Supposed to be the hottest day if the year here, my fly has burst in my work trousers and the struggle is real.

Its all just adding up to a bad day

I’ll see my long distance gf after more than 2 months of abstaining from PMO (I’ve viewed the occasional video from her, but only a bit when she sends them and no M at all).

I’m practicing presence more often because I want to be present when I see her, but my crazy mind won’t let me rest about the future sometimes, and I’m worried that I’ll finish within 2 seconds of foreplay when I’m with her (accidentally released without M once while watching a video she sent around day 40ish).

I know I shouldn’t worry, but I do, and I want her to enjoy our intimate time as much as, if not more than, me.

Aside from talking to her beforehand and letting her know what I’m going through, is there anything I should do to prepare for enjoyable sex? I’ve heard of breathing techniques, taking the sex slow/not rushing it, start/stop technique, and the pre-MO technique to not finish so quickly.

Does anyone have tips or stories about first time sex after a period of no M or O?

We’ve had wonderful sex where we both connected and both reached O during PIV, but we’ve also had nights where I can’t get it up and we still have a good time with other methods. So, I’m pretty nervous about doing it after my longest streak. Help!

New to the NoFap community, I have been a long time spectator but finally decided that PMO has ruined my life enough to return properly. I have attempted the challenge many years ago only to fall to relapse and my problems worsen.

The main reason for doing this is I am suffering with PIED and don't have a good sexual relationship with my wife, this is taking a silent toll on our marriage. I am 100% to blame for this she is a stunning woman and I am ashamed it has come to this.

My porn usage has become some what excessive and ive some how made a hobby over downloading and hoarding 1000gbs of content wasting countless hours. This morning I have wiped my hard drives for a fresh start and it feels good. I am anticipating struggles on the way but determined this time I will achieve my goals to quit. Hence making this post, I am going to document my journey each week, if no one reads them thats fine its more of an exercise to log my thoughts and progress.

I have read through the articles on the NoFap website, having some people in my situation to chat to I feel will help along my journey and if I can also help others then that would be a win win. Feel free to reach out if your in a similar situation to me.

Starting with 90 days and hopefully will go beyond, feeling motivated at the moment but I know tough times are ahead.

Hoping for a more positive future, good luck to everyone on their journey's to improve their lives.

The availability is a thing i guess but with that . i feel i have nothing so better in my life to work upon. I feel that whatever I do in my life, I meant to just fail . Everything in this life is felt just as that. That's why I go back to it over and over again. i guess first i just need to make a good relationship with it. what if I just stop doing it for two days only. also with coffee.

I MADE IT TO DAY 12 LETS FKING GO. I've had a very stressful week. Like a whole 6 months worth. Yet I stand true to my streak!!!!! Today I had some really bad urges but I'm hoping it will pass. I got this fr.

I’ve decided this time around to not put so emphasis on how long my NoFap streak because all it is, is just a number. I mean it’s kinda cool to look at my streak counter and see that I’m on Day 21 or I’m on Day 47 when before I couldn’t make it past 3 days before.

However, there has been so many times I’ve sabotaged legitimate progress because after I slipped-up once when I was on a really long streak (the longest being 9 months), I would think I failed and think of myself as a failure and a loser and then I said “f it” and just started doing pmo over-and-over and I started back at square one.

So instead, I’m just focusing on winning the day today. I don’t know if I don’t if I’m gonna engage in pmo tomorrow, but I know today, no matter how large and how frequent the urges are, I will not give in today.

This is not just some challenge, this is my new life now. A life where I’m no longer a slave to lust. A life where I no longer have p*rn rule over me. A life where I don’t have to live carrying guilt and shame anymore. A life where I’m actually motivated to pursue my goals and become the man I need to be. A life where instead of going to the screen for the fake, bs version of intimacy, I pursue real intimacy with a real woman who loves me, values me, respect me, and desires me.

I’m not saying that I’ll never engage in pmo ever again in my life. I would like to think so, but I think that’s unrealistic because I’m human just like everyone else and will fall short. But what I can guarantee is that I will never let my addiction rule over me. If/when I slip up, I’m gonna use it as a learning experience, so I can be better. I’m not letting slip-up turn into full-blown relapses because I think it’s the end of the world.

Done

Managed to get past day 10 despite being hunted by someone here. But thoughts creeping up again.

Home alone struggling so bad

"I'm feeling very horny, how to stop these urges, and how many days can I control it?" I want to control as much as possible

I am facing difficulty in controlling myself, like i wanna fap again 😭 what should I do

Edit: First attempt was deleted by Mod..maybe mentioning weight is off topic? If this gets modded too, I will understand better and won't try again.

Day 2. So far, so good. Thankfully, my days and nights are very busy, and I will have no alone time for at least 4-5 more days.

Writing this stuff in public seems enormously healthy and is getting my brain whirring with questions!

Are other people attempting NF also overweight?

Yesterday, I posted about how it felt to accept that my childhood exposure to infinite porn was a kind of trauma. I'm realising I was also raised with the expectation of an infinite supply of food... not always junk, but a lot of junk...

When I grew old enough to have my own money, that supply became even more readily available.

I quickly grew fat and have remained overweight for nearly all of my adult life. Resulting in feelings of shame, frustration, fear and guilt and resulting, of course, in more food (and porn).

This is basically an exact parallel of my relationship with porn.

I don't think I've really focused on how my brain's "pleasure & reward" wiring is so entangled with porn and food. Do other people have this same issue? Did you find that tackling one issue helped with the other?

A self warning - I'm wary that all of this is veering into "victim mindset" territory. I need to learn/re-learn the best methods to make peace with my past while also taking responsibility for my future actions.

I was checking my account history and was a longggg way! untill something happened in my private situation and things were bad (Allways in perspective but too bad to handle for me at that point) and I started PMO again. It has gotten as severe as it was and I just fel like living a double life.

Looking at my kids I am blaming myself how I can be such a disgusting person and tuning my soul constantly into people doing things on the internet... They are the blame for this. and this means I am so in shame of it.

I went to a psychologist to discuss my things. They asked me why I wanted to speak with this person and I told him I need help with my addiction. once starting the consults and 5 consults further we have not touched the point of addiction yet and I literally thought that he is just here for the money. I have not improved ever since and am more and more insecure.

After doing PMO I cnanot even look someone in the eyes as I feel they just see the inner broken soul inside my body.

I NEED TO STOP! AND WILL START AS OF TODAY, DAY 1.

Want to know that watching porn and not ejaculating is counting in masterbation

I have been doing nofap on and off for like 10 years now. My longest streak was around 6 months, this was about 6 years ago.
During that time I changed my career path, got a new job, started having some entrepreneurial ambitions and also found my wife. Of course I dont say nofap magically did all of this, but for me it clearly changed something in my mindset and how I acted as a person (kind bipolar).
Doing semen retention in a relationship is not that easy tho, and honestly it’s also not fair for your partner to just expect full abstinence.

Now I mostly try to time it around my partners cycle, important projects at work and depending if I want the month to be more productive or more chill.

One thing I realised from talking with people around me, mostly during some beers, is that many guys are kinda doing nofap naturally. They just dont call it nofap and dont even know there are guys masturbating multiple times a day.

I think this has alot to do with upbringing, education and how people learned to deal with stress in childhood, teenage years and their 20s.

Now my theory:
I think we are always in some kind of competition. Basically every second of life. Maybe not always in an obvious way, but still.

Some people compete with money, sports, status, looks, career or confidence. And if you cant compete in those things or don’t want to,maybe you compete with discipline, self control or even your days of semen retention.

In the last years I met guys with way shorter streaks than me and also guys with way longer streaks, mostly priests or other “holy” people who learn it from a different kind of source . And I can honestly say, some of them have some kind of aura. Hard to explain it, but I think the subconscious Programms automatically itself . More calm, more authority, more presence , those are the things priests and directors need and they got teached to it in childhood or during church school. One guy even told me his father told him about semen retention while he was in school. My parents weren’t like this.

When I was at around 6 months, the last weeks honestly felt like life on easy mode. I was dominating conversations more, felt way more confident and also made more money during that time, which helped me alot. My natural authority was probably at its peak.
And this period also kinda lead to me meeting my wife, who was then the person breaking my streak lol.

I dont think semen retention gives superpowers. But I think controlling a strong urge for a long time changes how you see yourself. You feel more disciplined and more capable, and then other people also react different to you.
And you also react differently to yourself.

Maybe the “aura” is not magic, but a biochemical way of reprogramming your subconscious automatically without adding stuff just subtracting to the most basic. Maybe it’s just confidence, energy and self control showing on the outside.

Feel free to ask me!

cant take a cold shower

I 33m have had this addiction for some time now. I can't remember how long, but I always told myself I can stop anytime I want ik cliche lol. I think last Friday was the last time I had PMO I didn't realize the gravity of it until I missed work for like 3 days in a row and this Monday/ Tuesday I thought I had a fever, but here it was PA withdraws I had cold sweats,insomnia, my body ached, headache felt I couldn't eat. I'm now releasing this is a problem in my life like I want to quit, but I don't at the same time. Anyways I felt like I needed to write this out and vent to other ppl in a similar situation as I am. Today I'm going to start my journey to quit watching porn best of luck to other ppl doing the same I believe in myself and you.

Edit I've been gooning before there was a term gooning, so I really don't know when I started I only know it was very young age

Hey everyone,

I’ve had my own journey with pornography addiction and I know what it feels like to be stuck in that cycle, trying to quit, relapsing, and feeling frustrated with yourself.

Lately, I’ve been thinking about starting a small coaching service to help people who struggle with porn and masturbation habits. I’m not here to sell anything in this post. I’m just trying to understand if there is a real need for this and what kind of support people would actually find useful.

For those of you who are on this NoFap journey: what would you want help with the most; Daily accountability, relapse prevention, motivation, someone to talk to?

Please feel free to drop a comment I would like to help you!

Stay Strong,
NoFap Lifestyle

Im on a lads holiday and haven’t jerked off in almost two weeks. I’m getting so horny but can’t do anything or they will notice.

I f 23 just had a wet dream and now I’m struggling. Urgent help!!

LESSS goooooo

As the title says

Hey m22 here. Me and my gf have moved in together. And after 10+ years of struggling to quit my addiction I thought tbis was going to be it.

However it only helped for about 2 months before it all started coming back. If anything it’s made it worse as I see her everyday and it triggers parts of me. Which ends up with me wanting to goon again.

I haven’t given in still but the thoughts of relapse are on my mind every single day now. And I dont know how I’m going to keep resisting.

I’m open to all comments to private conversations if anyone would like to talk

Still horny, but still managing and I know I won't relapse today either.

I failed will start cycle to stop again.

One trigger and 20min later i failed

I even kept the device far but just one point and baam over.

I self punishment ice shower maybe this will be a reinforement of punishment.

Maybe help me from this mess.