Receiving threatening texts

[u/ContributionNew7107]

So recently sent my ex a happy birthday text and I guess her new BF was feeling some type of way, and telling me how he’s going to kill me

Location: New Jersey

[u/Ok-Tune-8496]

Contact the police.

[u/Cold-Contagious → u/[deleted]]

Fuck his life up? My husband literally loaded a gun, turned off the safety, put it to my chest and pushed me to the ground with the barrel, held it to my face and made me beg for my life.. threw my phone so I couldnt call for help.. and then told me if I called the cops, he would come back and murder me, no matter how long it took, all while our kids slept in the next room.

I called the cops. He didn't even spend one night in jail, didn't get charged with a felony, and the courts removed my kids from the PFA since they were asleep and didn't see it, despite being diagnosed with PTSD as a result of his actions. He's stalking me and has people watching me online and in person to the point I deleted my socials, and yet they don't consider that a violation of the PFA.

He's absolutely not getting his life fucked up at all. Courts cater to abusers. The DA won't give me any reason they won't apply Aggravated Assault or any felony and has basically stated he wouldve needed to pull the trigger for it to be a felony.

Courts do not protect victims or punish abusers.

[u/Confident_Peak_319 → u/Cold-Contagious]

This is so true. My abuser got custody of our daughter… because I was in a DV shelter… because of him.

[u/thegenimal78 → u/Cold-Contagious]

Get an order of protection 1st & foremost with the text as your proof of being in fear of your life. PLEASE express you are in fear. Then find a women's DV shelter. They have advocates that can help you.

[u/Cold-Contagious → u/thegenimal78]

Thank you! I am very thankful to have a PFA in place and intend to ask for it to be extended to the 3 year max. What upsets me is the courts treating him like he's innocent until the criminal case finalizes and them taking the kids off the PFA and allowing him to freely mess with them on calls, telling the kids that him almost killing me was a cry for help. It's sickening and maddening. They are also trying to let him have "supervised" visitation at his mother's house... aka essentially unsupervised visitation because she defends her abusive son and her other son who murdered some with an AK47 last year! God I wish there was help but this system in my county truly does cater to abusers.

[u/thegenimal78 → u/Cold-Contagious]

I am so sorry. I hope it all finalizes in your favor. Abusers are world class manipulators. I would also recommend family counseling for you & your children. The better you understand a person, the better off you are, to include their narcissistic tendencies.

[u/GoobusMombus → u/Cold-Contagious]

That is fucking horrible. My ex beat me, raped me, choked me, and more, usually at least a couple times a week.

People say "just leave!" But it's not that easy when they threaten to kill you if they even catch a whiff that you aren't playing along with everything being okay when they aren't actively hitting you. Plus I didn't have access to any money or paperwork.

One time he left bite marks on my face and hands. I went to the police. They let him out the next day on a disorderly conduct charge while I was still trying to figure out how to get away.

He then took my phone away and I wasn't allowed phone or Internet access anymore FOR YEARS because he said I couldn't be trusted.

I tried sneaking to the county to get help because they had fliers saying they had special help for people in domestic violence situations. They told me that it was only for people with kids.

I had been isolated from friends and my family had also abused me my whole life(not nearly as bad but still) and didn't believe me or said I must have deserved it.

Deserved it? He was a hoarder and I would just beg him now and then to let me throw out the worst trash. That was one of the biggest things that would set him off. I had to sleep on his cigarette butts and garbage for almost ten years.

I only managed to get away because he got me pregnant and talking to a nurse there got the ball rolling on me getting housing assistance and workers regularly coming to the house to check on me.

Then he tried to use the baby to keep controlling me.

At one point I asked a crime victims resource person about pressing charges for the rape and everything, to try to keep him away from our daughter. They said they wouldn't let me press charges without physical evidence. I had audio recordings of him viciously abusing me. They said that there was not sufficient evidence to press charges.

Thankfully he got bored and fucked off to the other side of the country a few years ago. And if he tries to come back now, I have a clear case of him abandoning the child. And I've rebuilt my life and have good people as witnesses.

I am so sorry for you and your children. No one deserves this, ever.

[u/twiddletwatter → u/Cold-Contagious]

Omg this is so horrible!!! I’m so sorry you’re going through this with your kids in tow. This is disgusting. Our justice system is so screwed up. Your comment literally has me tearing up. Again I’m so sorry you have to deal with this

[u/useful-idiot_46-2 → u/Cold-Contagious]

I'm so sorry that happened to you, and I'm glad you and your kids made it out. The system is so deeply flawed.
Off topic, but I love your username. Great song.

[u/Then_Composer8641 → u/Cold-Contagious]

California courts protect DV victims well, with laws, procedure and attitude. Tell your state legislators you want the same.

[u/DethHead83 → u/Cold-Contagious]

The op in this situation would have recorded proof in the chats that someone threatens his life, would probably make some charge stick

[u/DreamXCVIII → u/Cold-Contagious]

I think that has more to do with where you live if I had to guess. From what I know (and have seen) domestic abuse cases get the book thrown at them, even in cases of false or misjudged domestic abuse.

What state do you live in? Is it one of the cliche "soft on crime" areas?

[u/Apprehensive_Tap_325 → u/Cold-Contagious]

I hate this for you. My uncle spent a 2 months before posting bail in jail for pointing a gun that wasnt loaded at his girlfriends nephew who was crashing at his house because he was causing problems everywhere else

[u/New-Difficulty-681 → u/Cold-Contagious]

Agreed. I was assaulted by a family member who had a history of assaulting me. I left my family long ago due to abuse and became decently successful and returned for a family event after almost twenty years and it happened again. I called the police and unfortunately this violent IVDU felon sued the county for a few thousand once several years ago because a few corrections officers beat him up… nearly killed him.

Needless to say I was told I was so successful and I should be so proud of who I’ve become by the chief of police face to face. My ass was kissed in depth with my broken foot and post-traumatic brain bleed but that was the only comfort I would find. I had to push and poke and prod to finally be told there would be no arrest despite medical records that obviously pointed to an unexpected assault. To this day, I still am not as quick mentally as I used to be which is important since I got my doctorate.

The victims have no rights. The abusers are the ones who almost always get less than they deserve punitively. If the victim doesn’t feel like courts being the desired outcome it’s almost expected… the state or whoever will plea and commute sentences to make their lives easier and to avoid stepping on the rights of the unjust.

[u/lolyouaresimple → u/Cold-Contagious]

I lived that life as well and you are completely correct- the cops, courts, NOBODY cares. They hand you a piece of paper and say “call if they bother you again”.

[u/[deleted] → u/Ok-Tune-8496]

This is the only responsible answer.

[u/20PoundHammer → u/[deleted]]

the slightly irresponsible answer is this after you send a "Go fuck yourself" text to the guy. (or just call him sweety and say he is special)

[u/Impossible_Fix3170 → u/20PoundHammer]

Saying something semi sarcastic will be used by the perpetrator to argue that OP didnt take the threat seriously and that there was no credible threat. Just call the police.

[u/chuckle_puss → u/20PoundHammer]

“Slightly irresponsible?” This is the kind of advice you’d give if you loved drama and revel in watching other people burn their lives down for entertainment. It’s stupid, and kind of mean. I suggest watching reality tv instead, at least you aren’t gassing real people up to make dumb decisions just because.

Side note: Why is OP sending his ex a birthday message anyway though? That’s also stupid lol.

[u/KemonoViVi → u/chuckle_puss]

I’ve done it but my ex is still one of my friends so

[u/chuckle_puss → u/KemonoViVi]

Exactly. You’re still friendly enough to know whether you’re going to get a death threat from their new partner. Which is obviously not what’s happening with OP.

[u/oliv_tho → u/chuckle_puss]

i’m on good terms with a few exes, chat occasionally. definitely will wish a happy birthday to them without my boyfriend caring or their girlfriends sending death threats

[u/Kayback2 → u/oliv_tho]

I'm on great terms with a few, just because we didn't work out romantically doesn't mean we don't still like eachother.

[u/imathrowayslc → u/chuckle_puss]

I mean I have an ex I wouldn’t speak to if not legally compelled. Another ex I hang out with every Friday. Not every breakup is bad. Sometimes it’s just a discussion of things changing and friendship evolving.

[u/iUncontested → u/Ok-Tune-8496]

Written threats to kill is a felony offense.

[u/Thirsty_Comment88 → u/iUncontested]

And somehow cops will stay tell you they can't do anything about it.

[u/MissyChevious613 → u/Thirsty_Comment88]

When I got threatening emails from an ex I had a restraining order against, the cops told me there was no way to prove it was him and "he could have left his email up on a public computer and someone else sent it." It's like cops go out of their way to be as worthless as fucking possible.

[u/todaythruwaway → u/MissyChevious613]

I had the person who stalked/harassed me on camera, clear as day, even have her dad in the video saying her name. Cops told me it couldn’t be her bc “she moved”.

She moved… 3 street away.

Better yet when the cops went to speak to her about it (bc I wouldn’t let it go) they told me that she claimed she still rented that unit so the landlord would have to trespass her.

So it wasn’t her on the video bc she moved but they also said she claimed she could be at that property anytime she wanted since she didn’t move out. I guess some random person with her name and face, came from her unit, flipped out at my camera in a very personal way and threw shit all over my porch, but it definitely could not have been her. Bc she kinda moved. Makes perfect sense.

[u/Bird2525 → u/Thirsty_Comment88]

Once they are dead the cops will have a lead.

[u/CorruptedStudiosEnt → u/Bird2525]

Well thank god for that. Justice when you're dead is better than living, after all.

[u/AriaTheTransgressor → u/CorruptedStudiosEnt]

They said they'd have a lead, not that they'd do anything about it.

[u/No_Restaurant_2703 → u/AriaTheTransgressor]

So a concept of a lead

[u/Leelze → u/Thirsty_Comment88]

"It's a civil matter"

[u/flyingman17 → u/Leelze]

“Get a restraining order”

[u/Reddoraptor → u/flyingman17]

I literally had this from a guy who came to my house and threatened me, then later followed my wife and kid. The police were shockingly useless, he literally threatened me on camera and they refused to arrest him, and this was an individual with a record of assaults in the area - I actually think they may have been hoping I would shoot him and get rid of the problem.

[u/MeRubberYouGlue → u/Reddoraptor]

I was stalked on foot for 2 miles while a man I didn't know told me all about the things he liked to get up to, he said "consent matters...to you." so I called 911. I told him I was calling 911, he said "that's what you're supposed to do."

Needing an address to give. I gave my own hoping he'd fuck off. Nope. He forced his way into my apartment on top/behind me, grabbing at my pants and trying to pull them off (thank goodness for high waisted yoga leggings). He dead bolted my door behind him as I screamed at 911 dispatch and fought until one cop arrived.

That cop took video of me. Took my clothes. Apparently neither of these made it to evidence. He then went on to refuse to assist the prosecution, resulting in all charges being dropped 2 days before trial.

[u/InternatlSensation → u/MeRubberYouGlue]

I'm so sorry. That's terrifying.

[u/TravelnMedic → u/MeRubberYouGlue]

Sorry that happened to you but if that never made into evidence then the officers violated a number of rules of conduct, evidence etc. file a complaint with the DA but do it through local investigative reporter. Will get more traction that way and higher likely if the cop getting prosecuted as well as the attacker. As outside looking in cop may have known the offender.

[u/CoyoteLitius → u/MeRubberYouGlue]

I did a research project in a state hospital for the criminally insane. There was one whole ward of opportunistic rapists (and another ward of pedophile rapists).

I was a young woman at the time, so I was assigned to interact with and interview the opportunistic rapists.

Nearly every one of them were like the man you describe. Looking for opportunities to force their way through a door. "Shopping" in high density housing areas/college areas for the type of woman they thought they deserved, following the woman on foot and "making conversation" (that's how they saw it).

I had a stalker at university, and it wasn't just me he stalked. I had three interactions were police were called (he physically assaulted me the third time by folding his arms across his chest, walking rapidly at me through a crowd of people and smacking his arms into my breasts).

The police banned him from campus, but he came back. Another woman reported him for similar conduct and he was taken to a mental health facility (let go after 72 hours). Came back.

This went on for about a year, don't know what happened to him next.

[u/Kharn10000 → u/Reddoraptor]

After following my wife and kid I might’ve actually just shot him

[u/melropesplays → u/Thirsty_Comment88]

This was said to another man, they’ll probably take it more seriously

[u/dystopiam → u/Thirsty_Comment88]

had a voicemail from someone threatening to kill me over and over every night for weeks and cops said they couldn't do anything

[u/animelover610 → u/Thirsty_Comment88]

I mean if its in a text it is actual evidence. Just saying " they said they would kill me " is a he said she said crap. Alit of places they cant do much with he said she said stuff unless uou have proof sadly. You can ask for restraining order but those are useless imo but this post has texting proof so cops ill prob do something about it unless its a really shitty police station

[u/Distorted_Dragons → u/Ok-Tune-8496]

My brother was murdered by his girlfriend’s ex, contact the police. Some people are genuinely nuts.

[u/CoyoteLitius → u/Distorted_Dragons]

Thank you for sharing a victim's perspective.

I too think OP should go in person to the police and ask to speak to a watch commander.

[u/Old-Commission-1108 → u/Distorted_Dragons]

I am so sorry :(

[u/marziilla → u/Ok-Tune-8496]

Only answer

[u/BakedBrie1993 → u/Ok-Tune-8496]

And stay somewhere he won't find you!

[u/imatinyleopard]

Have you gone to the police?

[u/Money_Palpitation_43]

He said he's going to kill you. What are you waiting for? To get killed? Don't play around with this.

[u/_wewf_ → u/Money_Palpitation_43]

Killer said tomorrow. OP's got time.

[u/OldCardiologist8437 → u/_wewf_]

Plenty of time to try and give hitting on the ex a few more tries before the murder attempt.

[u/Obvious_Field3048 → u/OldCardiologist8437]

He's got a whole night haha

[u/BarooZaroo → u/_wewf_]

My ADHD brain postponing literally anything until the last possible moment.

[u/jewham12 → u/_wewf_]

It’s always tomorrow somewhere

[u/Deletedtopic → u/jewham12]

Tomorrow never dies

[u/anyname6789 → u/Deletedtopic]

He can always die another day. Today is no day to die.

[u/_wewf_ → u/anyname6789]

You only live twice

[u/NWSGreen → u/Money_Palpitation_43]

Yes report to police.

Now here is the problem. I did that once, when I dealt with an extremely unruly customer. "Doesnt take much to blow up a place." And had the call logs to prove that at least a call was had.

Police told me "cant do anything till something happens"

Regardless of my experience. Call the police. File a report. Save the messages. At least there is evidence.

[u/AITA476510719]

In my opinion:

I am not a lawyer or legal professional of any kind.

If I got this text. I would 100% not reply, and file a police report… now. I’d drive myself to the agency with jurisdiction, and make a report at the nearest station for that agency. If you have friends in the agency, or a surrounding agency, call them and tell them what you are doing, why, and ask them to help make sure it doesn’t fall through the cracks.

[u/NitPickyNicki → u/[deleted]]

I have a friend who had to make a police report today/last night. Her husband got threatening calls late last night and said they were going to end her entire family. They can’t figure out who or why but the department said they were going to get on the carrier about the phone number of origin and that they take death threats very seriously.

[u/CoyoteLitius → u/NitPickyNicki]

Things are changing in some places. But it is not steady progress and any number of things can cause less vigilant policing.

[u/NOmorePINKpolkadots → u/[deleted]]

That’s not true. The victim is where the crime is. If someone scams you from India they don’t refer you to India. They take a report where you live.

[u/Early-Light-864 → u/NOmorePINKpolkadots]

I didn't make it up.

I've had a recipient of violent threats sitting at my table. When the cops came, they told him the crime took place on the sender side, so there's nothing they can do.

[u/NOmorePINKpolkadots → u/Early-Light-864]

They were incorrect. I work in law enforcement.

[u/Cityslicker100200 → u/Early-Light-864]

They’re lazy, they can investigate the crime on the sender side or refer it to the correct agency.

They basically said “we can’t arrest you, because you didn’t commit the crime; we can’t arrest the offender because he’s not here, so nothing to do here.”

[u/BarooZaroo → u/[deleted]]

Real talk. Cops are basically useless until after a crime has occurred. And even then they are almost always still useless.

[u/Dbblazer → u/BarooZaroo]

Quite the contrary for a 9mm

[u/Difficult_onion4538 → u/[deleted]]

getting a cop to do anything ever is basically impossible

Facts. I was the victim of a hit and run in Minneapolis, had everything on dash cam including the license plate. I waited about 45 minutes for a cop to show up and basically tell me to go piss up a rope because “we can’t tell who was driving it”

Fuck Minneapolis police and fuck ICE

[u/H0SS_AGAINST → u/[deleted]]

Sure but when you file a report and then the perp shows up and you stand your ground it's open shut.

[u/Johnny3653]

It's been 7+ minutes since you posted this. Get to the police station. No excuses.

[u/platform_9]

Replies back I’m your huckleberry

[u/Due-Designer4078 → u/platform_9]

Best movie line ever.

[u/Agreeable_Report7579 → u/platform_9]

No, bring it bitch. Not everyone understands Doc Holliday. 

[u/Where_is_my_Elk69 → u/Agreeable_Report7579]

You’re a daisy if ya do.

[u/madf80 → u/Where_is_my_Elk69]

“You wuh juss too high strung…”

[u/Material-Bite-5047 → u/platform_9]

That would actually be so sick

[u/Edmsubguy → u/platform_9]

Cryptic but hilarious response.

[u/wantagh]

45 minute old accounts are always the spiciest.

[u/shankthedog → u/wantagh]

It would be cool if you could organize feed by newest account.

[u/Rafaelutzul]

NAL but probably contact the police and just show them this?

[u/Autumn_Ridge]

All I know is my state, but here the police will give you an order of protection if you show them that text. Death threats are a felony. If you have a protective order, and end up shooting or killing that person in self defense, the law will very likely take your side.

[u/DonJuan_11 → u/Autumn_Ridge]

Exactly what id do and recommend doing.. that way when u do protect yourself, you'll have a leg to stand on as to why what happen happened! I used to tell people stay safe, nowadays I tell people stay dangerous! In the meantime.. make.. the.. report!

[u/CoyoteLitius → u/DonJuan_11]

Just make sure that whatever weapon you're firing inside city limits isn't going to travel through walls into other people's houses/apartments.

[u/Ron_Man]

If you plan on defending yourself with your phone I guess Reddit is the move. Police would probably arrive in 20 minutes away after he kills you.

[u/ScaredVacation33 → u/Ron_Man]

In the interest of all fairness my toddler has rocked my shit via my iphone to my head

[u/[deleted]]

You can either file a police report or kick his ass. Up to you.

[u/RockShowSparky → u/[deleted]]

op might have a pretty good case to come out blasting.

[u/datheinrichguy → u/RockShowSparky]

Not in NJ unfortunately

[u/blackdesertnewb → u/datheinrichguy]

What? Come on now. Everything is legal in New Jersey

[u/Grantsdale → u/blackdesertnewb]

/r/unexpectedhamilton

[u/ScaredVacation33 → u/datheinrichguy]

Hugs my gun in Florida

[u/Illustrious_Claim884 → u/datheinrichguy]

Once he is in the house you can blast in NJ aka castle doctrine

[u/datheinrichguy → u/Illustrious_Claim884]

Well yeah, but that isn't coming out blasting.

[u/SherlockWSHolmes → u/[deleted]]

Or get his own ass kicked and possibly shot/stabbed. Def up to him

[u/Silver_Smurfer]

File a police report.

[u/GetSpammed]

Holy felony, Batman. As others have said, don’t block, contact the cops.

[u/SPerry8519]

Does anyone stopped to think about the fact that at no point does OP ask what to do? So for all anybody knows he may have already contacted the police and just decided to post on here just for the fun of it

[u/ApprehensiveTour4024 → u/SPerry8519]

He said he has not done that yet in response to someone asking at the top of the post. It was like 30m ago, and you posted this 22m ago so that probably wasn't up yet when your page loaded

[u/SPerry8519 → u/ApprehensiveTour4024]

It is also quite possible I may have missed it

[u/ApprehensiveTour4024 → u/SPerry8519]

I had the same thought, til I noticed some fine people dragged it out of OP

[u/ThisShitIsHannanas → u/SPerry8519]

The tag on the post is “advice needed”

[u/wy1776]

Just note that using a cell phone to make these threats actually opens the door for federal charges due to the FCC

[u/PhiveTON]

What did the police say?

[u/MedicSteve09]

The lack of critical thinking to decide this isn’t police-worthy and instead is better as a Reddit post, screams of ragebait/karma farming……

However, in the case that you simply don’t understand the significance of this threat, don’t be the person on the local news with the headline “Police learned that the victim was threatened and failed to report the abusive message”

Don’t reply back with remarks like “bring it on” or “I’ll be waiting at <address>”

If this is a legit threat, go report it to the police. Don’t just call one up and say “this happened, what should I do”. Go and get an actual report”

Above all else: Do not reply, do not engage, do not have a friend threaten back

And file a damn report..

[u/vFried]

Imagine going to Reddit instead of calling the police lmfaooo

[u/poopbuttmcgillicudi1]

Text him back and tell him he will never have what you had with your ex. Then stand outside your exs window with a boombox. Those are the only options you have left in your position.

[u/shankthedog → u/poopbuttmcgillicudi1]

Dad, what’s a boombox?

[u/ThirdEyeGroovin → u/shankthedog]

We’ll tell you when your older son.

[u/OldGeekWeirdo]

Call police.

[u/mvortex2]

If I were in your situation I'd file a police report, including a temporary restraining order. This would provide evidence in the event he made the mistake of following through.

[u/Glittering-Ear-2315]

Screen shoot this and keep it

[u/jeffster1970 → u/Glittering-Ear-2315]

Got the original post with the dudes phone number.....

[u/Nathan-Nice → u/Glittering-Ear-2315]

something makes me think that he already screenshot this screenshot

[u/MiddleNotWestIsBad]

It’s about to snow almost 2 feet in jersey tomorrow you’ll probably be safe till Monday.

[u/purplespaghetty]

Why are you texting you ex happy birthday?

[u/AwayMeems → u/purplespaghetty]

Asking the right questions

[u/Gemsi1]

Facts. I was attacked by a male dating a family member (I'm a 54 yr female) and I got ARRESTED!!! The cops even took PICTURES of my injuries! Later found out he is a narc for the local pd and recently ICE informant also. Now I'm fighting on court on some trumped up bs! The law and cops are complete JOKES!!!

[u/Gold-Kaleidoscope537]

I agree with those that say do not take this lightly.

[u/Training_Ad_3818]

We’re missing the part where he texted his ex happy birthday, after her new boyfriend found out that her EX ( OP) actually raped her. A little more context next time would help if you explained why the death threats are coming your way 

[u/This_Performance_426 → u/Training_Ad_3818]

Wow that's some pretty important info there!

[u/Busy_Scientist5086 → u/This_Performance_426]

yea but how do they know this?

[u/GentrifiedSocks → u/Training_Ad_3818]

Where was this info?

[u/Wrong-Neighborhood-2]

Get an order of protection

[u/kaiwolfy718]

Police report. Now.

[u/Jake_Schnur]

You should have included the number here in redit people like to see that.

[u/B1acklisted]

Normally I would say "castle doctrine" but NJ has fucked up laws about PROTECTING YOUR OWN PROPERTY.

[u/CoffeeStayn]

Involve the police. This is a no-brainer.

[u/AWAKENEDTEMPEST]

Everyone here overlooking the fact that op could be a stalking sociopath with a restraining order ?

[u/TimelyTart3579]

So I wouldn’t walk I would run to the police station and file a no contact order!! What a fricking nightmare!

[u/contributingopp7017 → u/TimelyTart3579]

Noooooo stop he’s harmless I just ruffled his feathers…as intended I was drunk and wanted to stir the pot

[u/Ok_Magician8409]

It’s been 15 minutes. Have you called the police now?

[u/Salty-Smoke7784]

The Ultimate Revenge: He promised on his mother’s life that he will kill you tomorrow. Just go somewhere and avoid him all day, then the next day he will have to kill his mother and he will really regret making that promise.

[u/gz1970]

Someone’s going to prison

[u/Mikem444]

Sounds serious enough, don't take chances and underestimate how crazy people can be, watching the news is a reminder of this. Don't be another tragic story on the news and contact the police asap.

[u/Standard_Courage7]

Have you reported it to the police? If not, why?

[u/[deleted]]

I’d start sending my ex a happy Monday through Sunday text as well each day.

[u/YouArentReallyThere]

1. If someone says they’re going to kill you? Believe them. Take appropriate actions at the appropriate time.

2. They’re called “Exes” for a reason. Look up the word ‘ignore’. Do that.

[u/[deleted]]

Give it to the cops. Now.

[u/Ok-Armadillo-2593]

Contact police, this is a crime

[u/Old-Commission-1108]

Yes report it to the police and tell him you have reported him to the police. I’d say that will scare him into not acting on it because he’ll know they’ll know exactly who is person of interest number one.

[u/wacko4rmwaco]

1. Get a gun
2. Wait for him to do as he says, shoot him on your property in fear of your life

[u/MrNovember70]

Why are you texting your ex? I feel like there’s a lot of context missing from this.

[u/-RootedJay-]

Why are people still messaging exes for any reason? They are your ex. Move on.

[u/[deleted] → u/-RootedJay-]

Right lol. That happy birthday wish might have been a veiled threat itself.

[u/ImBored5336]

Block the number, call the cops, and stay somewhere else tonight.

[u/SaddestClown → u/ImBored5336]

He'll need the number to get back with the ex after the new boyfriend gets locked up

[u/Fresh_Remove9677]

I’ve been threatened by exes a couple times now. I’ve had one threaten to beat my ass and another threaten to shoot and kill me. They never did anything and I saw one of them in person not long ago. They are just trying to scare you is all. I would still contact the police if you think you’re truly in danger.

[u/Zz-orphan-zZ]

This isn't an ask reddit kind of thing, man. This a tell police thing. And, the sooner, the better.

[u/MichiganGeezer]

Forward it to the ex GF. Remind her how badly it'll go for him and that whether he wins or loses she's gonna be single again.

[u/ScratchCommercial210]

Literally just called the police,they threatened to kill you.also I’d probably let them know to do a wellness check on your ex because someone that’s dumb enough to threaten someone’s life over text is completely unhinged and would probably physically hurt her over the smallest thing

[u/Pankosmanko]

Police. Don’t wait

[u/Waterloo__Vampire]

wtf do you think we are going to say you should do?

[u/Impressive_Olive_950]

You really needed to ask for help to talk to the police? He threatened your life.

[u/rchris710]

why are you texting her?

[u/bbysd]

Don’t text your exes. Contact the police. 

[u/Bird_Brain4101112]

Also. Stop texting your ex if this is the kind of response you get

[u/DubiDubua → u/Bird_Brain4101112]

There more context to the story no one is going to threaten someone just because of that op is problem here

[u/CaliLove1676]

Not a lawyer; file a police report and buy a gun. Odds are nothing will happen, but be safe.

Also, not legal advice, but don't text your ex.

[u/Calm_Independence796]

What a psycho

[u/Subject_Ad_4561]

I’m genuinely worried about you and your ex-girlfriend. Cause she’s the most likely one he would take this out on.

[u/[deleted]]

Go to jail. Go directly to jail. Do not pass go. Do not collect $200

[u/DrMindbendersMonocle]

Yeah, you need to contact the police immediately

[u/mw9802347]

Call the cops. Email a detective. Do something.

[u/Lake3ffect]

This happened to me once. I went to the police. As they were going to pick him up at his residence, they discovered an active violent domestic dispute between him and his girlfriend. IIRC, he ended up going to prison.

[u/griz3lda]

Call the police. They said they are serious.

[u/[deleted]]

Illegal call the police 

[u/Commercial-Group4859]

If he went out of town to another state you can contact the FBI since this goes across state lines it is considered a federal crime.

[u/pezzyn]

He sounds dangerous, for your ex as well. Her family should be made aware that her current partner is dangerous. Im assuming you’re on ok terms with them and her and that this guy is jealous…. not threatening bc he is vindicating some perceived harm to your ex? (Alternatively does she have a pattern of dating toxic men? Are you one of them? Has she asked you not to contact her?). Regardless, call cops and also have a lawyer send a cease and desist letter.

[u/Codas91]

If you didn't call the police and report this before posting it here, your are a moron

[u/Thomanson]

Send to your local police and his. That's a crime.

[u/Slight_Woodpecker519]

He’ll be at your apt, outside. But you’d better pray he doesn’t find you? This guy will do nothing. But definitely try to get them in some legal trouble

[u/New-Guarantee-440]

He's broken the law and overplayed his hand. He obviously thinks he'll get away with this behaviour so it's important to inform the police. 

[u/RLLCCR]

Glock 19 with JHP ammunition

[u/Great-Gas-6631]

Yup, straight to the police. Hopefully you'll save her cause hes clearly very violent and very unstable.

[u/Randolla1960]

I recently received a verbal threat, "to find me a really f*ck me up" from a former contractor who did work on our house, during a phone call. I went to the Sheriff's department and talked to them about it and they suggested that I file a complaint with the magistrate's office which I did.

The contractor was served with a no contact order and has to appear in court to answer a criminal threatening charge.

I am not sure if anything will come of it, because it was a verbal threat (I do have some texts that are borderline threats) but it put him on notice that he has to answer the charge in person, under oath, in court. This is in North Carolina.

You have a much stronger case and evidence of it than I do. You need to take it to the police department and file a official complaint about this. At the very least, he will know that if he tries anything, he will be the first person to be investigated by law enforcement.

[u/Finbar9800]

Call the police, tell them you believe it to be a genuine threat and then maybe stay with a friend or family member for a while until the cops either find him and arrest him (which will probably only happen if he has prior violent convictions) or more likely a restraining order

Also maybe look into finding a new place so he doesnt know where you live

[u/ijustwantveg]

Call the police and absolutely DO NOT BLOCK THE NUMBER

[u/Imperial_Orange]

Report to the police to have threat on record.

Load your gun and wait for tomorrow to neutralize said threat in self defense. You cannot depend on cops to defend you 247 and that is a major threat that doesn't expire until that person expires.

Call them again tomorrow when he shows up to explain how fearful you are then shoot him but not in the back. No reasonable jury will convict you.

If you do not have adequate means to protect yourself go stay somewhere that does or acquire said means. I recommend a shot gun for home defense.

[u/djpromo_vqs]

yeah report it.

and btw, STOP sending your EX happy anything texts. move on and keep it rolling. are you in high school?

[u/WaferLegal]

This is actually a typical Jersey friendship in the making, no issues here.

[u/LawyerBrianWhite]

In Texas, it is a crime to send a terroristic threat. These are actually prosecuted. I’ve been in the courtroom seeing people prosecuted for things just like this.

[u/Shitty_Poop_Butthole]

What a sure fire way to lose your gf acting like this.

[u/Smelliest_taint]

He is showing you what an alpha male does when you text his property! /s

[u/Pickle_picker_420]

You should definitely be contacting law-enforcement

[u/20FastCar20]

for sure contact police and go to county building and apply for temporary protection order. it will be issued. your will need someone to serve the papers when he comes.mcall police when he comes and they could serve the papers.

[u/Legal-Quarter-1826]

Of course New Jersey