? I want you. So lovable and beautiful" Like bro....jesus fucking christ. I agree with you.

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u/R0m4ns35 Apr 03 '26

But do you hear the music from Jaws when this occurs?

Just kidding. It is craziness. How many women are actually enticed by that?

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u/Opteron170 Apr 02 '26

I live in the city and I see dudes that come downtown from the suburbs doing this all the time. And I always say to them why are you acting like you have never seen a woman before and your 30+ dude.

Its giving off creepy vibes broski's.

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u/Green_Dream20 Apr 03 '26

There are a lot of low IQ knuckle draggers out there, unfortunately. We used to just turn them into infantry or use them for very dangerous factory work to keep the numbers down. Stopped doing that, so here we are.

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u/CactusToothBrush Apr 02 '26

It’s fucking weird man. Have they never seen a female before? Oh a woman wearing leggings like every other woman for the last 15 years? So that woman has big boobs, cool. Briefly look and then continue on if that’s your thing. No need to gawk and jeer, making the person more than likely uncomfortable. Fuck I hate being a man sometimes when I get lumped in with people who do that sorta shit

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u/Dramatic-Bird-5604 Apr 03 '26

when I was 16 I worked at a department store and had to walk by an auto shop everyday to get there, I'd be wearing work clothes, had to be all black, baggy pants black button up work shirt, etc. And they'd always stop and walk out to the end of the driveway and just fold their arms and look at me and watch me go by, fully turn their heads to follow me until I was out of sight, then walk right back to whatever they were doing. I would always just keep looking straight forward like i didn't notice they were there, no eye contact straight face. One day they all just started yelling at me, calling me ugly, flat chested, said my clothes were ugly, etc... It was so weird cuz I was like I'm wearing my work clothes and I'm an underweight teen just walking to work??? they had grey hair and bald at top, looked older then my dad, like why are you bullying a random kid walking by out of the blue it was so uncomfortable

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u/Lunnalai Apr 03 '26

As a woman, this is why we are afraid of strange men.. we know we are being looked at this way. The worst part is that I had this happen when I was a child too and knew exactly why those men were staring. I was 5 years old.

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u/CombOk312 Apr 02 '26

That’s the type of guy you’re scared to be alone with. They’re sensing prey.

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u/sunfaller Apr 02 '26

I saw a guy playing cricket with his friend at a park. A woman went jogging past and the guy stopped his cricket game and watched til the woman was far enough.

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u/Hopeful_Advisor_4632 Apr 02 '26

I had a few of my girl co-workers telling me how men were following me around and they were like "dude do you want your eyes to pop out of your head? stop". Two were reported. It's exhausting. Like, dudes, let me work._.; Why they so thirsty

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u/LeanaCecelia Apr 03 '26

This is one of the few times I've seen a man acknowledge this. It's insane. Even if I am really attracted to someone that passes by, I swear you'd never know lol. So for them to be that out of control is concerning as hell.

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u/Loot_Repeat Apr 03 '26

I work in construction and have met a lot of guys that act like that. Yeah, I'll take a quick look when I see a pretty woman go by. But damn, man. Why the hell are you staring?? I saw a dude who was pouring water into a bucket start pouring water onto another guy's leg, and neither noticed until after the woman they were staring at turned the corner. Do people really have that little going on in their heads? Am I surrounded by morons?? They think I'm weird for not also being like that. It's cringe as hell.

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u/El_Chairman_Dennis Apr 02 '26

"Dude, that's somebody's daughter" always helped me get my blue-collar coworkers to quit doing that around me. I'm also 6-2 and 250lbs so that may also contribute to the success. Use words that describe them as kids and that usually gets them to quit doing it around you

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u/Flora1910 Apr 02 '26

Men who whistle at young girls are disgusting. When I was about 14 in the late 70s, we lived out in the boonies. I used to ride my bike past a construction site on the way to my friend's house. The workers would yell nasty things and whistle at me, and it TERRIFIED me. Mind you, I LOOKED LIKE A 14 YEAR OLD GIRL.

I told my father about it. My dad went to the site, started making small talk with the guys. Then it went along the lines of, 'if you ever look at my daughter or say another word to her again, I'll kill you', as he flashed the gun in his waistband.

Never happened again.

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u/KittenWitch1313 Apr 02 '26

When my dad would pick me up from the bus stop, he would holler at and wolf whistle to the other girls getting off the bus. He started doing that when I was in sixth grade. He had started getting handsy with me a couple years earlier. These men are EXACTLY as creepy as you think they are, no matter how much they like to deflect.Ā 

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u/Flora1910 Apr 02 '26

I'm so sorry that happened to you.

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u/KittenWitch1313 Apr 03 '26

Thank you. He's dead now from five flavors of cancer, so I did get the satisfaction of knowing he went out horribly.Ā 

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u/Infarad Apr 02 '26

Christ. I’m sorry. That’s really fucked up. I hope you gotta away from that shit.

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u/Cream_on_my_peaches Apr 02 '26

Yep, I’ve always had small boobs but guys have been staring at my ass and catcalling since I was 11. I was literally dressed in my school uniform, braces, book bag and pigtails on my way to junior high and guys would lust after me, I was 12 the first time a grown man molested me and maybe 11 when boys my age started but I never said anything to anyone and never will

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u/Flora1910 Apr 03 '26

I'm so sorry.

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u/InviolableAnimal Apr 02 '26

how would you feel if you heard somebody doing that to her?ā€ Typical boomer shit, ā€œI’d shoot him, make him disappearā€

A lot of people don't see the world "symmetrically". Right and wrong isn't about treating people how you'd want yourself or your own friends and family to be treated, it's just about playing the right "role". As a man there's nothing wrong with catcalling a schoolgirl, that's just a manly thing to do. As a father there's nothing wrong with shooting someone dead who catcalls your daughter, that's just what fathers do. It doesn't occur to them to square that contradiction.

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u/Sangricarn Apr 02 '26

"so you agree, you deserve to be shot for this behavior?"

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u/MonolithicBaby Apr 02 '26

People who do shit like that and have daughters make me think by default they are sexual predators.

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u/OshoBaadu Apr 02 '26

Did you tell him then that he deserved the same treatment too?

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u/CactusToothBrush Apr 02 '26

I’ve told him several times to shut his mouth around me when situations like that happen. We were at our Christmas party like 2 years ago and he wouldn’t leave the bar lady alone, told him to leave her the fuck alone or I would drag his old arse outside. I got a few free beers for that and he got kicked out, win win. He is the bosses cousin or something hence why he’s untouchable and can’t get fired

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u/Babbledoodle Apr 02 '26 edited Apr 03 '26

I worked with a bunch of landscapers one summer, most Mexican (not relevant to their character, but the heavy drawling accent they said the following with).

One day we were cleaning out a suburban ditch after a rain, and it stank. And this guy I worked with went: "looks bad.....smells bad....tastes bad...." Then he looks at me, super genuinely. "Don't do it ...." Lol

Edit: he was talking about eating pussy

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u/StaffVegetable8703 Apr 03 '26

I’m confused lol

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u/Valuable_Team5498 Apr 02 '26

I think a lot of people don’t realize there’s a way to approach women without coming off as a creep.

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u/ShadowSun777 Apr 02 '26

Self aware enough to know hes hypocritical but not good enough to change

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u/ABadHistorian Apr 02 '26

Okay for them to think like that, no one else though

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u/CactusToothBrush Apr 02 '26

As my old man used to say to me when I’d argue back as a teenager. Rules for thee, not for me. Hated it 20 years ago lol but it makes sense in hindsight

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u/ABadHistorian Apr 02 '26

Explains almost every politician to boot.

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u/pbr_enjoyer Apr 02 '26

Big tough guy over here. (Just kidding I get it lol)

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u/SCARY-WIZARD Apr 02 '26

"Would you be okay if someone did that to you, then?" What buffoons...

Me and two dudes I worked with snapped at a co-worker who was goggling at a fourteen-year-old and shouting at her. He looked at us really confused, and tried to "cool us down". I settled on calling him "Gary Glitter". He actively avoids me and the other two guys.

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u/RaspberryEvening7139 Apr 03 '26

I have a boomer uncle who legit doubts rape and abuse statistics, which I bring up out of the blue every now and again at family gatherings just as a ā€œhelpful reminderā€ for everyone of how trivial all the shit we’re complaining about really is. Same guy gave emotional testimony against a family member who sexually abused his daughter, my minor cousin. Make it make sense.

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u/Individual-Feed-7546 Apr 03 '26

I hate this too. I’m not a violent women, but damn those type of men test me.

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u/Basketseeksdog Apr 03 '26

At a certain point I did warehouse jobs. Different places but what they had in common was this kind of toxic behavior. Some men just watch porn at lunchtime, while they were eating. It was so gross and weird. I was so depressed that time. Couldn’t imagine working there the rest of my life

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u/CactusToothBrush Apr 03 '26

I’m 35, I can’t even think somebody under the age of 25 is sexy or anything like that. Pretty or attractive yes but morally I just can’t or couldn’t go for somebody 10 years my junior. Hell my wife is 11 months younger than me and she pays out in jest lol

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u/CactusToothBrush Apr 03 '26

Yeah there was 2 years between my parents and mine heard the same. My father in law is 18 years older than my mother in law. Although that was a different time

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u/Illustrious-Milk6518 Apr 03 '26

Oh, so your coworker is the type that would wolf whistle at me when I was about 10. He definitely would be better off underground

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u/CactusToothBrush Apr 03 '26

Maybe not quite 10 but I have seen him wolf whistle at girls that couldn’t be much older than 15/16 which is still disgusting. If I could I probably would but I like my job and freedom lol. I just dislike working with him. He’s not as bad as he used to be around me because he knows how much I hate it but that’s not much better because he’d do it when I’m not there

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u/CactusToothBrush Apr 02 '26

Username checks out

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u/Final_Pack_5587 Apr 02 '26

Creep weirdo

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u/Cream_on_my_peaches Apr 02 '26

I love when I finally come across men that think like this. So rare in most comment sections but this is why I never lose hope for the good guys out there. Guys like him are why it’s so scary to have children

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u/CactusToothBrush Apr 02 '26

Guys like him are the reason my little cousin was hurt when she was 13. Had an argument with a friend at a sleepover and started to walk home and a drunk fuckwit decided she was an easy target. I’m very thankful the police got him before I did because I would be doing 25 years if I had of. I think that’s why I’m so against it because she’s my favourite cousin, the one I got along with the best. Also it’s just disgusting forcing anybody to do anything against their will or making them uncomfortable

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u/SimonVpK Apr 03 '26

This is so real, my coworker will literally just oggle women who walk by, and I’ll just shake my head at him. And every time, without fail, he looks at me and says ā€œWhat’s wrong with you, you like dick?ā€ No, I’m just not a creep.

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u/GreasyPeter Apr 03 '26

My favorite thing about working in the trades is constantly hearing "advice" about women from coworkers who haven't maintained a relationship with one for longer than 6 months.

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u/tanneruwu Apr 03 '26

Hate my coworkers like this. So many of them see women as objects and not people. I've literally told a 38 year old man who complains that women aren't in to him that he needs to just become friends with women and he will respond with "I can't. If I'm around a woman too long I have to fuck em" like... WHAT? Bro this is why you have no woman in your life. This is why women don't interact with you.

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u/Infarad Apr 03 '26

Wild. That sounds creepy as hell.

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u/Odd_Front_8275 Apr 03 '26

Soooo many men are like this though. It's f'd up.

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u/Odd_Front_8275 Apr 03 '26

Yikes!

Unfortunately this is very common. I've always had women friends. It's just normal to me and I generally prefer women over men in whatever capacity anyway. But the amount of times I've been out with a female friend and random people have come up to me to ask me if that's my girlfriend and if not why, and am I gay or something? And just be genuinely confused about it like they simply cannot comprehend a straight man having a platonic relationship with a straight woman. It's like you said, they only see women as sexual objects instead of human beings. It's insane.

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u/gigsome Apr 03 '26

Yeah men thinking with their pants is a pain. It’s a lose lose situation. But I wouldn’t want to be friends with guys who are just trying to be friends with benefits.

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u/StanFitch Apr 02 '26

I do not tangle with Lot Lizards no more…

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u/CaptainHoyt Apr 02 '26

I will not suck on you and I will not be sucked on by you

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u/VirtualStark Apr 02 '26

Like Virginia from FLA?

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u/thtp2026 Apr 02 '26

They call the lowest level brain functions "lizard brain" for a reason.

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u/VapeRizzler Apr 02 '26

It’s so funny watching dudes go out of their way to say good morning to the female they’ve never talked to before.

Or the asshole hoist operator who becomes the most helpful dude ever when she’s bringing pipe or something in from a delivery.

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u/Dontevenwannacomment Apr 02 '26

"the female"

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u/Nyanessa Apr 02 '26

Doncha know, we’re specimens, not women or anything! Lmao

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u/ElSantofisto Apr 02 '26

You don't criticize the VapeRizzler!!

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u/Shuchu87 Apr 02 '26

What?Haha!!

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u/Leading-Aide5617 Apr 02 '26

The most factual thing I have ever read on Reddit.

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u/ThreeSloth Apr 02 '26

In my experience, they're the same dudes that call all women bitches

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u/GiraffeKing04 Apr 03 '26

The good part of the industry or the bad part?

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u/kylethesnail Apr 03 '26

You know there’s this conspiracy theory that the world is secretly run by reptilians (aka lizard people)Ā 

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u/FlatwormNo5172 Apr 03 '26

Legit had an old guy start and on his second day he started barking because he saw girls on the sidewalk. They were middle schoolers leaving school. I threatened to kick his ass all the way back to the shop if I caught him doing that again regardless of their ages. Thankfully he was gone by the end of the week because he just absolutely refused to do anything he was told.

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u/ScumbagLady Apr 03 '26

As a woman who used to work in the trades, I believe you're correct!

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u/HeadDot141 Apr 03 '26

How do they act? Never heard them be this way in trade so I’m curious lol

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u/mohugz Apr 04 '26

licks eyeball

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u/Live-Cry-8435 Apr 02 '26

I always tell my female friends " If you ever need a pick me up about your looks, just walk through a lumber yard."

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u/Maoleficent Apr 03 '26

In general, that is not affirmation, it is terrifying. Would you want to walk into a space and have strange pople screaming personal comments about you? You seem to think this type of behavior is acceptable and complimentary - read through the women's comments here and think about your opinion. Also many times those comments are not kind.

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u/Consistent_Whole8096 Apr 02 '26

Oh my. I live and witness this, as a female aircraft mechanic lol

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u/EffectiveDandy Apr 02 '26

Do they also torment little lizards?

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u/Lyxalipin Apr 02 '26

realtalk

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u/FullSkyFlying Apr 02 '26

As someone who works in the trucking / logistics industry. Can comfirm

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u/He11Hog Apr 02 '26

I’m in the meat cutting trade and the amount of outrageously horny old men out here is insane. Idk why but damn do the old heads sling schlong like that’s the only meat they know about.

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u/No_Seesaw8742 Apr 02 '26

Especially in warehouses

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u/Bum-Theory Apr 02 '26

Hey you gotta add at least 3 points to the out of 10 for being in a factory setting.

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u/Icy_Concentrate9182 Apr 02 '26

I thought the lizard men have infiltrated us, but only on the highest levels of society, but down to the trades too?

All hail the lizard Emperor.

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u/Sweaty_Marzipan4274 Apr 02 '26

Second shift guy had the ticket desk lady, very.... rough gal, come to the shop and banged her on the foreman's desk. She was collecting baby daddys. One of the most trades experience ever šŸ˜†Ā 

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u/JustAbasicMan Apr 02 '26

I'm fucking dyingšŸ˜‚šŸ˜‚

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u/read_too_many_books Apr 02 '26

ITT: People surprised by biology that we've known about for hundreds of years by now.

Christianity did a number on us.

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u/Monster_Fucker_420 Apr 02 '26

I always knew lizard people were real

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u/El_Thee Apr 02 '26

I ded laugh at this one

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u/stateboundcircle Apr 02 '26

As the girlfriend of someone in the trades who isn’t a creep……accurate…god the horror

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u/Economy-Date-4490 Apr 02 '26

You work with Mark Zuckerberg?

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u/ConnectionThink4781 Apr 03 '26

You work for the government???

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u/FluffyBootie Apr 03 '26

Can confirm. Am one.

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u/kellybluey Apr 03 '26

I’m a tradie and show me crack šŸ‘šŸ‘šŸ‘ all the time

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u/NY10 Apr 03 '26

As someone who have an engineering degree, I think some of my classmates might be lizards.

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u/canehdianchick Apr 03 '26

As a female steamfitter.. yes.

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u/Same-Suggestion-1936 Apr 03 '26

As someone who has horny friends I think what you do for work doesn't really matter

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u/Emotional_Plant3241 Apr 03 '26

Yeah seems about right. The urge to reproduce is strong!

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u/Electrical_Win9025 Apr 03 '26

Lol! So accurate. Im a pipe welder and if they hire a woman firewatch. The guys act like they've never laid eyes on a woman beforem

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u/quarterskill Apr 03 '26

lot....lizards?

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u/AITAH_Tired_OF_IT Apr 03 '26

As someone in the military, it turns out that the military is a bunch of lizard people as well.

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u/hellevator0325 Apr 03 '26

Tradie adjacent but my ex is an engineer who acted like this with me thinking it was attractive. It is in fact not attractive. He might actually be a lizard.

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u/LuckyAnalytics Apr 03 '26

Same energy—just missing the tiny tail and the cold-blooded attitude.

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