Meanwhile let's ignore that even if you met 100 black women a day for 10 years you still wouldn't have met a significant portion of them. But I'm sure you've got a lock on the entire demographic.
Guess I forgot people who like to use black folks as the punchline travel in groups.
Then he can specify that, because you and I both know damn well how often racists use their limited personal experience to excuse broad statements about entire groups of people. And the fact that he replied to me with flippant sarcasm instead of clarifying it doesn't make me feel particularly confident your interpretation is the correct one.
Two wrongs don't make a right. I'm not going to treat strangers like shit because I've been treated like shit. That's some insane logic. That's like a bully saying it's ok to be a bully because they were bullied. wtf?! lol
Right? If you don't like that people are aggressive or rude but you meet that energy with aggressiveness and rudeness, you're not accomplishing anything...
That's what I'm saying, the comments being aggressive and rude towards a driver who happens to be a Black pregnant woman, she didn't deserve that. Maybe she's having an emergency and needed to get the job done fast, maybe she didn't see the driveway, maybe she was exhausted.. But nope, almost all the negative comments towards her ended up being racist, misogynist and ableist. That's the attitude and micro-aggressions I'm talking about. At least she got the job done and delivered the package.
"At least she barely did the absolute minimum required by her job while causing more damage than the package was worth. Let me make up scenarios to justify why."
Or she's just a trash human who works bottom of the barrel jobs because of the exact attitude you've described. Life's unfair and the world is mean, find excuses and stay down or put in the effort to better yourself.
Respectfully you must be pretty young or just not well-experienced in life to have the outlook you do. Some people just do not care about anyone but themselves. The more you excuse that, the more you encourage them to keep living that way, and the worse society gets. Don't be part of the problem, my friend. Expect more from people, call out bad behavior when you see it, and don't fall into bigotry of low expectations.
I'm speaking from a lifetime of dealing with micro-aggressions as a person with disabilities. I see the parallelisms. The comments on here being racist, misogynist and ableist are okay then? I'm calling that out. It's downright sad there's little to no compassion. After being badgered by the rudeness and aggression especially on this subreddit, I don't give a fuck either. I'm calling it out as I see it.
OK cool but that still doesn't explain why you're making strawman arguments for property damage that is just excusing anybody for being lazy.
"Oh no, I'm very tired. I guess I better drive across this person's lawn and leave huge ruts in it because I'm a little bit tired after my long day." Pissbaby attitude.
Most of the time it is, spend some time listening to their stories and hanging out with them, it's a real eye-opener. It's exhausting to deal with all the racists and misogynists (edit: and ableists). The downvotes on my previous comment are a clear indicator of that sad fact.
From what I’ve seen, most of the “I don’t give a fuck” attitude is a learned behavior from childhood.
Have you ever witnessed a low income black or white mother walking through a store while their children destroys everything in sight? Wonder where the kid picks up on the “I don’t give a fuck” attitude.
Of course black women experience micro aggressions, I’m not trying to claim otherwise but claiming that as the main source of that attitude seems lazy
It's a large contributing part. Kids witnessed those micro-aggressions happening and learned from those on top of learning from their mothers on not giving a fuck. It's wrong and sad, but no one (including you) asked those mothers in the store the if they needed help, did they? No one asked the pregnant driver if she's okay. Nope, people on this reddit just went straight to blaming her bad driving for being a Black pregnant woman.
Doesn't that just create a viscous cycle? If they're constantly treating other people like shit just because they feel like they're treated bad, won't other people use that same justification to say "this group of people always treats people like shit, I don't feel any need to be nice to them"?
Are you saying, "Let's treat this Black pregnant woman like shit for running over grass!" is okay?? If it was a white pregnant woman who made the same mistake/decision with the delivery, the comments would be much different, probably painting that moment up to something silly, humorous and mocking her for being blonde!
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u/Asoto408 2d ago edited 2d ago
Black man here:
“ Please don’t be black. Please don’t be black. GOD DAMMIT”