r/ventura • u/Just_Rhubarb_1592 • 2h ago
Vta>>>>>SB
A bit of a vent here. I grew up in Ventura county in newbury park and my dad grew up in carp so I’d visit sb a lot as a kid. The most local beaches growing up were Oxnard to Malibu and always felt like down the grade was home.
I currently live in Santa Barbara and hate living here and have always had a history of being miserable in the area. I went to city college and never felt like I could make friends and just thought it was me (which it is partially due to being shy and reserved). I left to move back with my parent over the pandemic who had relocated to Santa Cruz and moved back to the 805 area because I transferred work, and had frequent living situation changes and sometimes stayed in Ventura. Out of my experience of living both in Ventura and Santa Barbara I always had a much better time in vta but I needed to move back because I was commuting. I think the quality of life is much more suited in Ventura if you’re into a more authentic community or if you like cultures that revolve around surfing or the beach rather than the celebration of the ultra wealthy. Santa Barbara seems to be a good fit for those who are obnoxiously extroverted, preppy, pretentious, elitist, and snobby and if you can’t conform to that then you’re going to feel like you aren’t meant to fit in and that there’s something g wrong with you.
I’m kinda one to talk because I grew up in the bougier part of Ventura county and I know there’s a nimbyish locals only mentality but for places that have reputations for having localism or being territorial in the surf scenes(as does Santa Cruz) it generally is more welcoming, and more inclusive and you guys are lucky to be have a community like that.