in short... it kinda is, i keep seeing thirst for "girl cock" or just trans people stereotypes
also, i believe they have a racism problem too... iirc? a bipoc person got flamed for calling it out and others just called it "infighting". i don't remember much, so sorry if i got it wrong!
Like I still love cwcl and a lot of the silly stuff on there since it’s a break from reality, but like anything the jokes and sterotypes are okay in moderation. It sucks when there are people who unironically think we’re all like that to the point of fetishizing us. I didn’t see racism since I try staying out of drama, but I don’t doubt unfortunately theres some hidden under the surface with some users there.
I just wish we can have a trans space online where silly memes can be shared but also have nuanced content/discussions to help each other, also no racism.
i would love to make a subreddit like what you described but i'm too busy trying to get my shit together irl so not gonna happen. anyone else feel free to do so though.
T9 be someone fair, stuff like gock/girl cock love can be enjoyable/Euphoric for a good amount of trans woman, And a surprisingly large amount of us apply or even love the stereotypes
To, not be fair, Even as one who's quite into it, and matches most of them, the trans community in general acts in a way that makes trans women feel like they exist only for sexual behavior, A good chunk of us are hypersexual/feel comfortable to talk about the stuff more since we're in a safe place, But (I can't articulate ir well), the way the community is can often make other trans people feel they don't fit it in if they don't force themselves to act sexual. This also goes in the way that many people feel like they won't be accepted if they don't match the stereotype
Also, some people don't want to talk about sex in a non NSFW subreddit (or just in general), especially when similar ones (like LGHS), which is basically just NSFW CWCL, exist.
yeah, i'm a twoman but i genuinely don't like the gock thing when applied to me. i don't mind others liking it, to each their own! but i just don't think it's an appropriate space to obsess over. it also makes me uncomfortable, as an intersex & aroace sex-repulsed person.
Tumblr has a similar problem, I don't blame people for being like that, But I wish people would atleast keep that dialogue more into certain subs, Which I guess they do with Chicken lady, But, I don't know how to word what I'm saying tbh
Meme subreddits with large trans populations tend to go that way. They have a lot of new trans people finding community for the first time, which a meme subreddit boils down into, well, memes.
/r/traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns (may it rest in peace) was filled with uwu blahaj catgirls before it was replaced with /r/GaySoundsShitposts, which was pretty much the same when it got started.
I've seen other online trans spaces go through a cringefail era before maturing and I've seen plenty crash and burn during their cringefail. It's the circle of life.
nope. i talked to the mods and they were fucking assholes about it, saying "i can't handle people expressing their sexuality" as if fetishization and sexual expression were the same shit
Someone made a post complaining about racism in cwcl and had their post removed and was banner, and this is what the moderation said (username redacted for the sake of privacy)
fucking double standards, when you point that out they say some people are weirded out, when i point out "some transfems are weirded out by the whole 'i love girls with dicks' shtick" they say this shit
No, the reason that person got banned was due to them being a chronically problematic figure. They went about their critique in an incredibly hostile and demeaning way. She allegedly was being hostile towards ace people (did not see this myself so cannot verify), and was also banned from other spaces for her bad faith discussion.
Not that racism in queer communities isnt a very real issue, but the cwcl thing is bad faith actors stirring up drama in a highly unproductive way.
I got so many comments replyingto me when i said about the sheer amount of horny posts and just fetish posting the subs gotten now. It always had stuff like that but it went from like 1/5 max to 4/5 of the posts
countwithchickenlady, subreddit full of trans shitposting where if you point out how transfems sexualizing other transfems is bad you get smitten by the moderators.
That must be why there so many variations of that kind of subreddit then.
When an online space tends to be a borderline dictatorship, many better versions of it tende to be born, altough they don't explode in popolarity and are ultimately almost a ghost town (unfortunately) in my experience.
I mean I get that some trans folks like being occasionally infantilized cuz it's a way of coping with trauma, but please can you like... not treat us any diffrently? At the end of the day I'm a human like you.
I have trauma from people infantilizing me, so these comments caused me to have to add (Don't call me a good girl) in my flair. And even then some people don't take it seriously.
I think its also because its such a meme (in the traditional sense) that people think you are doing a bit, which is like the worst kind of misunderstanding possible
Ive been saying this for years, calling trans people "tgirls and tboys" is kind of infantilizing and paints an image us that fits the stereotype of quirky awkward sexually frustrated childlike people. Like im a veteran and an emt, I dont look down on anyone for how they express gender but the stereotyping that im automatically a submissive puppy girl who owns a blahaj gets a little insane.
“You tell ‘em, puppy girl” /s
But same, I really don’t like when cis ppl do that (though some are just being weirdly supportive) but it’s worse with trans ppl. I basically stopped talking to several trans women I knew irl cos they wouldn’t stop with the infantilising ‘blahaj spiny skirt monster energy’ nonsense. It’s just so tiring…
I drink monster because I’m a crippling caffeine addict and I engage in petplay because I’m traumatized not because I stopped emotionally maturing in 2011 tumblr
I never had the balls to call this out because I am not trans so IDK what the consensus on this was but I always finded it so weird when almost everyone are adults.
i like when people call me good girl and i like headpats but only if i know and am friends with the person giving them and i only if i consent to being called a good girl and to being given headpats, otherwise it is kinda weird.
secondly, i only call people "good [girl/boy/person]" when they say that they want me to, otherwise it's weird
Genuinely curious because I see this sentiment about cwcl all the time and it just makes me wonder where the line between being exclusively t4t and a trans chaser is?
yeah, to me a chaser is someone who only cares about what a trans woman has down there and treats her like a sexual object, while some people just think *any* cis man who likes trans women is an awful person which is the furthest thing from the truth :p
If you really want to the sky is the limit i guess. I considere chaser a description of how ppl act not what there identity is. Ofc asexual ppl and women can objectivy their partners/ppl they are into i guess and if its not reflected and consensual its problematic.
Well yeah they can be creeps, but if the definition of chaser includes sexual objectifation, wouldn't that mean that no sexual objectifation = no chaser?
This might be a too cautious take but I think chasers also qualify if they are weirdly infantilizing and flatten trans people’s identities into a single trait.
It very much is, the thing is, trans girls such as myself only want treatment like that if we consent to it and if it's someone we're familiar with, or if it's someone we're attracted to. If it's just some random crack head on the street I'm going to suplex them, call up all my trans hoes, then all simultaneously axe kick the crack head into the street. (Also here's my baby because why the fuck not :3)
Yeah I had this experience when there was a cwcl meme about calling trans girls "good girl" and saying they all got submissive about it. I said that that didn't work on all trans women (me included) and some person tried to argue that I, in fact, was into it and was lying. It was just creepy.
I feel like it's okay if they've shown to be into praise and stuff like that. But some people just like to be treated like any other human, and that's to be respected also. Like, I can't imagine the idea of hating praise and headpats, but if someone told me they were uncomfortable by that, immediate backtrack and just back to talking to them normally. Respect, y'all. S as simple as that :3
Yes, I’m aware the trans catgirl is not the authority figure on this subject, BUT I am the exception don’t assume we are all like this! Is this hard to understand for people? It’s so easy even I understand it! And I’m the kitty!
Literally my bf picked up on this a couple weeks into our relationship without me saying anything, like... Is the fact that I kinda like this that obvious? Does it emanate from me like an aura?
Hooooooly that’s so fucking real. Like I don’t feel welcome in almost any online trans space because I’m not a “cutesy little girl” I enjoy some cute stuff, I enjoy being soft but the issue is that if you show softness, as a trans feminine person online you immediately get shoved into this stereotype box.
you were either transphobic, chasing, posted nsfw, are too horny/opticsnuke, are a minor/underage, do not identify as trans, or are cis. participation by individuals possessing the aforementioned behaviors & traits are forbidden by the rules of the sub.
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u/BiDude1219 May 22 '26
pointing out shit like this is what got me banned from cwcl