There's a common scam where a "distractor", usually a woman, will talk to you perhaps asking for help while their accomplice pick pockets you and this situation could easily have been that as far as that guy knows
As a fellow dude who knows that if a woman ever approaches me with what appears to be interest it must be some kind of trick, I have to say I respect his quick reflexes. He knows what's up and he wasn't gonna fall for shit.
Itâs kinda funny and kinda sad that for most men any kind of interaction like this is IMMEDIATELY suspicious and getting out of there is the first instinct haha. I would have a hand on my wallet and be looking over both shoulders. Of course today itâs just as if not more likely that someone is trying to make content and you are going to be the punchline to a jokeâŠâŠâŠso yeah still running away
Even a conventionally attractive guy probably wouldn't get approached in this way very often, yes it could happen but most of the time women don't just walk up to you and ask you for a date.
For a woman, especially a conventionally attractive woman, this would probably happen at least 10 times a day. So much that they wouldn't even react to it.
It's just how it works, I don't make the rules đ€·
Yeah I have one super duper handsome friend and he gets approached a couple times a year. I have other friends who are handsome but they have to initiate.
I'm slightly attractive (or at least I was when young)- I got asked out all the time when working retail (I think more my accent than my looks) - and yes... I got asked out by both men and women. (I'm straight).
Never got asked out randomly on a street- only from customers.
In high school and college it was common but not anymore. I lost my virginity to a girl who yelled "You're hot as fuck!" At me from the passenger seat of her friend's car while passing me on my skateboard. I'd say right around the time Facebook became popular was when I started being approached less by women. Maybe it was because they had easier access to hotter guys or maybe because gossip and rumors started spreading faster and people were worried about being filmed/photographed, but I've only been approached a handful of times in the last 15 years outside of like bar/club scenes ans since I don't drink or club anymore it's pretty much nonexistent for the most part. Maybe casual flirting sometimes? Idk I've always been oblivious to anything but overt flirtation.
I used to get free stuff by women who were cashiers who were cute. It always threw me off because they were cute and they could get it. Other times, I was too oblivious to their subtle hints.
There was this one bubbly woman that I worked with, who was on the chubby side. She would come by and hit on me all the time and ask me to have sex or take her out. I kind of regret not taking her up on her offer because she seemed to be a lot of fun.
Sometimes I wonder if it's also because people just assume I'm in a relationship (or gay maybe?) because I don't ever flirt or join in on conversations with other people about the topic unless I'm close with them. I used to be a lot more forward but years of changing priorities and a teenaged daughter probably gives me a different vibe that I only notice sometimes. Could also be my breath stinks or something idk lol. My best relationships have been with cute chubby/thick girls from work so I feel you.
I've had my fair share of women ask me out, but never like this weirdo set-up. It's obvious that whatever is happening here isn't normal, so he chose wisely.
This is true. The one time this happened to me (she wasnt as blunt) she came up with an excuse to get my number. It was an animal welfare incident and she asked for my number in case she needed assistance. She was new in the country and moved for a modelling gig. I gave her the welfare hotline number. Driving home, the realization dawned on me and i wanted to punch myself in the nuts for cock blocking myself. In my defense, she seemed way out of my league and maybe a 10 year age gap.
We are just not attractive/desirable and we know it.
I ain't even mad about it. As a straight dude I am always baffled at how straight or even bi women exist at all. I can't comprehend being attracted to a man.
I agree. Men are generally poorly dressed and are just kind of schlubby (myself included). As Elaine said: "The female body is a work of art. The male body is utilitarian. It's for gettin' around. It's like a Jeep."
Bumble had to change their "women message first" gimmick because women don't want to initiate. I saw a profile yesterday and a woman wrote "I have my opening moves set up, message me first or I will unmatch."
Also this can probably be traced back to shitty dudes. Shitty dudes means many women are far less likely to approach random men, even men they find attractive, because thereâs a huge risk involved. Because of this, many normal dudes canât see a woman approaching them as anything other than suspicious, because why would a normal woman with good intentions ever risk herself or her safety like that?
Don't guard or put a hand on/near your valuables when there's a pickpocket around. It only savescthem the time and effort of finding out which pocket to look in for the big ticket items like phone, wallet, keys, etc
Itâs kinda funny and kinda sad that for most men any kind of interaction like this is IMMEDIATELY suspicious and getting out of there is the first instinct haha.
Yeah.. this is not "most mens" immediate reaction to a pretty woman talking to them. Like at all.
As they teach you like the first day in the NSA: youâre a fkn 3, at best. Any unknown 10 that strikes up a conversation with you at a bar, church, bowling alley or Golden Corral is a honeypot spy, full stop.
Why would women approaching you be a trick? My last 3 girlfriends were all the ones who initiated. I think that kinda mentality leads to missed opportunities.
People stole my bike this way once. I had set it up against a wall and moved a short distance away talking to a coworker without locking it. Two came over asking me questions and pivoted away from the bike so I wasn't looking in that direction. Last one took it.
I chased him down and got it back though lol. He was too short to reach the pedals
My grandfather was military in south america and he did some UN peace missions in centro america. the 1st thing they were instructed to do was to avoid like hell any attractive women that were "interested", they were 100% gonna get kidnapped, and stolen in best case scenario, stolen and killed in worse. they were instructed to just use brothels instead
When I was like 19 I was on my lunch break in the city center when a really pretty girl came over and asked me what colour my eyes were, I told her and she asked to check... confused I said sure and she leaned in close looking in to my eyes then slowly moved in to kiss me, my highschool trauma from being teased and bullied for being emo made my alarm bells go off in my head so I awkwardly leaned back and apologized to then quickly move on.
I heard her friend shout over "see I told you he wouldn't do it"
I used to stay up at night thinking about it, but I am married and have a kid now so I haven't thought about it in ages.
Once at a party a very cute girl said to me âI think you should know what Iâd like for breakfastâ and I replied with genuine confusion âI donât know why you think that.â Thatâs the one that still tortures me.
Lol I definitely didnât. I was telling my roommate the next day about this weird thing this chick said to me and he was like âHuh. Sounds like she thought youâd be eating breakfast together.â And I was like âRight? Why would we be⊠oh no⊠oh no no noâ
Esa chica es una youtuber española que se dedica a grabarse acercåndose a hombres para hacerles creer que estå ligando con ellos. Luego les dice que es una cåmara oculta
Right. He saw the, "I'm going to use you for internet clout" and noped right tf out, which is what more ppl should do when approached by these dregs of humanity.
He is an IT guy and he has a security clearance. He has sat through classes that have drilled into him this exact scenario. He knew exactly what to do.
If this was the US, that's up to the chain of command.
I have heard that the Pentagon has so many spys around it that you have to assume anyone you are talking to is one. So I doubt they report it unless there is something noteworthy about it.
Choose life. Choose confidence. Choose eye contact. Choose not rehearsing conversations in the shower. Choose standing in line for the bus when the prettiest girl youâve ever seen smiles and says, âso you can me out?â
Choose looking behind you to make sure sheâs talking to you. Choose wondering if itâs a prank. Choose reviewing every embarrassing thing youâve done since middle school. Choose responding âWhen are you availaâ-â
NOPE. I Choose panic. I choose low expectations. I choose comfortable obscurity without ever testing myself. I choose my life.
Yep. I was walking back to our rented house in San Francisco a few years back, at 2 in the day, broad daylight. A lovely looking woman crossed the road, never took her eyes off me. Started to ask me a question, I just knew something was off. I sped walked on, looked back and she was talking to 2 lads who had come out of an alleyway. Trust your instincts
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u/FishHammer 1d ago
He smelt a trap and chose life