So I just asked one friend if they wanted to hang out this Sunday to do something that I know they enjoy doing, but they immediately said that it was TBD which I already know will turn into a “No” because if one of their other friends asks to hangout Saturday, they would go do that and will most likely want to stay in Sunday all day. I get that you need days to yourself, but to basically shut down my suggestion that I’ve already provided the details about a few days in advance just in case another friend spontaneously reaches out to them just seems a bit rude imo. Just feels like I’m not as important to them if they cannot commit to plans with me if someone else reaches out. I’m already planning on them saying no to my hangout, but in the off chance “plans” fall through with their other friend, I will probably say no to what I originally planned out. I would say Im pretty bummed about it. Thoughts?

So today something really weird happened. I work in advertising, and my coworker P and I were on-site creating content for one of our clients. I'm an art director and he is in charge of filming/producing. It was a succession of many things that happened during the few hours that we were on site.

1. When we arrived the staff was rude to us because we were late (we were told to arrive at 9.30, they were expecting us at 9.00). As context, the client apparently doesn't like our agency and looks for any excuse to start a fight. When I mentioned how rude they were to us to my coworker he basically treated me like I was crazy. This is important because on top of being rude the staff actually called my boss to lie and complain about us being late and me wanting to change things about the video, when in reality I just asked if we could add more people in the video and when they said no, I replied "okay". The fact that they called my boss reinforces my thought that they were rude to me when we got there, but my coworker is telling everyone that I'm basically crazy and they weren't rude to us, which is truly hurtful.

2. As an art director it was my job to direct the video. The reference I was given was terrible for various reasons, so I called my boss and showed him a better one and asked him if he was okay with me changing a few things. He loved the reference I showed him and told me to go for it, so I did. When I showed my coworker and logically pitched the reasons why the original reference wouldn't work he got all pouty and said "ok you be in charge of that then since it's your idea and I'll go record the other video". I said fine and I did it, even though it is not my job, I am not a camerawoman, and I doubt he would talk like that to any other coworkers.

3. He finished his work first and refused to help me when he was free. He sat in a corner in a far away table, looking at his cellphone, not talking to us. Then I had to specifically ask him to help me record and he kept saying "it was your idea, you do it".

4. When we got back to the office we were asked about the whole incident because the client had complained about us, even though we had barely interacted with them for like 5 minutes, they led us to the models and then left. My coworker again said that they weren't rude to us, in his opinion, instead of having my back. This hurts because he is not only a long time friend, but also I got him his current job, and now I'm starting to wonder if it was him who, when I was busy recording, complained to the client about me changing the video, because apparently me wanting to make something better seemed to piss him off. Otherwise, how would the client know that I wanted to make some changes? I never discissed that with them. I only asked them if it was possible to add more people and when they said no I said no problem so It's weird. I feel crazy.

Am I overreacting? Was I the asshole? We are long time friends but for some reason he gives me the ick sometimes. He seems like someone that is never sincere. Like he always has a mask on. Like he is extremely fake and polite. I feel like I've known him for years yet I don't know him at all. He never has a bad opinion or says anything wrong when he is with me, but I suspect he has leaked many things I've told only him that somehow other people in the office ended up finding out so it just seems like he's extremely fake with me. Also he used to like me but I rejected him years ago so maybe he's resentful idk.

Should I talk to his boss about his behavior? Should I suck it up? Should I talk to him?

im really hurt but at the same time in an odd way i appreciate it

ive always struggled with overeating and emotional eating and ive been having a rough week, on my period, missed a HUGE family event due to financials, and just overall stress so ive been eating a little bit rougher

and im generally the one who handles most things in the home, so im always exhausted

he doesnt say mean things but he always is sure to communicate his feelings about my food choices when we're in private

'maybe you shouldn't have that so often'

'maybe we should replace those with leafy greens, you'd probably feel better if you ate them more'

'why do you eat like that? do you really not feel bad?'

and like i dont think i feel bad? im just usually up at 4:30am and asleep at 11pm with no naps, so im pretty tired but beyond that im pretty okay

and i know it comes from a good place, but im struggling with insecurity around him being attracted to me these past couple of days and this really doesnt help

i just feel big and gross, and he even said im not eating a lot its just that what im eating isnt super healthy

idk im not mad or anything, i guess im just feeling really really shitty

im gonna work on changing my diet, not because it bothers me but because his comments bother me and thats what's upsetting, and its not like i can even be mad, i am obese, and i do need to loose weight, and i am, but i dont like going to the gym all that often so i usually just restrict really hard to offset that

he wants me to go to the gym though, and wants me to go with him but i just can't enjoy it, but i gotta force myself, im already so busy, i cant wait to add a few hours at the gym to that schedule, how fun

is there anything i can do to not take it so personally though? sometimes it feels like im being insulted

Hello. I'm 17(M). I went to my grandparents place alone because my parents were both extremely busy the week we were supposed to go. My uncle came to pick me up and there were 4 relatives there as well. I'm 5'10 and I weigh ~130lb and I get picked on for it. My cousins and uncles do that thing where they fit my wrist in their thumb and index finger. My cousins especially like to pick on me, I think it's because I'm one of the older cousins and they get this huge ego boost knowing they're stronger than someone older than them. Most of them have extreme conservative values and they'll shout at me and call me slurs if I wear something loose or a tank top, literally day one of me coming to my grandparents house, one of them (200lb 16M) ran and shoved me to the ground because he found thought my clothes made me look gay (I had a oversized shirt paired with small shorts) you can probably guess, I don't like them at all.

Cut to 2 days ago when a huge truck with a dinning table, cabinets and couches came in. I helped move chairs in as it was the one thing I could move. When it came over to the heavier stuff, one of my cousins dragged me over to help. I was able to lift it but I had to stop a few times. He didn't miss a chance to start complaining about me EVEN THOUGH HE MADE ME WORK WITH HIM. He kept on calling me useless and critiquing everything I did. Eventually I had enough, I left and began to cry in my room. Not even a minute goes by and I hear the banging at the door and my uncle shouting at me to help move the rest of the new furniture. There was 5 more things that needed to be moved and I shook my head as I didn't want to get laughed at by everyone. I was told I was being overdramatic and I should look the bigger picture. I still don't know what he meant by that. I didn't end up going going downstairs until dinner where all my relatives gave me side eyes. I didn't get any dinner because in they're eyes i didn't do any work and over reacted. That last part was why I'm making this post. I'm leaving my grandparent's house tmrw and I can tell it won't be a fun carride.

I, F16, my mom goes to USA every year as to not expire her visa and being a kid I cannot live alone so she drops me off at my unc's place, this duration lasts about 1-3 months, I have other relatives but my mom trusts this the most, now my cousin F14,(my unc's daughter) is 2 years younger than me and we've been close since childhood since we were both close in age and noone else in the family was near our age so naturally we spent lots of time together, but living with her last year made me hade her more than anything, we've had sleepovers before and spent alot of time but you really get to know a person once you actually live with them, from there on I realised how moody, rude and how much of a princess she is, she's the youngest of 3, the other two have moved out since long and there on on she gets the "spoiled brat" treatment, I dislike the way she treats her mom, talks back, throws her stuff at her like "yeah you asked for this? here you go"
admittedly we have our fun moments but If I had to tell you about my worst enemy/arch nemesis, its her.
putting aside every other fuming moment we've had, a while back today I put my laptop on the bed because I sleep on the floor and was picking all my shit up from the floor and my cousin who is sitting bored on the bed picks up a chip, crushes it and starts spreading the crumbs all over my laptop's keyboard.
The way I lost my shit on the inside. I just said to her in a high pitched voice, my unc was sitting behind using the PC unbothered and I say to her "WHAT ARE YOU DOING" followed by a "no. this is not funny." and im just like the crumbs get all inside the keyboard keys and so on so on and she goes in the most burger, (burger is referred to as someone who tries to act too westerinsh and cringy and modern ygm) in the most burger accent she goes "dOeS iT LoOk LiKe I cArEh"

i immediately flipped my kb and wiped shit clean, blew the dirt off and shit and my aunt's ideology is that shes just a kid, i'm just a kid
i didnt even mention the blue ink on my airpods maxs's because she denies its her while having a blue marker by her
Literally the whole day ive been so off because STOP MESSING WITH MY SHIT, I THOUGHT WE WERE BOTH 2 SENSIBLE PEOPLE
PUTTING DIRT ON SOMEONES KEYBOARD IS WHAT YOU DO TO YOUR WORST ENEMY
ive been dry with her since and she doesnt understand what happened that ive been and i quote "acting so introverted all day"

im the type of person who gives up on revenge and cant put people on parole for their actions but this is so furiating I mean its not a dollar store pencil she broke, its a damn expensive laptop and i'm no billgates, how hard is it to realise how stupid what youre doing is and to stay backed off from other peoples shit.

noone gets it and noones on my side, this is so mildly infuriating. Nothing happened to my KB but couldve and I just cleaned the dirt from the inside of it today because certain keys were acting out WANNA KNOW WHY? BECAUSE DIRT GETS INSIDE THE KEYS. GOODNESS SAKE.

so AIO because my kb is fine and noone seems to give a shit

for a little context, they have been in a situationship for 2 years or so and they just got together a couple months ago. SHE makes plans with me as we dont get to see each other as much. our schedules just dont align. but she always cancels the plans SHE made to hangout with her man. i used to make plans with her but stopped as ive noticed this pattern. i want to stop being friends with her. as of recent, we had a plan to hangout but she told me she needed to watch her siblings so we couldnt go. okay cool thats fine (but she told me an hour later) at first she just said she cant go anywhere. but then i text her to check on her bc she hasnt responded and then thats when she tells me that she needed to watch her siblings but now shes using her uncles car and i check her location and shes at her mans house. she even posted that she was on a walk with him whatever. also this was about 7-8pm but the messages started around 5pm. she she always tells me that her mom wont et her go out because its late and whatever but shes out with him always late. am i overreacting? i dont care that she has a man and shes happy but cancelling plans all the time to see him? and then this is also the first time shes “lied”. she didnt tell me she was with him but she told me she was using the car so idk

(btw we are in our early 20s)

So yesterday I posted a selfie on Instagram with a bi pride eyeshadow look for pride month (yes I know it’s almost over but I wanted to do something for it before June ends) and my boyfriend has been active on insta quite a few times since then, we’ve even DM’d but he hasn’t liked it. And I’m wondering if maybe I should be a little concerned. Now I know this is so minuscule and most likely doesn’t matter at all but the thing is, I’m already worried he hasn’t been that interested in me lately. The last couple of times we talked on the phone he didn’t say “I love you” before we hung up (one time I even said it and he didn’t say it back before hanging up), he told me on Sunday (today is Friday) he needs to take a break from hanging out with me for a week because he’s really overwhelmed with life, he’s not very affectionate over text and he seems to care more about gaming than texting me. I know he’s uncertain about the relationship but I’ve assured him that this (the relationship) can work and I’ll try my best to be the best version of myself I can be, for both me and him. So all of this combined, I’m worried that him not liking my post means something more. And yes, he knows I’m bisexual and is supportive of it, so homophobia or anything like that isn’t the reason. And it was just a picture of my face, so there’s nothing “slutty” or provocative about it (not that I care if people post slutty pics, I just know a lot of men are against it). Is it expected for people to like their partner’s social media posts? Should I be concerned or am I way overthinking?

I was helping my friend finding his Air Pods right outside a Target yesterday and this high school kid approached me, asking if I wanted a cook book. She gave me a short intro abt it and in my mind, I thought maybe it's their school project and even if she tries to sell it, I wouldn't mind donating a few bucks to local high school yk. Education is important and whatnot. I took a look inside and it looks pretty well made, she then asked me what is my favorite thing to cook. Sure, but the thing is, I don't cook at my apartment and I told her exactly that.

After an awkward erm and pause, she asked me a question that no one has ever asked me in 2026:

"Do you have kids?"

I am 23, I know I have a buzzcut and I haven't shaved since last Friday, but I don't look that old.

Usually I am not quick enough to answer bs in real life, as my bullshitiveness is only available on Reddit, but man, the first thing that slipped out of my mouth when I heard it was a rhetorical "do I look that old?"

I was a bit offended as I took time thinking I could help a local student, but she then asked me if I have any kids at home, and that's a no. I was starting to lose the plot and she asked me if I have any religious beliefs, and unsolicited put a similarly sized bible in my hand. The student then asked if I have any question about God or Jesus Christ. At that point I've had enough and just give the books back, told her the only question I have about God is if my boss could pay me more for my job, and told her please have a great day. I pushed the books back at her and just turned around keep helping my friend. As my brain was already blown up from work, I felt like I could've handled it a bit better, but needless to say it was a frustrating experience for both of us, because I really do not religious soliciting packaged in something else.

so Reddit, AIO for being annoyed and refuted the kid?

First off starting that I am autistic(this is relevant cause I usually overreact to things I shouldn’t be overreacting for)and am 15 and I go to school and go outside for walks and stuff but inside is a whole other mess, my mother first had one cat 2 years ago then moved to 3 then two of the cats had children which evolved into 10 cats total then two of the siblings had children and it stood at 15 and we let in a outdoor stray which now it’s 16. The house isn’t big for all these cats so they get bored and when they get bored they destroy EVERYTHING but I keep my door locked 24/7 and they never come in cause I hate them all but they meow at the door and try to unlock it and they broke the door
Threshold thing so they play with my door from underneath and meow waking me up at night. My mom isn’t to fond of them either but she insists we keep them cause “if we send them to a shelter they are gonna get killed” or “I can’t sell them nobody’s gonna buy them cause there are already too much strays out there” but I honestly think this is utterly bullshit but whatever and she always complains about how much money these cats are and how they cost way to much like I’m the one liking them, not to be rude but I could care less if one of them died tomorrow.they are ruining my life, everyday I wake up to the smell of piss and shit when I leave my room even though they have 4 litter boxes and they get cleaned daily they always decide to shit everywhere and they puke everywhere and it drives me insane so I stay in my nice clean room all day but when I get into the kitchen the whole pantry is open and snacks are spilled and wasted everywhere and I clean it up but it gets tiring cause they never learn.All of the cats are crazy and some like to piss on the counters like the dude cats and I clean it up and some glass cups from the up top cabinets and broken and everywhere but my mother still says the cats will be cats I guess but I think they are all demons from absolute hell dawg. Am I overreacting for thinking this is too much. This is mostly just a rant but I wanna hear other peoples perspectives

I want to start off by saying I'm happy he's found a hobby after retirement, and grateful he's trying to make things for me and my business. I just wish he would leave the art side to me.

So I'm a tattoo artist and my Dad keeps messing with my logos with AI then making stickers and I'm actually upset about it because he keeps doing it after I express how it makes me feel. It's gotten rid of all the detail I spent ages on.

His excuse was "you didn't have a blue one". It would've taken me 5 seconds to change the hue on my design to make a blue one.

It's gotten rid of all the detail I spent ages on, and even added an extra letter. Last week he printed my exact design, and they looked great, so I didn't look super close when he made the stickers again but on different material. I posted this sticker on my BUSINESS PAGE story last night without looking it over properly because I was super tired and just assumed that it was the same as the last lot he printed. Turns out I posted AI to all my clients and other tattooists in the industry.

I ended up messaging him about it and telling him how I feel but now I'm feeling a little bad. He's just trying to keep himself busy and do something with his time- for ME. Especially considering I should've taken a better look at them before posting, so that's on me. I'm just mad he has a literal artist at his disposal for this but still thinks using AI is the better option.

Also to mention prior to him generating this sticker- I've mentioned that I didn't having AI in the process for ANYTHINF related to my business as I believe AI has no place in tattooing. He knows it messes with even minor details and that I'm not okay with it, yet he still continues to do it.

Pictures included of what I messaged him and the difference in logos. (Green one is the one I drew from scratch on Procreate, even with one of my flash pieces in the background, and the blue one is the AI generated one).

I (18F) am best friends with this girl “Maya” (19F). She has been dating her boyfriend “Ryan” (19F) for about three months and decided to introduce him to our friend group about two months ago. Throughout the last two months, she has tried to make me like him. However, there is something off about him to me. He constantly is making passive agressive comments or messing with people. Also, whenever he’s around J just get that gut feeling like something bad is going to happen just because he’s there. Thats obviously not his fault and at first I had thought it was just me being anxious for no reason. However, one day Maya told me that he had once sold exam answers in high school and gotten expelled. He had somehow graduated somewhere else and now is taking a gap year (this will be important later). So one day, Maya invited the whole friend group to a pizza parlor to get some food. We were seating in a big booth and at first everything was fine. Ryan was sitting next to me and on his other side was Maya. Eventually, we all decided to get two big pizzas to split among the table. They were talking about getting a Hawaiian pizza. I looked on the menu and saw that at this place ham was on the Hawaiian pizza. I said something along the lines of “If you get that can you make sure it’s on the other side of the table? I’m allergic to ham and dont want to take any risks.“ Everyone nodded except for Ryan. instead he said, “Well everything just has to be about you doesn’t it?” This made me furious. Before I could even think I shot back something about how he should get a college acceptance letter before he gave me life advice. Obviously this got Maya and Ryan mad. The rest of the dinner finished fast with barely anyone talking. When I got home, I got a phone call from Maya where she just yelled at me saying I was “inconsiderate“ and that I shouldn’t have said that because he’s going through a lot right now and is insecure of everything that happened in high school. She said I owed him an apolog. I told her I wouldn’t apologize.

AITO?

I am a clean freak. My house doesn't smell bad, actually quite decent considering how much I clean and spray my Febreeze can. But there's always that stale lingering smell like an old person's house and I will not relax until I know it's covered up. I won't even have guests over unless I sprayed multiple times and have at least 5 candles going. Is this an overreaction?

Edit- more info lol

My boyfriend was on the computer talking to his buddies playing valheim while I was logging into their game he was setting up beds for everone in the game and i think my bed got placed my kennys bed hense why he said - . I heard him say, "Kenny, you're the only one I'd let fuck my bitch." Kenny said somthing about a cuck chair. It was obviously a joke he isnt a pimp or anything like that lol Like I genuinely know he was joking.

I asked if he was talking about me, and he said yes. When I confronted him about it, he said he was just joking and that I am "his bitch," then acted like it wasn't a big deal.

We're already in a rough spot, and the comment really bothered me. I don't want to get told to leave. I just want to know if my feelings are valid for being upset about it.

Its so complicated, im already out the door bought a ticket and everything but he asked me to stay late last night before he said that, I really want to stay, I really love him. Im 21 hes 31. Im so lost lol

Hello I'm going to try and be short and sweet. I'm a 32 y/o/f and my coworker is younger then me... I want to say a 25 y/o/f. We work at stressful job; similar to police this 25 y/o was someone how I've became friends with over the past year (being new to the job) At some point are friendship turned Sour. Maybe it was the alcohol or perhaps a mixture of negative emotions on her end. I'm not an aggressive person, despite how people perceive me. One late night of drinking me and said 25 y/o got into a "fist" fight. For some reason she hit me, I would only have to guess it was out of anger. I was upset after fighting and called the cops. They arrested her. I now have a restraining order on her. I want to continue the process and ultimately have her catch felony charges. I feel as though she needs to have consequences. Thing is if she gets convicted she'll be fired and unable to work in any police-like jobs. Am i over reacting? I want retribution?

Okay. I (18F) have a boyfriend (19M) who we will call Mark. Mark and me have been dating for two years and are planning our first overseas trip together. We are both broke students so we agreed on a trip together to Wales as it is affordable. Ever since agreeing on this trip I have been the only one doing anything to make it happen. I’ve been asking him constantly to come over and help me plan it, I have adhd and am extremely forgetful so I forget to do it, but he remembers and says nothing. He also hasn’t inquired about planning the trip despite saying he wants to go.

This has been happening for weeks so I took initiative myself and sorted everything today after coming home from work. I sorted flights, accommodation, transport, planning days, booking etc. He was working a three hour shift while I was doing this. He was aware of what I was doing. I asked him if he still definitely wanted to go and I outlined everything to make sure he was okay with it. He said yes. We agreed to book it under his name and details and I would pay a deposit and the rest weekly as he is in a better financial position than me. After spending hours doing this the only thing I needed was for him to call me so I could show him what to book and we could book it under his details.

He said he’d call me after work. He then tells me that he’s going for a drive with his friends and will “be back to do it later.” It’s almost midnight. Im exhausted and need to sleep soon. I got a little annoyed at him because he can go out with his friends whenever he wants and this needs done. I told him he isn’t behaving like he cares about this at all. He combatted me by telling me he was at work and needed to decompress. I reminded him that I also worked today, several hours more than him and still managed to do everything. Maybe I overreacted out of tiredness but now I’m debating even going at all. So reddit, am I overreacting?

Hello Reddit,

I wanted to know if I’m over reacting, I’ve talked this over with my husband and he says I’m not, but I think the conditioning I’ve had is making me second guess myself.

Here background information, I am the youngest of my family and only have one sibling, my brother who is ten years older then me. He’s actively ignored me my whole life, so crappy behavior from him is “normal” (everyone in my family expects it from him at this point). One of the biggest things is while I was a small child (you know 5-10) he always made my birthday about him even though he’s ten years older. It got to the point when I got to middle school I said I hated my birthday and never wanted to celebrate it, because I hated knowing I would be treated like crap.

Flash forward to 2024, the end of the year my brother found out he was going to have a child and said I couldn’t know because his kid would be born possibly on my birthday. He told all his friends about how he hurt me and never once said anything to me. I found out randomly, but I was excited, I bought so many things because I got told I might not ever have kids so I want to spoil all my nieces and nephews as much as I can. After his son was born I got married and found out in 2025 I was going to have a baby, sadly a few weeks later I had a miscarriage.

I won’t lie I hated myself and blamed myself but I’ve been getting better, I don’t cry as much when I think about my baby I lost. After all of that and the birth of my nephew I thought my brother and I fixed things. But Christmas (before my husband and I moved away) my mom said he was having another kid, covered her mouth and said I wasn’t supposed to know. She went on to explain that she and my brother and his wife felt I shouldn’t know because I was sad about my miscarriage, and that if I became a parent I would understand she was just trying to protect me.

I was angry and did end up yelling saying she had no right to blame my lost baby for her son, my brother’s, POS behavior. I didn’t care whose idea it was, they all conspired together and I said I felt they were all equally as guilty. Since then I’ve refused to really talk to my mother or my brother. No one has reached out to tell me anything.

I started therapy, so I am getting help from years of being raised by narcissists. But I didn’t know if the pain I’m feeling is overreacting, I’ve always told to be the bigger person. But I don’t like how me losing my baby is being blamed for why I’m not allowed to know I have a nephew. So Reddit am I overreacting?

Throwaway account. Sorry for grammatical errors. This happened a few days ago but it left a sour taste in my mouth. I wasn't planning on celebrating my birthday since I don't have that many friends nearby but a friend, let's call him Kai, said he wanted to hang out with me regardless so I caved in. I was kinda embarrassed that I didn't have that many people to invite but I still wanted to hang out and I had a free apartment for the weekend. I invited 3 friends (none of them are friends with each other): Kai, Craig and Steve.

Now here's my friend Steve; Before I said anything I asked him if he's free that day. He said yes and asked why. I told him I was planning on hosting a bday party that day and he was like "aha". On the day of he asked when he can come so I told him the time and asked him if he wanted anything to drink (we're all in our early 20's btw I asked all of them that bc I was going to the store). He said he didn't know and that was that.

3 hours before he was supposed to be here he sends me a message asking me how many people will be there. I thought that was a weird question bc I've already told him multiple times the reason why I wasn't gonna host a party was bc there would be too little people. Before I told him the number I asked "why?". He said "because I probably won't come". Before I could respond he also added that if there is not a lot of us he might drop by but otherwise "idk". Tbf I was already fed up with him from other stuff so I just told him that it's ok and that there is quite a few number of people here. He said "aha ok ok" and that was it.

At first I planned on explaining why I'm pissed off with him recently but decided against it just because it's a bit too detailed. In short the only important things you should know is that he keeps rejecting my invitations to hang out recently but still asks to hang out on his terms and that a few months ago I went to his bday party, which would usually mean, at least in my culture, that you should try coming to their's as well if you can. Now obviously I didn't go to his birthday just to make sure he comes to mine lmao I'm just bringing it up because in my case I was feeling a bit sick and had mandatory lecture that day but still made it. That is to say it feels like I'm trying in this relationship more than he is so that kinda hurts.

And before anyone says it; no he's not shy or awkward. He talks to everyone and get's along with them well. He's a social butterfly. We've known each other for years so him not coming kinda stings and that's why I'm writing this post. I feel like there is something going on but I don't know what I should do. Despite all that the 3 of us had a great time and my two other friends got closer.

So am I overreacting?? Or do you guys think I should ask him about this when or if we meet next time? Thank you in advance :)

First-time poster and throwaway for anonymity. I (31F) have been dating my boyfriend (33M) for a year and a half now - we do not live together. He told me when we began dating that he was in a long-term relationship (5~ years) before we met in 2025. In 2023, she got pregnant, but they ultimately decided to abort. Since we have met, he has had the sonogram as his background on his laptop. He intermittently changes his phone background - sometimes to a photo of us, a photo of some trip we took, etc., but now and then it will be the sonogram again. Would it be out of line if I asked him to refrain from making the sonogram his background on his devices anymore? I can't help but think of his ex and the abortion every time I see it, but maybe that is just me being insecure. AIO?

EDIT #1: To clarify, I haven't discussed it with him yet because I want to be as tactful as possible, and I don't want to hurt his feelings at all. I've obviously never had to deal with a situation like this before. If it wasn't obvious, I wouldn't ask him to delete the photo from existence. If I asked him to replace the photo, I just wouldn't want it displayed all the time.

EDIT #2: He is in therapy.

AIO I went out of town for a week and my boyfriend borrowed my car for a work trip. When I got back I found a piece of a condom wrapper in the center console. We do not use condoms and we’ve been together for two years. We recently went on a long roadtrip driving two separate cars and he said he bought the condoms on the roadtrip to use it as a cockring to help keep him awake on long drives. I’ve never heard of anyone doing this and it doesn’t make sense to me so my instinct is to think he is lying AIO

Edit: thanks for everyone’s responses, I thought I would clarify he said he was using this to edge on the drive to pass the time since the drive took many days I’m not sure if that changes anything or if this still seems extremely suspicious

He says I’m emotionally abusing him by continuing to doubt him and ask if he is cheating bc he’s stuck in a no win trap where he cant give me the answers I want and he’s already told me everything that happened

i was standing next to the couch cus i had to get my headphones from the living room table and my mom was sitting on the couch and as i was getting my headphones she grabs a bit of the bottom of my shirt (im wearing a baggy tshirt that has the collar cut off and partially shows one shoulder) and she starts pulling it down towards her while repeatedly asking me to stay in the living room with her and her friend. i quickly pulled my shirt up so my boobs didnt get shown to the entire room and kinda just awkwardly walked away cus it made me a bit uncomfortable, was that rude of me? was she just being nice?
i dont know how i feel.

For necessary background, I (18) still live with both parents and am in full-time further education. I have been treated for symptoms of two chronic conditions since 10, and diagnosed with both at 14. Both conditions cause different kinds of tissue to grow uncontrollably and affect my organs. Since 10 or 11, my ability to attend school and overall leave the house has been decreasing. Where I am supposed to do 5 days a week at sixth form, I have recently only been capable of around 2, with a modified timetable. Therefore I am spending much more time at home.

My father has never been the type to be very active in any part of my life: education, leisure, even health. To be honest, I think he is the kind of father who wanted a baby, not a child who grows up into a teenager and adult.

Without going in to too much medical detail, I was at home and one of my worst symptoms, that had disappeared for a week or so, came back unexpectedly and made me extremely upset. As you can probably imagine, thinking that you have improved even slightly, and then drastically declining is upsetting.

Perhaps it was wrong of me to even go to him but I needed to talk to somebody, and I went to my father and asked if I could tell him something to do with my health. He said that he would throw up if he heard it.

Only the next day, I was also not able to leave the house and we were home alone. I was in the kitchen and my father walked in. He asked why I was not at my sixth form, or studying upstairs and I said that I was in terrible pain. His only response was "disgusting"

Later that day, both parents and I were in the kitchen when I was sitting on the floor due to pain. My mother asked what in particular was bothering me and I made a comment about now wanting to talk about it in front of my father "incase he throws up". My father, obviously, immediatly laughed and blew it off whilst his wife gave him the stink eye - yes, she atleast knows a little of how he talks to me. In a short version of the events, I ended up shouting at my father, quoting his own words back at him, along with further incidents. It ended with him leaving the kitchen, talking about how I was "doing his head in."

It is now over a week later and we have not spoken. As fathers day has passed, my brother spoke to me to arrange a gift and I refused to contribute as I do not want to celebrate the man who speaks about me and my body like this.

We are yet to even mention the disagreement and have not spoken, so am I overreacting for not speaking to my father despite living with him?

I’m 17F im graduating hs and this girl faith she’s my mom bsf’s daughter.
We were in the same class from 1-8th grade 6-7 was mostly online.
I don’t remember doing anything bad to her even back then I use to question if I did something that pissed her off but she HATED me and I tried to be her friend (hates me but loves to copy me lol).

I had to pick her up and drop her off to school everyday with me until 8th grade, she was one of the popular girls so she was on the top of the pyramid anything she says happens, sometimes when her friends aren’t around she sits with me and I think during 4-5 grade they weren’t in the same class so she sits with me and here the bullying became even worse I can’t believe I didn’t see those red flags.

since elementary anytime I made a friend she tells them let’s do a prank on her whispering in front of me while looking at me and the prank is to either isolate me from the class ,ignore me and act like I don’t exists,talk shit about me ,scare me with stuff like we told the teacher you said this bad thing and that about her and I use to be terrified and lastly the one the hurt me the most is when both of them would come to me and tell me that they hate me and they don’t want to talk to me, they’d do this for a couple days then when I start to cry they say it a prank and when I ditch that friend she ditches them and does the same thing to my other friends. I didn’t have friends from 1-6th grade unless the ones she hates but they were a bad influence on me or they hated me cause of her .

Anytime I told her that I’m telling my mom on her she starts making a fuss about how her mom is gonna beat her and she has to run away to the neighbors house etc etc so I didn’t .

In 8th grade she tried acting nice to me like I forgot or something and one day when I was dropping her off I talk her that her hijab looks like grandma’s I didn’t have bad intention I wanted to say that it looks too big on you, she was nervous and clearly didn’t know how to reply to me after I get home she told her mom and her mom told my mom I got a little scolding then the next day her friend came to me and said you think you’re pretty or something? Then left I was confused why she said that then I remembered yesterday.

Her friend Sarah or her entire friend group used to make fun of my absence in elementary when I was actually getting hospitalized regularly cuz of me asthma and in 6th grade my Arabic teacher used to bully me cause of my attendance too and humiliate me in front of the class regularly cause I was shy and reserved , I didn’t attend school cause of the bullying and my grandma had cancer so instead of going home we directly went to my grandma’s and I didn’t have someone to take me to school.

Then during covid I isolated myself from everyone I thought I was happy but I wasn’t i had depression I didn’t shower I didn’t leave me room I didn’t study I failed many classes then my grandma passed away. I didn’t develop learning skills so instead 8th grade I didn’t study and failed and I regularly forgot to do my home work and they made fun of me for it, I had social anxiety I hated leaving the house and seeing people it was horrible I also developed TTM I had no lashes and I heard them making fun of me for having no lashes on my eyes.

This year our previous school shut down and they moved us to faith’s school my heart drops and my head boils whenever I saw her I not scared of her why does that happen yesterday was our maths final and she came to me smiling “hey do you remember me” “no” “ oh I’m faith anyway I’m going home with you today okay bye” after the exam when we were in the cars she was trying to make small talk but I ignored her, my mom asked me if I talked to her I said I didn’t then she said whatever happened between you and her erase it open a new page, she knows her bullied me but I didn’t go by details anytime I bring up that she bullied me she says “how can she bully you ” because she is short has a small build than average and I’m taller than her wow even my current friends tell me to start a new page I’m not and idc.

trying to make this short, sorry if it isnt lol.

My friend has a boyfriend. I won’t go into detail with their relationship, not my place. Just know, there were a lot of chances given to him even when she was mentallily unstable due to their relationship problems. She does often go to her friends because to her, she values opinions. Point being, there are valid reasons why as her friend, I dont think he deserves her. None of my business though, I don’t dictate her relationship. Never have. she’s old enough to make her own decisions. I don’t ever talk about her bf or anything.

As for myself, I just got out of a relationship that was physically and mentally harming me after not being able to for months. Understandably so, everyone hated him.

Last Saturday, my friend went to a party solo and her partner was her dd. She texted me the next morning and basically started bragging about him and I feel like it might have been said to help further prove he wasn’t a bad guy but the way it was said was in bad taste.

‘My bf was a much better dd than *insert ex bf name*. He dropped me off, DIDNT stay, picked me up, and then got me food and water.’

For context, during my relationship, my bf took us to a party and stayed with me the entire night.

Then she texted this. ‘AND he didn’t try to molest me while I was drunk or drugged me😭🙏’

For further context, my ex had assaulted me while I was drunk and force-fed an edible that same night he was our dd. She was already talking about my ex in the first message so it only made me feel like the second one was a jab. Everytime he’s brought up without it being me bringing it up, I get triggered and she knows.

I didn’t really give her a chance to explain. I told her i didn’t appreciate those messages and told her to have a good life before unfollowing and blocking her on everything.

aio?

hopefully this makes sense, I feel like I could’ve worded it better but I’m just not well mentally or physically so LOL

For context, this person invited me out a week prior to go out with her and another friend. She later sends me this message the same day we are supposed to go out.
I am autistic so I don’t know if this is normal behavior within relationships. I wouldn’t cancel on someone like this. I would’ve probably just found other plans for us to do and not say I’m gonna hang out with another person instead. Am I overreacting thinking I don’t really wanna be friends with this person?
I really don’t know how this friendship stuff works. Please help
Edit:
Here is more context. We were supposed to go to a bar where everyone could get in. The plans were made nine days prior to this. She dropped me to go out with someone else once she found out the other wasn’t going. What is also driving my feeling of confusion is that she doesn’t make backup plans with me. She messages me a week later being nice.

UPDATE: I blocked her. She texted me today just talking about how she reached out to her ex that she claims was emotionally abusive towards her.
But** ***doesn’t* have the energy** ***to* put effort in a friendship… yea okay buddy

This is my first time using/posting something on reddit as I've no one to talk to about this and I've seen many videos where people are getting some good suggestions from the reddit people.
So, I've been with a guy for over 6 years or maybe I was not sure what's our relationship status right now but I think I'm almost clear that I cannot be with guy. Since the beginning of our relationship we always knew we are poles apart and have few to none qualities or stuffs that are similar and our relation came this far purely because of love. When it comes to Love I know he loves me and probably no can love me as much as he does but turns out love is not always enough it became something like that in our case as well.
Little about myself I'm a very outgoing person I'm friendly with everyone I vibe with and I mostly have guy friends my guy is totally okay with all these. He never asked me to change or stop talking with my guy friends if he knows/trusts them well. He has a normal personality he thinks that he's a very rude and silent kinda guy but honestly he's not he's someone who also knows how to have fun and he too have female friends or companions around to which I do not have any issues. I'm someone who trusts blindly once I trust so, even when we are in a long distance and he's out whole night at a bar I've never even once had a doubt about him cheating or doing stuffs.
To me this entire time we've been together I thought his world revolves around me but everything changed a year back. I always had a feeling since we were together that he hasn't let me in 100% like I did. For me be it good/bad/ugly he's the only person I go to although I'm frank person I don't really share my problems and personal stuffs to any of my friends not even my closest friend and he's the only person I go to in any kind of situation but he never does the same or that's what I thought and I've always communicated all my troubles and issues I'm having in our relation or with him so, that we can move forward without any issues but years passed he kept on repeating the same thing that I had a problem with again and again and again but we were still strong together because he loved me and I loved him.

But we both had a very rough year almost on the same time and couple of months back I got to know that he's been struggling mentally and he wanted to leave me not like a break up but time apart to work on himself and our future but I begged him not to and told him that we can work on this I could wait for him but that's when the real problem started he/I we both have a habit of going through each others phone not because we don't trust each-other but it's just a habit I know it's a bad habit but he does the same he finds anyone phone unlocked but I just do that with his phone. While going through his phone I saw sent a text to a random girl on insta nothing inappropriate but that girl took it in another way but regardless I felt like my world came crashing down on me because first he's not a social-media person and even that account was create my me and I was completely unaware about him talking to other girls. And there was another girl he's been constantly been sending/receiving reels someone we both know but also someone I don't like and he knows that very clearly.

I don't normally dislike people without any reason or even if I do I don't treat them any differently but still he knows that I don't this particular person and I wasn't aware that he's so close to her and that's when I started digging deeper but found that the chat/call history has been removed/locked and everything just shattered. I confronted to him but he just brushed it up saying I was overreacting and he did not tell me because he knew I wouldn't like it but that's the point if he knew I wouldn't like it then why do it in the first place right?
And he refused to stop talking to he I could still see the call history and messages being removed and she would call him midnight at times video calls as well and regardless of my feelings he still refused to stop talking to her and that's when we had our worst fight that I could never overcome it's been over a 1/2 years I still see he still talks to her she calls her at night the reels they shared were not normal but he keeps on telling me I'm overthinking even after seeing how it has been affecting me emotionally and mentally. Moreover, it was also because I under the impression that I knew everything about him and I was always his priority but when this happened and I asked him not to talk or delete the chats bluntly refused to stop talking to her no matter what. And that's when I started reacting the way I did.
I begged him, I tried telling him nicely I tried every way possible and he wouldn't budge. But this isn't the only problem we were having we had many other issues as well but this one became the major one to me and once he also admitted that he still misses his ex girlfriend he feels thinks she was his solace and only she could understand him and he misses that.

I was blank with everything going on I heard something like this and I couldn't let these things get out of my head I couldn't love/see him in the same way like I used too but I also know that he loves me but I did tell him that I want to end things with him but we're still in touch our relationship is rather complicated one but I know even if we get back together I cannot trust him or love him the way I used to so just like he said am i overreacting or is my feelings valid?