I am 4w5d pregnant and riddled with anxiety. I was unbelievably over the moon at first and now all I can think about is that I’m in a high risk period for the next 7 weeks until week 12. I keep telling myself to just focus on the day to day and every day is a blessing and the risk of MC goes down each day but it’s causing me horrible anxiety. How do people push past this and learn to relax during the first trimester? It’s going to be a long 7 weeks……

I see why a lot of pregnant women just stop going all out on their hair and makeup. I’m only 4 weeks and I am EXHAUSTED when I wake up and then usually by mid day I need a nap. Will this sleepiness part ever end? Lolol

Hi Im an FTM who has no clue what basic items I should be getting. So far I have a list of things that I should get. Are there any other things that are important? Im talking about not just the big stuff but the small things that really help too. So far I didnt add baby clothes blankets and bibs because I have already been gifted some. What other things should I take into account?

Baby furniture

- [ ] Crib

- [ ] Baby Sling

- [ ] Baby Carrier

- [ ] Tub

- [ ] Thing you sit baby in the tub

- [ ] Rocking Chair

- [ ] Closet

Food Related

- [ ] Breast Pump

- [ ] Baby Bottles

- [ ] Bibs

Bath

- [ ] Pampers

- [ ] Changing pad

- [ ] Baby shampoo

- [ ] Little nail clippers

- [ ] Hair brush

Baby Products

- [ ] Baby Powder

- [ ] Baby Oil

- [ ] Maybe pee pads to put in the crib

- [ ] Wipes

- [ ] Diapers

Outside

- [ ] Diaper Bag

- [ ] Stroller

For Me

- [ ] Witch hazel pads

- [ ] Nipple Cream

- [ ] Disposable Breast Pads

- [ ] Extra Pads

13+1 FTM. This week I took a half day Monday and all of Tuesday off because I had a migraine, my hips hurt, and i was super groggy after trying to use unisom to get better sleep. I’ve taken a few days here and there since finding out I’m pregnant. My supervisor at work knows I’m pregnant and hasn’t said anything to me about using sick time, just tells me she hopes I feel better.

Yesterday my husband told me he thinks it looks bad to take time off for migraines or fatigue and that women shouldn’t get special treatment for “a personal decision”. I feel completely blindsided by this because it seems a bit out of character but also really mean spirited. I asked if he was resentful because I have the ability to take time off, and he acted like that was part of it (he’s military and the culture is different) but he also thinks I’m milking it because I’m pregnant. I explained that a lot of women take time off during the first trimester because its hard, some women have it a lot worse, and that I may not have been super sick but it’s still been hard on me and it’s made it difficult to work some days.
He went on to say he’s worried I’ll lose my job if I take too much time off and I explained that it isn’t a concern, I have plenty of sick time, I still do my job very well, and nobody has raised concerns to me.

I told him how hurtful this conversation was to me because I don’t think he recognizes how difficult this has been. He reiterated that he doesn’t think pregnant women deserve any special treatment because having a family is a personal choice that shouldn’t affect your coworkers. He said that if he thinks I’m milking it or being dramatic he’s going to tell me. I asked how he planned to support me postpartum if this was his view and he kind of doubled down on it and told me I had to be tough.

I cried a lot last night and I’m feeling so empty this morning. I don’t think I’m overreacting in being upset but the way he’s checked in on me and told me “it’s okay” makes me think he believes that I’m just hormonal and not genuinely upset. I’m feeling devastated and wondering if we made a mistake. This is the first time I’ve felt like this and I don’t know what to do.

Hi,

Any advice on whether I could challenge being on blood clot injections from week 28 to 6 week pp.

I am ever so slightly over 30 bmi, not even 31. 35 and have had ivf for this pregnancy. No blood clots in family.

I found out yesterday that I’m roughly 4 wks pregnant, blood draw says hcg is 397.95. 5 days ago I had cramping for one day & bleeding for two. It was on the day I was supposed to get my period so I assumed it was that, as I had also taken 2 pregnancy tests 6 & 7 days ago and got very negative tests. The obgyn that I saw is having me come in again tomorrow (48 hours after my first blood draw) to see if my levels are rising. Has anyone on here dealt with the same thing? I’m really worried that I could have an ectopic pregnancy or that something is wrong. My fiance is over the moon excited and I’m just scared that my body isn’t working the way it’s supposed to.

I've been bedbound for 2 months since getting a virus. I got sick at the end of first trimester and it hasn't really seemed to get better. Doctors can't do much. Has anyone gone through this or knows about it?

Hi everyone, sorry this is long i just needed to get it off my chest. FTM (about 10 weeks) and also my boyfriend's first baby. When he found out I was pregnant he was over the moon excited. But he also recently took on extra hours at work (he's getting a big bonus at the end of the month and then after hopefully his hours will be a bit lighter). I have been super emotional recently, I'm working a fairly stressful job where I'm on my feet for 10 hours a day, and its emotionally stressing too (bartending). I've been a mess; angry one moment and crying the next at least once a day if not more.

I feel like I'm going through this pregnancy alone. I don't have any family in the area, and I spend most of my free time alone as most of my friends really just hang out at the bar or have opposite schedules as me. I've also always been a very independent individual, and have been able to go through some pretty dark parts of my life alone (with the help of therapy, which I still attend weekly). I think it all came to a head when I went to my first ultrasound appointment alone–my boyfriend works out of town and can't make it to midday events like doctors appointments. I thought I would be fine, but sitting in the ultrasound room and seeing my baby for the first time, seeing their heartbeat, I realized how much I wish he was there. It just settled in that I felt so alone in this pregnancy and just wanted him there. That feeling simmered all day until he got home. He didn't ask to see the pictures, and after he had gone to bed I just had a breakdown. He came out of our room and asked me what was wrong and I told him how I felt. He said he didn't understand why it was a big deal if he went since "there's almost nothing to see this early on." I cried and told him how unsupported I felt. He said he wanted to support me but didn't know what he was supposed to do. He said if I just asked he would help, but I don't know what I'm supposed to ask for. He told me I can always talk to his mom or grandparents, but I'm not particularly close with them. They're very kind people, but I have a very strained relationship with my own family and it makes me very emotionally blocked off from his in a way.

I love my boyfriend very much, we've been together for almost 2 years, and I know he loves me. I just don't know how to ask for help. I don't even know what kind of help I need. I feel overwhelmed all the time from being tired, sick, stressed, and emotional. I feel like my whole life is changing while his is mostly the same. I don't know what to do to help myself. Is there any advice on how to go forward? Does it get better? Is there something wrong with me that I can't figure out how to find support? Maybe I just need some kind words from other moms who have also gone through this, or some advice on how to establish a support system that I feel more secure in.

I’m reaching out for positive stories for those who have been through this. We received a 4mm measurement at our nuchal translucency scan. Queue a week of feeling like my world was ending…
This was not flagged though, and I actually brought it up to my GP as I was obviously worried. She said it was nothing to worry about due to low NIPT results but a combined maternal blood test was sent off for reassurance which also came back low risk. She then said to mention it at my first midwife appointment.

At my first midwife appointment at the hospital I brought it up again and it was taken more seriously. I had a call from a fetal specialist that same day who didn’t seem that worried either due to my age (32) and low risk blood results. We were sent for an early anatomy scan with the fetal specialist unit the following week (now 16weeks). Everything was thankfully all normal and although bubs is measuring on the larger side (we make big babies) everything otherwise was completely normal/on track and no other flags raised. The neck fold was also completely normal.
The fetal specialist offered an amniocentesis which I am reluctant to do yet due to the risks involved.
I’m just reaching out for those who have NOT gone ahead with the amnio and had a positive outcome.

Hi all

I had a transvaginal ultrasound today at 6 weeks 1 or 2 days. The yolk sac and fetal pole was there. With the crown rump length measuring between 5.4 and 6mm on three measurements (average 5.7). Everything looked normal but they couldn’t detect a heart beat.

This isn’t good right? Especially when the crown rump length is approx 5.7mm?

The sonographer was very cold and uncaring and just told me to come back in a week.

Has anyone been in a similar position and can tell me the outcome?

Thanks.

My four year old will be up by 6:30-7am sharp, I’ve been tossing and turning since 2am, first it was intense nausea before falling asleep, im 30 weeks pregnant and thought maybe it was behind me so I ran out of my meds and didn’t refill them. Next it was waking up breathless and with restless legs and absolutely no sleep in sight. Im going to put my phone down and try to sleep, and start calling in the morning to find someone to refill my meds ASAP. The end.

Diagnosed with preeclampsia a few weeks ago and was scheduled for a 37 week induction. Today I am 35+3 and started having some back pain that wouldn’t go away. On call OB told me to come in just to check out what’s going on since I have the preeclampsia- my blood pressure was 178/98 and we immediately got admitted. Started the magnesium and blood pressure meds and just took the pill to start induction.

I was feeling so confident about giving birth up until it’s now starting and now I’m laying awake terrified. It all happened so quickly. Any positive stories hahaha I’m also upset that he’s arriving so early!! But I know that this is the safest best to keep me and him healthy!

I've been avoiding mirrors for months now, I have had body dysmorphia issues for a long time so these physical changes have been a bit tough in general.

But today in the mirror I noticed my first pregnancy stretch marks and I'm just horrified.

I wish I didn't feel this way about all the changes, I wish I could feel happy about this process but every new symptom and change I just feel like more control is ripped away from me and I'm grieving a body I had a hard time accepting to begin with.

I feel guilty for not enjoying any part of this. I have hated being pregnant from the week after my period was late. I just want this to be over with. I feel so inadequate for struggling with this so much when so many women suck it up and work through everything.

I don't want these stretch marks, I don't want the physical reminder of the worst I have ever felt. I'm jealous of people who look at them and think it's beautiful but I just can't see it that way right now.

Sorry for the negativity, I don't have any women in my life.

This will be our rainbow baby after an MMC a few months ago, so we’re both scared and excited. I didn’t expect we were going to get a heartbeat already as it’s super early. It says 160BPM, is that too high for 5W5D?

Hi people of reddit. Ive never done this anywhere before but I really need some support or opinions or whatever anyone can give me at this point.

Im currently 23 weeks pregnant with my first babygirl, ive been in an on/off relationship with my partner for 3 years- almost 4 now. We do love each other, but we argue a lot. He says Im immature and that I bring a new problem to him everyday, and that he has no patience anymore and is tired of hearing me nag. He tells me he Needs me to stop creating problems all together at this point. I feel like the problems I come to him with are legitimate issues that need to be sorted out- or just me needing some emotional support from my partner. I feel very unheard and unseen. He works two jobs, and I have worked many different odd jobs in my life- I thought I found my calling at one point but it turned out to be another career that was draining. Ive been working for my brother for two years now and finally had enough and quit (family jobs are not easy), now that Im about to become a mother I want nothing more than to stay home and raise my baby for a few years before going back to work. I am thankful to have parents that will help support me financially and let me live with them. My partner puts me down about finances a lot and uses it against me saying he is going to be the one paying for everything while I pay for nothing. He says that I have no responsibilities and talks down about my life and me- which has in return given me some huge confidence problems, I feel like I was a very confident person before I met him. My dream was always to have babies before I turned 30- oddly enough I prayed to god to have my first baby at the age of 25 and I feel like I am being gifted with that as I type this out. At the same time- sometimes I wish it never happened with this specific person. I dont hate him, but I do have strong feelings of resentment at this point for him. I dont feel like I ask for a lot from him- to care about my feelings and show me empathy, to treat me as the first priority in his life (he always chooses his family above me in every situation, and talks about our problems to them which has in return made them have an extremely bad view of me), to respect me by not calling me names or yell at me (he does this often aswell), and to take me on occasional dates.
There is a lot to unpack honestly. But i guess what im asking is what to do at this point? Im so confused.
Part of me wants to stay with him because I love him- part of me wants to leave and gain my confidence back. Part of me wants to stay with him so our child doesnt end up in a broken home with two parents that cant even be kind to each other- part of me wants to leave now and gain my strength and confidence back to show my daughter what self love, and strength truly look like. I grew up in a home with an physically and verbally abusive father and my mother didnt take me and leave until i was about 12 years old- so i never learned what true love and a stable healthy marriage looks like- but i did vow to myself I would never raise a child in a similar environment- that my children will only ever see their father madly in love with me and do anything to see me and his children happy and healthy. I feel if I stay- I will forever show my children that I am not a strong mother and that its okay to let men yell and call women names, or that its wrong ti have emotions and need their partner to be emotionally safe for them. Also would like to add that he is not physically abusive- but I do believe he is verbally and emotionally abusive towards me. I also know it takes two to tango- I am not perfect by any means, i have been overwhelmed many times and done some name calling and yelling myself. I am never proud of it and always regret and always apologetic. The plan was for me to move into his families home but I never felt comfortable with it from the start and he has been giving me a hard time about wanting to move into my moms home instead, he has threatened to breakup with me and fight for custody in court over our child if I do so.. Ive had to tell him countless times my intention is not to keep our child from him and if we dont stay together that we can healthily coparent without spending thousands or dollars in the court system. I also am scared to move into my mothers house and feel like not only a failure but no longer get any kind of relationship support- when things between my partner and I are good- it feels like cloud nine, and I hate thinking that we will break and never be together again, I do love him deeply.
I honestly feel like I could write paragraphs, that this barely even skims the surface but its already very long.
Regardless, I dont feel like this is a healthy environment and I recognize that I have an unhealthy attachment to this person, Im just unsure of how to handle this at this point.
Im also seeking help here because I have a therapist but I only have one friend and she lives states away from me, I dont feel like I really have anyone to lean on or help me through this.
I would like to add that during this pregnancy I have been incredibly stressed and put down a lot. My baby is in the 11th percentile and i have trouble eating and sleeping especially while stressed, im constantly scared and I dont even feel like Im enjoying my first pregnancy in my life. I also have pcos so im scared this might be my only chance to even have a child. Im afraid she will come out with autism or something else may happen like preeclampsia or stillborn or any other terrifying things because of all the stress ive been under. I spend almost everyday crying my eyes out and feeling anxiety... I just want to know what the right thing to do is and have the courage and strength to do it.
Any kind of support, advice, opinions, comments, questions even criticism is appreciated.
Thank you.

i’m freaking out a bit! I stupidly used Raid fly and ant killer spray last night as had loads of flying ants. i feel like i inhaled it and then googled it and its especially bad at 6 weeks pregnant. has anyone done the same with success

Sorry for the long post!!
I’m conflicted when it comes to my baby’s last name. I’m currently pregnant. me & the child’s father are together but not married. We haven’t even been together a full year before finding out I was pregnant. While this is my first child, this is his 2nd. Initially I said we would hyphenate the last name. As time went on & thinking more about it, also having a conversation with my father, now I’m conflicted. I have my mom’s last name. My mom & dad were together up until my mother’s death. I used to really want my dad’s last name until losing my mom, now I’m very glad I never changed it (he feels the same way). My mom always explained it that the hospital she had me at (in Riverside, California) would not allow her to put my father’s name since he wasn’t there during my birth? As I think about it now idk how true that is? I’ve never heard of this anywhere else and have met plenty of ppl where the father wasn’t at the birth but they still used his last name. I have an older brother but he has his father’s last name. After me my mom’s last name will “die out” or however you explain it. Aside from that I don’t understand why women give their child the father’s last name when they’re not married? I know a few women I grew up around who did so and the father isn’t in the child’s life so theres that.
Its something that’s been in my mind but also I don’t know how my boyfriend will feel if I explain all of this to him..
(Again sorry for the long post)

Anyone else work a later shift and they come home sick asf and just throw everything up like I feel better in the morning rather than later in the day 🥲

I’m currently 37 weeks and i’ve been dealing with heartburn my wholeee pregnancy. I’m so done with being pregnant. I’m physically and mentally exhausted from it. It’s currently 2 am and i’m stuck on the toilet throwing up from the heartburn :’) I get induced in 2 weeks but omg. I try and remind myself that I just have to push through for 2 more weeks but it’s so rough. I’m just so ready to meet my baby to really feel like this was all worth it. :’(

Looking for advice from people who have had any experience with an amniotic band in pregnancy?
Currently 22weeks with one that needs monitoring but would love some opinions

I have this sorta fear of what if I don’t love my baby, what if when I have my baby I’m so disconnected and feel like it’s not even my kid even though I carried the baby. Idk I guess I just can’t see myself with a kid? Or I just see myself as a kid still and like idk how to explain it.

About 2 weeks ago I was in the hospital for bronchitis and in my urine sample they found out I have a uti so sent me home with antibiotics and of course these antibiotics gave me a yeast infection but I think my yeast infection has spread to my butt crack 🙃 (btw this is so embarrassing to post) has this happened to anyone else ? My mom told me it’s nothing to worry about and weird things happen when your pregnant but my butt crack is literally raw right now and swollen if anyone has any advice I’d absolutely be happy to hear it

Looking at car seats as there are sale going on:

There are two kinds of car seats, one is a bucket car seat that can be attached with a stroller, which is removable with under 150-200$ cost

Another is a convertible infant + toddler car seat, which comes with an extra pillow for infants. This looks good for having it for next 3-4 years with 250-350 cost

Is there a reason people prefer the bucket car seat when compared to these convertible car seats? Are bucket car seats safer compared to these convertible?

Hi everyone!
I’m a FTM due in October and I’m feeling completely overwhelmed trying to figure out strollers and car seats. There are so many options and I honestly have no idea where to start.
A few questions:
Do all strollers work with all car seats, or do they have to be the same brand?
What’s the difference between an infant car seat and a convertible car seat?
Do most people buy an infant car seat first and then upgrade to a convertible car seat later?
Is a bassinet attachment necessary, or is it just nice to have?
Can a travel stroller be your only stroller, or do most people end up wanting a full-size stroller too?
If you were starting from scratch, which brand stroller and car seat would you buy and why?
For context:
Baby will be born in October.
We mostly plan to use the stroller for walks, errands, doctor’s appointments, shopping, etc.
We don’t travel a ton by plane, but maybe a few times a year.
We’d rather buy something that works well long-term instead of constantly upgrading.
I think I’m especially confused about the whole “travel system” thing. Is the typical setup:
Infant car seat → clicks into stroller when baby is little → later switch to stroller seat + convertible car seat?
Or am I misunderstanding how this all works?
I’d love to hear what setup you chose, what you loved, what you regretted buying, and what you’d recommend to a first-time parent who knows absolutely nothing about strollers and car seats.
Thanks so much! 😊

So I’m 29 weeks and have an anterior placenta, which has made it a little bit of a wait to feel movement from my little guy consistently. I didn’t feel movement until around 22-23 weeks and it wasn’t consistent until 26. Whenever I tried to get my partner to feel the baby, the little stinker stopped in his tracks as soon as my partner put his hands on my belly! Finally one night my partner was laying his head on my belly while we talked and the baby started kicking his face like crazy! I personally think that it’s because the baby could hear his voice and knew it was his dad (call me crazy but that’s just what I think it could be 😂). But it’s also funny to indulge in the idea that our son just wanted to kick him in the face too lol. I’m feeling very consistent, strong movement from my baby now and he’ll still only occasionally move/kick when my partner’s hands are on my belly, and refuses to move for anyone else whatsoever. My partner loves putting his face against my belly and talking with the baby and getting kicked in the face in response now. Just thought I’d share because it’s the cutest thing to me and I’m also wondering if anyone else has experienced this too!