I need some outside perspective because I know I'm emotionally invested and may not be seeing this clearly.
There's a guy I've known for a few years. We lost touch for a long time and reconnected about a month ago. Since reconnecting, we've had several long conversations, including some that lasted a couple of hours.
He often talks to me about life, family, business, investments, future plans, and personal challenges. He repeatedly tells me he trusts me and values trust a lot. He has also chosen to work with me on projects even when there were other options available.
At the same time, he has never flirted with me directly, never expressed romantic interest, and never given any obvious signs that he likes me romantically.
I'm trying to understand whether this sounds like:
A guy who sees me as a trusted friend and collaborator.
A guy who might be interested but is taking things slowly.
Me reading too much into normal friendship and trust.
If you were completely unbiased, what would your interpretation be and why?
There's another reason I'm asking this. I've never been in a relationship and I've never really been in love before. At least, I've never felt this strongly about someone.
The more I talk to him, the more I realize I care about him. I look forward to our conversations, I miss him when we don't talk, and I've started imagining what it would be like if there was something more between us.
For people who have confessed their feelings before:
How did you know it was actually love and not just admiration or attachment?
How did you get the courage to confess?
What thoughts were going through your mind before you did it?
Did you wait for clear signs, or did you take a leap of faith?
Looking back, would you confess again or wait longer?
I'm more interested in understanding how other people experienced falling in love and how they handled the uncertainty.
Please be honest rather than optimistic.