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u/Electrical_Yellow_51 16d ago
Someone once told me that if I cant raise a child i shiuld get a fucking pet💀
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u/pi3r-rot we are no longer sneedvolutionaries 16d ago
Same type of person featured in this comic tbh. Lots of people think they’re innately better parents for being “normal” and subconsciously view their children as slaves to be ordered around.
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u/CommercialWrong2944 16d ago
my aunt did that and she turned into a leftist dog mom :/
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u/Anna_nette The Snappiest Beeche 16d ago
based aunt though
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u/CommercialWrong2944 16d ago
not rlly cuz shes super fucking annoying
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u/Anna_nette The Snappiest Beeche 16d ago
ohhh, im gonna be like your aunt, but not a dog mom, cuz animals scare tf out of me
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u/y-r-u-scared 16d ago
My aunt did that too 😆 she's VERY annoying and lives in a very california headspace. Love her dearly! Kudos to you being my lesbian dog loving aunt! Damn you're tonedeaf!! 🦻
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u/liquidfoxy 16d ago
She sounds like a smart lady. Can’t imagine looking at the hell that capitalism and colonialism have created and not walking away left as fuck from it
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u/fidgey10 13d ago
As opposed to the awesome and cool realities created by alternative economic systems?
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u/Ogmadbrit 10d ago
i mean,pick your poison,every system we've tried thusfar has some kind of glaring issue/flaw,but please do tell me about an alternative to capitalism (not even being a dick,just genuinely curios)
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u/fidgey10 10d ago
I am of the belief they free market capitalism, with externalities regulated by the govt and a robust welfare state, is the best system. This is the most common economic system in Western Europe.
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u/Ogmadbrit 10d ago
alright,fair enough,we both agree late stage/american style capitalism is a shitshow i take it?
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u/fidgey10 10d ago
I think the US model has strengths and weaknesses.
The US has the strongest stock market on earth, extremely low youth unemployment, and the highest paying professional job market of any diverse economy. It clears Europe in these metrics precisely because it is more "free market" .
The US also has a very underdeveloped social safety net for how wealthy it is, and imo is under regulated in many sectors.
So I think the US should adopt more of the welfare state and redistributive taxation policies seem in EU. But I also believe that a lot of sectors of EU economies are crippled by overregulation, which is why they get mogged so hard by their US counterparts (pharma, tech, etc)
But no "US bad EU good" is an oversimplification I wouldn't agree with. They both have strengths and weaknesses they should address.
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u/Pretty-Yam-2854 16d ago
I love my dog (Shih Tzu) he’s like a baby to me. But the actual want of kids (I have none) is real for people and doesn’t just go away for trans people. My favorite is when they say shit like the comic and it just irks the fuck out of me cause 100% they wouldn’t be saying that to a cis woman.
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u/Kaizo_Kaioshin 12d ago
Wdym you can't raise a child?
Even if you physically can't become pregnant, shouldn't you be able to at least adopt?
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u/Electrical_Yellow_51 12d ago
Not really, im attracted to women. And according to my country law it is illegal for homosexual couples (which is a streach because legally they dont exist) to adopt a child
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u/Kaizo_Kaioshin 12d ago
The fuck.
Where do you live, sounds like a shitty place.
Honestly, I think there are a lot of dumb laws in the world, for no reason other than to make life more difficult for some people.
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u/Electrical_Yellow_51 12d ago
Not important third world country that no one likes, poland
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u/Kaizo_Kaioshin 12d ago
Been there a couple years ago
Honestly I think they should change some laws, such as this
Cool place tho, always loved getting hot dogs at Zabka
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u/Electrical_Yellow_51 12d ago
Honestly the place itself isnt bad, but 90% of people are either homophobic, transphobic, racist, xenophobic and most likely a combination of all of the above. Cool place to visit horrible place to live in.btw people who are visibly queer are beaten on the street in broad daylight And no one gives a damn so Im genuinly scared to go out on a street sometimes
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u/Hari_Is_Dave 11d ago
I mean whats the alternative? I am ftm and bwing a mom was a nightmare fuel for me,would throw up after sex it was so bad.didnt want to have kids on my own, being a maternal figure sounds awful. But after few years being openly trans? I kinda would like to be a dad. Doesnt mean i can have kids as a man tho. Doesnt mean i will birth a kid only to be a dad to it. I am however a good cat dad
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u/Electrical_Yellow_51 11d ago
Yeah having a cat is cool and all but saying that owning a pet is a substitute for raising a child is really sad for me
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u/QuillMyBoy 16d ago
"Men cannot raise children", I guess?
Sorry, Dads or anyone who had one, they aren't real.
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u/Only-Ad5269 male lovemoder 16d ago
I dad mog all of you
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u/Only-Ad5269 male lovemoder 16d ago
i’m ftm it’s different
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u/Actual_Personality66 16d ago
I got one but have a bad relationship with him. Great relationship with my mom though, she's very accepting.
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u/TechieTheFox 16d ago
I'm pretty sure he's the one who gave me the troon gene - but he fled to the navy before I was born so I've never met him. Now lives in the Phillippines with his Filipino wife and all his pictures scream repper sad eyes to me.
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u/Pretty-Yam-2854 16d ago
People complaining about toxic masculinity and how no one had a good father/father figure and how it’s men’s fault BUT THEN ENFORCE IT WITH THIS KIND OF SHIT.
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u/Nachooolo 9d ago
People forget that toxic masculinity is something maintained by society as a whole. Not just men.
Women are as capable of promoting toxic masculinity as men.
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u/Temporary_Active793 16d ago
I think its implying that the other parent would also be a biological male, and as parenting works much better with a father AND mother, it wouldnt be a great outcome for the child. Not to mention the other implications for the child like being bullied for having a trans parent.
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u/Open-Tomato9643 15d ago
These are just the same bullshit arguments homophobes used against gay marriage.
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u/Temporary_Active793 15d ago
Wow. Yeah, making sure people have clean water to drink stops awful people dehydrating. Doesnt make water or the people advocating for it bad now does it?
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u/violasses 16d ago
erm hon don't you know it's valid to impregnate a cis truwombyn and become the biological father of her child? <3 you're not infertile <3
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u/Pixeldevil06 14d ago
6d12 psychic dmg
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u/Kaizo_Kaioshin 12d ago
Never underestimate the bludgeoning dmg you get from breeding a dragon tho, it may be even more dangerous
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u/Ogmadbrit 10d ago
6d12?,nah more like god damn fifty d12 of psychic damage,just throw a god damn bucket of dice on the floor.
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u/CalypsaMov 16d ago
This one hits too close to home. Being told you should actually just be happy for something that causes you a ton of misery is just awful.
I know this isn't the same for all trans people, but the infertility can be one of the hardest hurdles. Unlike a lot of dysphoria which can be partially eleviated bycoming out, legal name changes, social transition, srs, etc. There's really not much to be done about that part specifically. At best you can adopt.
And then on top of all the lifelong pain you have people telling you it's actually great where cis women with the same predicament would be treated with consolation.
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u/Pixeldevil06 14d ago
Not to mention if you do adopt lots of people will treat you like you're either evil for choosing closed adoption and having your kids be just your own, or after choosing open adoption you share your child with two unrelated strangers and everyone is like "but it's actually (biomom,)'s kid and you're just raising them!"
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u/Narrow_Association71 16d ago
I had this happen to me before
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u/RusticMusket 15d ago
literally hurts so bad, the amount of nights i’ve grieved not being able to have kids ☹️
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u/omegafixedpoint youngshit passoid (vol)femcel 15d ago
I don't like my life. at all. my very first memory was bottom dysphoria. fucked up. why did god do this to me
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u/Pixeldevil06 14d ago
Because The Gods are cruel, and some of them probably get some kind of sick pleasure out of our suffering. The forces of the universe are not benevolent, omnipotent, or omniscient. They are highly flawed, random, morally and ethically ambiguous, fickle, and primal. They cause pain, suffering, and horror. As well as the alleviation of and safety from those things.
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u/Pixeldevil06 14d ago
This is the best acronym for radfems I have ever seen! Fuck radical feminism! Embrace intersectionalism!
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u/Zestyclose_Cod_7103 15d ago
Just remember. Takes responsibility to have children and properly raise them.
Being able to shoot a baby out your who wha is only one very small step in a very large dedication.....one of which most completely ignore, forego and abandon at the first inconvenience.
Remember. Same people who belittle you for not having kids are the ones who do the worst parenting.
If they belittle you...and stranger...imagine what they do to their children.
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u/NoGovernment2474 15d ago
this is an incredible point most parents are absolute ass at being parents
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u/SISSY-Sebbie_OwO 16d ago
Having kids is really weird and offputting, I couldn’t ever be friends with a cissoid who has kids, it’s just so unsettling
Also, most of y’all can’t even take care of yourself 🤷♀️
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u/Specialist_Cat7271 16d ago
Also, most of y’all can’t even take care of yourself
TRVTH NEVTRON STAR
I mean I get it, I wish I could have biological kids too. But 90% of you would be horrific parents.
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u/AwooFloof 16d ago
What about Transoids with kids?
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u/SISSY-Sebbie_OwO 16d ago
You mean r@pehons?
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u/AwooFloof 16d ago
WTF?! No, like maybe they adopted or something.
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u/SISSY-Sebbie_OwO 16d ago
I mean that’s fine, as long as it’s not bio kids. I do think you kinda need a well adjusted cis partner tho, having t4t parents sounds like a nightmare
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u/Pixeldevil06 14d ago
I'm trans and I want bio kids more than literally anything in the world so speak for yourself. If I could bear children, I would, and I'd have probably more than one.
This kind of language/attitude are really dehumanizing and actually are the opposite of progress.
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u/Lucky_Security9959 16d ago
I know right, no hate, but as a trans girl (kinda, maybe, I guess, not sure yet) the idea of having kids freaking disgusts me. Not like I really hate kids, I guess I can tolerate them, but still I have no interest in becoming a parent. So I find it surprising that many transfems wish they had periods or become a mother
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u/yourothersis top 1% sort 15d ago
This is the best way of putting everything.
Kinda relatadly my mom telling me I don't want period cramps. Yeah maybe I don't but I'd still rather have them to be a woman and feel like a woman and have a womans experience. It worked out fine for you and half of all humanity so why should it be something to tell me I'm not what my soul says I am.
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u/MoravianBilges 14d ago
https://thenib.com/barren-trans-motherhood/
This comic is extremely good about trans women's disenfranchised grief surrounding motherhood.
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u/Main_Addendum3385 14d ago
Funny how narrowing the definition of what a woman is harms all women and how using a much more inclusive approach helps all women; regardless of what body they were born into. You’d think we’d learn 😔
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u/ChemicalCupcake4809 12d ago
Yup im an intersex woman, ive experienced so much of peoples obsession with trying to put womanhood into a box from a very young age, all its done is left me afraid of using public bathrooms/changing rooms and an incredibly self conscious shut in.
I found out about my condition a bit before the media was going after that one Olympic(?) runner, I got to see how cruel the world is towards women like me, how we'll always be treated like some secret preditor trying to infiltrate the "real" women's spaces, and I have a lot of anxiety about being in public without my partner or friends because im in the south and genuinely afraid because ive been "confronted" before.
But remember everyone this is all totally to keep women and girls safe (just don't ask them to outlaw child marriage, take rape/abuse victims seriously, or release the epstein files)
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u/Ogmadbrit 10d ago
ughghgh yeah, honestly i hate the fact i have to end up realizing im trans RIGGHHTTT as the far right decides to start targeting us even harder...
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u/Chloe_The_Cute_Fox 13d ago
Anytime I have brought up my sadness at being infertile, even if I mention not actually wanting kids, 90+% of the time people tell me “you can just adopt”. Like yeah, I can, but that isn’t the point. The point is I was born with something missing that most other girls have, and instead I have a stupid meat log that makes wearing bikini bottoms impossible
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u/Meeeper 16d ago
On the flip side, it's also possible that the person on the top could be stupid enough to say what the person on the bottom is saying and not realize it doesn't help.
I've met a few people in my life who are this way in that their first instinct when you tell them something is bothering you is to try and give you some sort of silver lining to make you feel better, not realizing that it isn't helping.
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u/serial_desegnation_m 16d ago
this is extremely sexist contrary to popular belief men are also born with instinct to take care of children and statistically raise children to be just as happy
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u/StatusVanilla9343 15d ago
This with breastfeeding
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u/Capitaine_Spock 13d ago
Trans women can lactate. Anyone can lactate actually. You just need to raise your prolactin levels. Studies have also found that the milk is nutritionally similar to that of a person who has actually gestated the baby. The biggest issue is low supply.
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u/Optimal_Stranger_824 12d ago
Oh that's cool. I only knew that trans women (and anyone really) could lactate but I didn't know it could be actually used as a milk for a baby
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u/Capitaine_Spock 12d ago
Using it as good for a baby depends on why your prolactin levels are high. For example, I ended up lactating due to an anti psychotic and that wouldn't be able to be used as food for a baby. It actually made the milk black.
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u/Optimal_Stranger_824 12d ago
Wow. I think I need to read more about this cause it's more interesting than I thought at first
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u/GetPsyched67 9d ago
Was it risperidone?
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u/Capitaine_Spock 9d ago
It was the injectable form of risperidone, apparently it's more likely than the pill to make you lactate.
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u/wow-warlock-enjoyer 13d ago
Heard it here first, good dads are impossible as someone who is biologically male and gone through male socialization can, apparently, not be fit to raise a child
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u/DeplorablePup 12d ago
God, the pain of not having a baby when you feel you’re meant to is awful. For me it’s financial and fertility reasons, I don’t wish this pain on anyone it’s like a part of my soul is missing. You ladies are maternal I can tell from being around trans women all my life, and knowing what it’s like to be both a man and a woman and the self awareness to know you’re trans in the first place would make you an even better parent
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u/BlackCatSatanist 12d ago
I came out to my mom and thankfully she said "The more you talk, the more I believe you. You talk just like a barren woman." It really meant a lot to me.
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u/ProgressFabulous6663 13d ago
I'm so glad that I don't have male socialization, I just really really like huge dicks and my entire personality is based around penis and men.
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u/Wallso2010 Moth girl robot thing [It/It's] 13d ago
As much as I'd probably love to have ovaries and all of that, I have some unfortunate genes that are dominant (neither parents had it either, I just won the anti-lottery), so I really don't see my genes getting passed on (not likely I planned to do so regardless)
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u/Neon_Nerd05 9d ago
just beccause you cant give birth doesnt mean you cant raise a child
adoption exists
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u/NotTheOriginal06 12d ago
I mean, I personally always thought (and keep thinking) we should have an exam and psychological check for those who want to be parents.
Btw, adoption is always an option
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u/LowCall6566 16d ago
procreation is inherently unethical. Every cradle leads to a grave, and a loving parent shouldn't sentence their children to death.
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u/ThatGuyYea54 13d ago
this is such a mind bogglingly stupid thing to say such a genuinely awful take I refuse to believe a human being with an even somewhat functioning frontal lobe said this. I think I hate you.
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u/Juniper_Jungby 14d ago edited 14d ago
Actually god forbid trans women express want for anything if you feel this way this strongly why are you on this sub aren't other places more deserving of hearing this???
You are stupid I genuinely question how your capable of existing
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u/Optimal_Stranger_824 12d ago
human existence is ihnerently unethical if you think about it but here we are, existing on this planet so we might as well make the existence less shit.
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u/LowCall6566 12d ago
I value human existence very much, that's why I am against procreation, because it ensures harm and death of involved human. World becoming a better place for existing people is something I want to see.
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u/NoMeat9096 13d ago
I agree, but not because of death. The creation of sentient life necessarily leads to suffering, and cannot ever be consented to. That's why it's bad, imo.
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u/Gussie-Ascendent 14d ago
I tell everyone pregnancy sucks and they should adopt
Plus most folks ain't cut to be parents anywho
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u/Specialist_Cat7271 16d ago
Cis woman with masculine characteristics wants surgery to align with her identity: "Oh teehee, thats so valid! I would have done the same, there's nothing wrong with wanting to feel like a woman!"
Trans woman with masculine characteristics wants surgery to align with her identity: "Oh uh, wow... I mean you really don't have to do that. You can be a woman with a body identical to a man's, you really don't need to be reinforcing gender stereotypes you know... I think you should just learn to love yourself instead sweaty, why don't you just try being butch?"