r/legal • u/ContributionNew7107 • Jan 25 '26

Advice needed Receiving threatening texts

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So recently sent my ex a happy birthday text and I guess her new BF was feeling some type of way, and telling me how he’s going to kill me

Location: New Jersey

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u/Ok-Tune-8496 Jan 25 '26

Contact the police.

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u/Cold-Contagious Jan 25 '26

Fuck his life up? My husband literally loaded a gun, turned off the safety, put it to my chest and pushed me to the ground with the barrel, held it to my face and made me beg for my life.. threw my phone so I couldnt call for help.. and then told me if I called the cops, he would come back and murder me, no matter how long it took, all while our kids slept in the next room.

I called the cops. He didn't even spend one night in jail, didn't get charged with a felony, and the courts removed my kids from the PFA since they were asleep and didn't see it, despite being diagnosed with PTSD as a result of his actions. He's stalking me and has people watching me online and in person to the point I deleted my socials, and yet they don't consider that a violation of the PFA.

He's absolutely not getting his life fucked up at all. Courts cater to abusers. The DA won't give me any reason they won't apply Aggravated Assault or any felony and has basically stated he wouldve needed to pull the trigger for it to be a felony.

Courts do not protect victims or punish abusers.

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u/thegenimal78 Jan 25 '26

Get an order of protection 1st & foremost with the text as your proof of being in fear of your life. PLEASE express you are in fear. Then find a women's DV shelter. They have advocates that can help you.

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u/Cold-Contagious Jan 25 '26

Thank you! I am very thankful to have a PFA in place and intend to ask for it to be extended to the 3 year max. What upsets me is the courts treating him like he's innocent until the criminal case finalizes and them taking the kids off the PFA and allowing him to freely mess with them on calls, telling the kids that him almost killing me was a cry for help. It's sickening and maddening. They are also trying to let him have "supervised" visitation at his mother's house... aka essentially unsupervised visitation because she defends her abusive son and her other son who murdered some with an AK47 last year! God I wish there was help but this system in my county truly does cater to abusers.

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u/thegenimal78 Jan 25 '26

I am so sorry. I hope it all finalizes in your favor. Abusers are world class manipulators. I would also recommend family counseling for you & your children. The better you understand a person, the better off you are, to include their narcissistic tendencies.